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Holiday tomorrow - I really don't want to go!

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QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 06:39

Don't have any choice unfortunately but I really don't want to go! Sister booked a Haven break for her two boys, her and me.

I woke up yesterday with the worst cold I've had in ages - I won't go into details but I feel properly crap. Not covid as far as I can tell but I'm a snotty, sore throated mess right now.

I've just seen the caravan we've been given and it's fucking miles from anything, surrounded by fields (which I know for a fact my sister is going to hate!) it means we're going to have to use the car for everything, and I'm not thrilled by that because sis can't physically drive atm so it'll all be on me. I honestly looked at the location and felt like crying 😭

Honestly I just want to stay at home but we're locked in at this point and if I don't go, no one will be able to go. ☹️

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Ladyj84 · 22/10/2023 08:42

I doubt it's covid a flu sore throat,coughing,sore joints etc is going around where we are just similar symptoms that's all and unfortunately lasts for 2 weeks. It's floored everyone I know

Fatcat00 · 22/10/2023 08:42

I probably wouldn’t go but I’d offer to drop them off and pick them up. Sounds like my idea of hell even if I was well!

Ifyoulikealotofchocolateonyourbiscuit · 22/10/2023 08:43

I’d try and delay it for a day and then go. It sounds like a shit holiday for you but you won’t need to be the designated driver when you’re there- I’m sure your sister and nephews could manage a 20 min walk. Obviously if you still feel awful after delaying a day then you can’t go- it can’t be helped. I would give your sister the heads up now tho incase your nephews are getting excited and packing

LizzieSiddal · 22/10/2023 08:45

QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 07:11

All of you saying "it's only a 20 min walk!" honestly getting to the bathroom which is about ten steps from my bed feels like a journey atm! ☹️

You shouldn’t be going anywhere if this is how you feel. Do not go and spread it around to your sis and her Dc!

tara66 · 22/10/2023 08:49

Don't go. You are ill. The last think you want is to be stuck in a caravan in middle of no where and weather has turned colder today. How will sister manage if you are completely prostrate?

ijustchangedmyname · 22/10/2023 08:49

Is it CombeHaven, OP? If so, the map makes things look really far apart. We we're near to where you are (assuming it is CombeHaven) and it really wasn't far at all. You just cut across the caravans.

sep135 · 22/10/2023 08:49

Another vote for delaying. If they want to go, they'll have to find an alternative.

My not very mobile 90 year old dad navigated four hours of trains last weekend and, as others have said, assistance is available (and other passengers often offer to help too).

tealcat · 22/10/2023 08:51

LizzieSiddal · 22/10/2023 08:45

You shouldn’t be going anywhere if this is how you feel. Do not go and spread it around to your sis and her Dc!

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The OP says she got it from her sister/ her DC!

I’d dose up and rest today, and try to drive there tomorrow. Once you’re there you can stay in the caravan until better if required. It doesn’t sound like you were keen on the holiday anyway but as you’ve already agreed to it I wouldn’t want to disappoint my sister and her DC.

Calmdown14 · 22/10/2023 08:56

If it's haggerston that's the new part and those caravans are lovely.

It's not exactly slumming it if you can manage the drive there. They are more like little lodges.

You don't need to do much other than travel on Monday so that's 48 hours to feel better.

Dose up with cold and flu tablets and go for a lie down as soon as you arrive.

Your sister will manage the walk to the complex. It's not as far as it looks on that map.

Hopefully by Tuesday you can enjoy it a bit.

MrsSkylerWhite · 22/10/2023 08:58

Stay home and get yourself a Covid test, couple of quid at a pharmacy. This variant’s crap, really wouldn’t want to pass it on. You were going to be away anyway so just stay home till you feel better.

Get well soon 😃

Shinyandnew1 · 22/10/2023 09:00

Does your sister know you are ill, @QuestionableMouse ? What has she said about the holiday?

rainbowstardrops · 22/10/2023 09:00

Oh what a tricky situation! On one hand, I'd say dose yourself up today and just rest completely and hopefully you'll feel brighter tomorrow. I'd hate to let my excited nephews down but if you're too ill then you're too ill!
All you can do is speak to your sister I suppose.

Cinateel · 22/10/2023 09:03

I doubt they will be fully booked///ask them to move you.

MerryMarigold · 22/10/2023 09:04

Head colds can get better quite quickly even if you are exhausted today and tomorrow. You can go in late afternoon. When you are there, you can just rest and your sister can walk her kids to the activities whilst you rest. I'd just focus on getting them there and tell her you nearly didn't go at all, so she should be grateful to be there let alone any other driving on top. She can do all the cooking/cleaning too.

loseweightpleasegod · 22/10/2023 09:04

Don’t they usually have a bus service in the complex?

MissHoollie · 22/10/2023 09:09

If you can't drive you can't go.
Can she not go via public transport.

Ladybrrrd · 22/10/2023 09:12

I'm with the people saying dose up and fight it today and hopefully you'll be alright. You don't have to join in with the excitement straight away. Just let your sister know how you feel.

OhwhyOY · 22/10/2023 09:12

Apparently lateral flow tests are pretty hit and miss with the new variant of COVID so it could well be that even if you're testing negative 😕

Zonder · 22/10/2023 09:13

Can someone else drive them and you go a day late when you feel better (hopefully)?

Cosycover · 22/10/2023 09:13

You have been given a very good caravan. They are the big lodges I'm sure.

Haggerston will let you move closer if you phone them up.

DDivaStar · 22/10/2023 09:14

Oh no thats such rubbish timing. Definitely get your sister to phone and ask to swap to a closer caravan, then should be able to do something if she says she has mobility issues.

If I was you I'd rest up and try to persevere, these things can improve quickly. If you've got a closer caravan you can leave them to it once your all there.

swallowme · 22/10/2023 09:18

Sometimes in life, you just need to put yourself first, even if it might disappoint people. You're ill, and that's that, so don't go. My father had booked a concert of an artist he really liked and asked me to go along with him over a year ago. The day came last Monday and I wasn't well, so I cancelled. I felt a little guilt but I'm just not pushing myself for others anymore.

Sammilouwho · 22/10/2023 09:19

Phone them up. It's a good 20 minute walk.
We were on that lake front over the summer holidays and there were loads of lodges there.

I will say though, if you haven't been before, the bar/arcade/swimming area is tiny for the amount of people, it was extremely squished - not my favourite Haven park.

Xyyxxx · 22/10/2023 09:19

If you're ill, you're ill. Just tell her you can't go. She'll be upset she's got no driver but it can't be helped. Get well soon.

AussieManque · 22/10/2023 09:19

@PlanningTowns if you are going to a gig please wear a mask. You are most likely going to be still contagious.

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