Everyone got a secret santa apart from me

[nic1079]

So we did a secret santa at work between 10 of us and everybody got their presents yesterday except me.
I've let the organiser know and a message has been put on the group so everyone can see stating that one person is missing their present and for whoever hasn't brought it to bring it in Monday. I am not happy! The person who got me has clearly taken their present with no after thought to the person who they were supposed to buy for and no mention to the organiser that they'd forgotten it etc.
What would you do if the present doesn't appear Monday? I've got a good mind to start the spanish inquisition.

Erm, I’d chill? Someone forgot to buy you a candle and/or your candle for lost.

If you make a fuss people will think you’re a pain in the arse.

I would leave it. However, I wouldn't contribute next year.

It looks grabby to go looking for it.

That's what I thought but the organiser wasn't happy.

How is it grabby to go looking for it but not grabby to take a gift but not give one?

Usually when this happens the group get chatting and the individual gets outed. Just sit back and let it happen.

I just felt really awkward standing there when everyone got theirs that's all.

SS gifts are usually thoughtless tat so I couldn't work myself up about missing out.

It will forgotten about if you don’t say anything. I would be thankful I didn’t have to dispose of whatever thoughtless ( because if they didn’t bring it in, it will be tat out the local garage) thing they had bought, and remember not to partake next year.

That's shit and leaving it is why these cheeky twats get away with it. If i was the organiser id ask everyone who they had to buy for.

I’d feel gutted too OP, it’s a dick move to agree to participate in secret Santa and then not bother. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed though. It’s the person who didn’t get you a gift who should feel bad. If I was the organiser/manager I’d be cross too.

The organiser will know who should have bought something for you. Can you narrow it down anyway? Did people say if they'd bought a particular gift?

Awwwwhhh this happened to me once. I was relatively new in the company. I put on a good front of being friendly so I was becoming weary of enthusing over other people's gifts. They were all pretty tight too as a group and and the presents all seemed to carry some personal meaning. I was quite intrigued to see what had been bought for me. Nothing appeared. Finally all the gifts were distributed and I squeaked "where's mine?" then louder so I'd be heard in all the bonhomie. It turned out my secret Santa was off sick so I got their gift.

Even though it was an unavoidable mistake I've always avoided secret Santa since.

It’s my DH. He just remembered today that he didn’t do the secret Santa, wasn’t in the office that day. DD’s have shamed him.

Well it's rubbish, but just possibly the person had forgotten to bring it, was embarrassed so didn't mention it. May not have been a lazy/don't care thing.
Hopefully all sorted soon, it's a shame as this kind of thing makes secret Santas awkward.
But I wouldn't jump to anger, I'd let the organiser champion it for you since they do seem to care.

I know it's not any really to worry about but it did get to me a bit especially when they are all writing on the group chat oh thanks secret santa I love my gift. I admit I was a bit childish and wrote on there I would says thanks but I haven't got one!

Did people commiserate with you when you posted that?

Its not a nice position to be in - but surely the organizer should know who got who and take it up with that person. To be fair, I was off sick at our works do, but called the manager and she had a back up for the person I was supposed to be giving to.

Of this is work then the organiser should have had a list of who got who and chased it.

Very poor work performance if they didn't give any heads up to the organisers in advance that gift was delayed etc

It was done by an app and everyone could put their wish lists etc up to a agreed amount.

I got a couple of sad faces

Oh no, the same thing happened to me this week! Turned out the person who'd bought for me was on parental leave and they brought my gift along to the works do last night. It was really awkward and a bit upsetting at the time though.

This is the kind of post that makes this site shit.

The op participated in good faith and it's completely understandable to feel deflated when someone couldn't be bothered to buy a present but happily accepted one.

Oh OP that is rubbish! It's an awkward situation too - this happened at my workplace one year and it turned out there had been an uneven number of names and the organiser hadn't realised!!! Oops!
Hopefully santa comes on Monday and there's been a genuine mix up somewhere. I'd like to think people wouldn't intentionally enter a secret santa then not bother with their end of the bargain.