He asked if he could video me?

[koolio]

Been seeing a man for the past couple of months, we are exclusive as in not seeing or sleeping with other people. Last night he came over and we had a few drinks, I drank a bit more than I should so admit I was a bit drunk.

Anyways, I was giving him oral and he said 'can I video you?' Instead of just saying 'no' I hit the roof. I pushed him away and said he had no respect for me to suggest that and that I would like him to leave my house. He never left and we went to bed and woke up with headaches this morning.

I've apologised for my complete overreaction (was it though?) and he has reassured me it's fine and he shouldn't have asked but he's left and I just feel dread that I've ruined everything. I really like this guy and can see it going somewhere.

So two questions -

AIBU to react the way I did? And if so, do you think I've ruined it?

These days Im a cynical old Hector and would have to ask how many other girlfriends he has filmed, and what did he do with the videos once they broke up?
And then I would do a Clare's Law request. And also never ever ever have sex or a shower at his place just in case there were hidden recording devices.
But this is because Im old and no longer give a flying whatever about men's 'needs' or erections

I don’t think he was wrong, perverted or disgusting to ask and I do think you overreacted rather than just saying no. Same way an ex in the distant past asked me if I wanted to try anal and I said no.

Only thing is if he then pushed it or did it without your consent…