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Holiday tomorrow - I really don't want to go!

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QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 06:39

Don't have any choice unfortunately but I really don't want to go! Sister booked a Haven break for her two boys, her and me.

I woke up yesterday with the worst cold I've had in ages - I won't go into details but I feel properly crap. Not covid as far as I can tell but I'm a snotty, sore throated mess right now.

I've just seen the caravan we've been given and it's fucking miles from anything, surrounded by fields (which I know for a fact my sister is going to hate!) it means we're going to have to use the car for everything, and I'm not thrilled by that because sis can't physically drive atm so it'll all be on me. I honestly looked at the location and felt like crying 😭

Honestly I just want to stay at home but we're locked in at this point and if I don't go, no one will be able to go. ☹️

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QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 06:44

Pic to show general location! Looking at maps I don't even think there's a path from where we are to a more central bit of the park ☹️

Holiday tomorrow - I really don't want to go!
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PicaK · 22/10/2023 06:45

It could be covid - it's doing the rounds again. Although a lot of people have said it feels like a cold but without the snot.
If you're ill and can't get out of bed don't go.
Or delay a day. There seems to be a lot to do in half term this year to keep them entertained.

kingkongs · 22/10/2023 06:50

Hasn't your sister got any friend who would fancy a free holiday in return for driving her? Even one of the school mums maybe? I'd definitely suggest it!

AhBiscuits · 22/10/2023 06:51

I assume where it says Spotlight is the central complex.
It doesn't look far, I reckon a 15 minute walk at most.

reallyworriedjobhunter · 22/10/2023 06:54

Can the kids take scooters to help get around?

Lochness1975 · 22/10/2023 06:55

I feel for you. I had it recently and it floored me. Good suggestion from
PP- could you see if a mum from school wants the place?

CheshireDing · 22/10/2023 06:57

It’s not far and there’s clearly a path

just dose yourself up with strepsils, honey and hot water etc, and double check if the pool needs to still be booked in advance (it did just after covid)

sorr throats etc and going round at the minute so I do feel for you

dawnc27 · 22/10/2023 06:58

is that haggerston? if so yes you will prob need car if you have mobility probs. the main complex bit is near the big lake area. i think the spotlight is a pop up tempory showbar that was used in peak season so may not be open now

Dontknowmusic · 22/10/2023 06:59

Can you go a couple of days late?

MaverickSnoopy · 22/10/2023 07:06

Talk to your sister. She might be able to find someone else to replace you. Or go a day later. I fell ill while on holiday earlier this year and it was me doing everything and tbh the adrenaline got me through. Stock up on pharmacy supplies and tell your sister that you'll need to use it as a chance to rest. You either get takeaway or she cooks. Be very blunt that if you're going you'll need to take it easy. If you're anything like me, a simple cold if I don't rest turns into bronchitis.

PurBal · 22/10/2023 07:07

Sorry to hear you’re unwell but I think that might be clouding things for you. No doubt you’ll be feeling better soon. The park isn’t very big, I just looked on OS maps, and it’s a max 20 minute walk to anywhere. Hope you feel better soon.

embolass · 22/10/2023 07:08

Go a few days later when your over the worst? Horrible not being in own home when feeling rotten, so if it was me I’d def be staying put just now. Anyone able to drive them all there, and you follow in a day or so?

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QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 07:10

I'm not sure if arriving late is an option and we've got stuff booked for Tue.

It's about 20 min walk, at least as far as I can tell, because you can't cut across areas - there's hedges lining the roads and no direct path.

Sister won't even consider asking a school mum - I know that without even asking her.

Genuinely feel so absolutely rubbish. I just want to stay at home but I know saying that will cause so much trouble 😕😕 And of course it would mean losing all the money that's been paid. Can't believe how bad timing I've had in getting ill!

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QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 07:11

All of you saying "it's only a 20 min walk!" honestly getting to the bathroom which is about ten steps from my bed feels like a journey atm! ☹️

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Finestreason · 22/10/2023 07:15

I don’t think you are being unreasonable to want to stay home and rest. Going on holiday out of obligation, responsibility, and when you are sick isn’t really very enjoyable and sounds more like work than a holiday. Especially since you are lumbered with driving as well as the fact that if you cancel no one can go. Not very relaxing circumstances to holiday under!

embolass · 22/10/2023 07:17

OP if you do go, the chances of you then passing it to everyone else are v high in a caravan 😬

cuckyplunt · 22/10/2023 07:17

Lots of rest, fluids and Paracetamol today and then big girl pants on. Chances are that you’ll be fine once you get there.

Fernandosseat514 · 22/10/2023 07:18

How far is the drive from where you all live?

Are you well enough to be the designated driver when you are so unwell? It might be more sensible to delay or claim insurance if you are really feeling rotten.

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QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 07:19

embolass · 22/10/2023 07:17

OP if you do go, the chances of you then passing it to everyone else are v high in a caravan 😬

They've all just had it which is where I've caught it from! ☹️

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Ifallelsefailschocolate · 22/10/2023 07:19

Tell your sister you really don’t want her and her kids to be as unwell as you are and she needs to rethink asking a friend/ relative to join them

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QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 07:21

Fernandosseat514 · 22/10/2023 07:18

How far is the drive from where you all live?

Are you well enough to be the designated driver when you are so unwell? It might be more sensible to delay or claim insurance if you are really feeling rotten.

AFAIK she didn't take the insurance. I don't think delaying is an option either - there's stuff booked and I don't think they refund!

It's about 90 miles or two hours.

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embolass · 22/10/2023 07:22

Now that is Sod’s Law you caught it last from them

Fernandosseat514 · 22/10/2023 07:24

QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 07:11

All of you saying "it's only a 20 min walk!" honestly getting to the bathroom which is about ten steps from my bed feels like a journey atm! ☹️

That sounds more like flu or Covid than a cold tbh if you have overall weakness.

And bluntly you should not be driving children around if you are finding walking to the bathroom challenging.

I think with even a bad cold, your head feels bunged up, and your body can ache all over, but walking to the bathroom shouldn’t be an issue.

You can’t help being ill op. You didn’t do this on purpose. I would let your sister know asap that you have to bow out. Better that than having a car accident or you all getting Covid in a caravan!

Parakeetamol · 22/10/2023 07:24

I'd phone haven and ask for a nearer caravan. Might be worth a try.

Warum · 22/10/2023 07:24

Maybe I'm a rubbish sister, but I'd be telling the truth - I'm too ill to go on holiday, sorry. It's not like you've just changed your mind. You could feel better tomorrow but you could also feel worse! Rest up and get better.

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