Everyone got a secret santa apart from me

[nic1079]

So we did a secret santa at work between 10 of us and everybody got their presents yesterday except me.
I've let the organiser know and a message has been put on the group so everyone can see stating that one person is missing their present and for whoever hasn't brought it to bring it in Monday. I am not happy! The person who got me has clearly taken their present with no after thought to the person who they were supposed to buy for and no mention to the organiser that they'd forgotten it etc.
What would you do if the present doesn't appear Monday? I've got a good mind to start the spanish inquisition.

If you participate in a work secret Santa you sort of have to see it in a work context - ie do what you've said you'll do and treat your colleagues with respect. If I did this sort of thing in my team (I don't) I'd take a pretty dim view of anyone who participated to receive a gift but didn't bother to buy one tbh. The gift is likely to be shit anyway but I bet it didn't feel good OP.

i agree to an extent but I’m one of those people who sees everything from all angles.
Maybe they weren’t confident enough to speak up? Who knows but the situation is definitely unpleasant

Yes I take your point😀

But so horrible to be left out

Just don't bother next year, treat yourself to something instead! 🤣

Op - did yours turn up?

Mine did, I’m also at a school so it was waiting for me on our first day back.

This happened to me in an old friendship group. Everyone got together especially to exchange gifts. I sat with nothing and the person told me they'd forgotten to bring mine. Made a point of asking my address and when I'd be in, etc. to deliver it before Christmas... 11 years and various house moves later I don't think it's coming. 😂 The year before I received a random gift very obviously less than half the amount everyone had agreed to spend, so I stopped doing them after that.

....very obviously less than half the amount everyone had agreed to spend,

In every SS I've taken part in, it's agreed that no-one will spend more than £10, or whatever, not that everyone agrees to spend £10. People are free to spend less. The point of the limit is not to make people feel uncomfortable if they can't afford to spend much.

I only spent half the limit for the SS I took part in this year. But it wasn't a crap gift, and the person who received it was very pleased with it.

I would always spend around the price I was asked to

That was one reason I disliked that one, it was agreed that £20 must be spent. Partly what put me off Secret Santas, one I was given the opportunity to join last year was a £50 spend!
I'd much prefer ones with a £5 max spend or that it has to be something from a charity shop.

I’ve given up on secret Santa’s over past few years due to receiving gifts that were; boring (gift voucher! 😬), stinky (disgusting hand cream), boring & cheap (a bottle of red wine costing 1/2 the £10 minimum agreed budget), which left me feeling a bit hurt that a bit more effort wasn’t made by my Santa 🧑‍🎄 , so I’ve decided enough is enough, if I can make the effort to choose a thoughtful gift for my recipient why should I be fobbed off with a lazy/thoughtless Santa? So i politely decline joining in now to spare myself the insult.

I've just remembered one secret Santa incident that genuinely upset me.

We were a small company, a startup and all relatively close. There were two or these subgroups. We were planning secret Santa and I suggested as part of it you make a card. Everyone agreed. It was lots of fun. I went all out as I knew the recipient well, wrote a lengthy poem and drew a picture but most people did nothing like that - they printed a photo off the internet that had a joke reference and stuck it to the gift.

I remember genuinely feeling excited about my card. It might seem silly but everyone was having such a laugh.

I got handed a candle or something completely generic with no card by a woman that admittedly I hadn't spent much time with but we had friends in common and it would have been so easy for her to stick a photo of an animal I liked or band or something. She snapped at me "you know some of us have work to do, we're not all playing around drawing". Literally everyone including the two owners had made cards that afternoon, we were going on our Christmas party that day and had effectively closed our sales quarter.

I never warmed to her after that. Even if she'd said "look I'm sorry but I'm rubbish at this sort of stuff but I got you a present" I would have felt differently but she was so sarcastic and sharp with me.