Everyone got a secret santa apart from me

[nic1079]

So we did a secret santa at work between 10 of us and everybody got their presents yesterday except me.
I've let the organiser know and a message has been put on the group so everyone can see stating that one person is missing their present and for whoever hasn't brought it to bring it in Monday. I am not happy! The person who got me has clearly taken their present with no after thought to the person who they were supposed to buy for and no mention to the organiser that they'd forgotten it etc.
What would you do if the present doesn't appear Monday? I've got a good mind to start the spanish inquisition.

We don’t do them at work anymore since Covid led to everyone working from home, but we used to. The same thing happened to me two years in a row OP, so I declined to take part in Secret Santa at work anymore.

I remember one year we all sat around a table while everyone took turns showing what they got. I was embarrassed to say I was the only one without anything. That year, I knew my bitch of a boss had gotten me and purposely did it out of spite. I got on great with the rest of the team so I think the other time they’d genuinely forgotten because it’s not important to them.

It’s meant to be a bit of silly fun but some people ruin it. I wouldn’t make any further comments as they all know you’re unhappy. Just say no thanks to joining in next year.

You do realise sometimes people have a lot of shit going on in their lives and sometimes balls get dropped.

Why did they not just ban him from taking part?

Don't start the Spanish Inquisition. No one expects that.

I once organised secret Santa for about 70 people. I didn’t take part as I kept a list of who had pulled who’s name out of the hat and then ticked off if they had delivered the gift to me ( I was storing them all) and followed up with reminders if they hadn’t met the deadline.

Every gift got given and delivered - I dragged them over in two lots in my large suitcase to the Xmas tree where secret Santa was taking place and nearly everyone got their gift - one person suddenly came up and said they hadn’t got theirs and I couldn’t understand it as I had checked the list and counted the presents until I rummaged in my suitcase and found a teeny tiny package stuck in a corner- never been so relieved to give it to her.

It was a bit oTT with the military organisation but I did it because I didn’t want anyone to feel disappointed by not getting their gift and I sort of enjoyed it. Plus I’ve also come to learn there will always be people who forget or flake out even if they sign up for something.

I worked in a school and all the kids were very curious about these gifts that started turning up every day for 2 weeks stuffed behind my desk😂 I’d never do it again though!

I’d be gutted OP. I missed our Secret Santa exchange this week because of a last minute family crisis soo sent the recipient an Amazon voucher and a promise to bring her physical gift when I’m next in the office. It’s really not ok to accept a gift but not contribute.

We all drop the ball sometimes but in that case surely the person would apologise profusely or even hand over the present they had received. Not walk off with a gift without a word, knowing they hadn't bought one.

I'm not going to lie I would have been fucking fuming .... It's actually really rude and ignorant for someone to be left out like this, and the person who organises Secret Santa should have made sure every single person had a gift before they were all dished out. It's really nasty for one person to be left out like that.

This actually happened to my brother about 5 or 6 years ago ... There were 16 people in his workplace, and they were all in for the last two or three days of work leading up to Christmas Eve when they broke up ...

The colleague that was supposed to buy him a gift didn't buy him anything, and he was the ONLY one with nothing ... I was actually really fuming for him, and particularly annoyed that the manager who organised it didn't check to make sure everybody had got something. Even if she had bought a fucking £1.99 selection box with money from petty cash - that would have done. He was the only one with nothing. He was really hurt.

Needless to say, he has never ever taken part in it since. It's actually really hurtful - and I can't believe some people are minimising it.

Are you the CF?

You do realise sometimes people have a lot of shit going on in their lives and sometimes balls get dropped.

Not so much shit going on that the person was unable to turn up and collect their own present.

That's so rubbish. Hopefully the organiser will chase this up and you'll get an explanation/apology!

It was always male colleagues... There where very few men in the group but none ever put effort in where as the girls put LOADS of effort into secret santa.

Once on the way into the party one of the guys got in the lift and I jokingly said 'you didn't forget your secret Santa did you?' and he yelled 'shit', hopped out the lift as soon as it stopped and bolted down the stairs. He came into the party 15 minutes later sweating bullets and handed a girl a toblerone wrapped (without sellotape, just folded in a scrunched ball really) in a sheet of the local free newspaper.

Think its safe to say he had completely forgotten, I'm impressed he found a shop open at 9pm to buy something and I suppose he at least tried even if it was the 0 hour but not the most thoughtful gift ever.

Our boss was too nice and would buy a spare present incase anyone forgot theirs (even though they had weeks to get one), which was specifically for him.

He took the piss in other ways and the boss had to put pressure on him and he ended up leaving thankfully.

Eh why would it? It's a random group not couples swapping.

People are right TIGHT BASTARDS OP.

I spent 20 quid one year on someone's secret Santa gift and got given some total and absolute shit back.

Ive never gone in on a secret Santa since.

What are you on about?

Not really, say you have 5 people Amanda, Paul, Sarah, Tom & Carol

Amanda gets Tom
Tom gets Sarah
Sarah gets Paul
Paul gets Amanda
Carol ended up with her own name.

That makes sense thanks! This is why it’s so much better when the organiser actually organises it and takes note of who has who, they could have called a new names back and redrawn it.

Can understand how you feel it is embarrassing and then you begin to think is it personal.

That’s so shit.

Apparently this happened in my office last year. So this year one of the managers has a spreadsheet and we all had to pick a name out of a hat and then show him the name. He’d then write on the spreadsheet who got who so that we could avoid this happening.

We were all given a choice on whether we wanted to partake or not so it’d be disappointing to not receive anything. I’d be annoyed too!

In the spirit of sharing shit secret santas, my boss has openly admitted to not putting two names into the hat to be pulled, and done so on the works WhatsApp group. Non of the others wanted to redraw the secret Santa, so two of us know exactly who has brought (or hasn’t) brought each others present.
I’m one of them.
The boss has now said everyone will swap gifts at the Xmas lunch… at the table, not handed to her previously so at least the rest do not know who drew who.
Not so secret Santa!

First and last time for me.

@AnotherDayAnotherDoller You don’t need even numbers to make it work. It’s more of a round robin.

I’d try to use it as an excuse to kill secret Santa. It does seem as though some people actually enjoy the thing though so it might not work.

At the time I’d have laughed it off, and said loudly ok who is the tight arse who didn’t buy a gift but took one. Hands up anmd drop it on my desk Monday …and then watched rhe faces.

but I’d be worried someone did it on purpose to embarrass in the moment, as they didn’t like me. Hopefully it turns up Monday.

THIS is what should happen.