Holiday tomorrow - I really don't want to go!

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Don't have any choice unfortunately but I really don't want to go! Sister booked a Haven break for her two boys, her and me.

I woke up yesterday with the worst cold I've had in ages - I won't go into details but I feel properly crap. Not covid as far as I can tell but I'm a snotty, sore throated mess right now.

I've just seen the caravan we've been given and it's fucking miles from anything, surrounded by fields (which I know for a fact my sister is going to hate!) it means we're going to have to use the car for everything, and I'm not thrilled by that because sis can't physically drive atm so it'll all be on me. I honestly looked at the location and felt like crying 😭

Honestly I just want to stay at home but we're locked in at this point and if I don't go, no one will be able to go. ☹️

But you don't need to walk 20 mins. They can while you rest in the caravan?

Contact the park and ask if there's any possibility of moving closer to amenities. I'm sure they will do their best to help.

<sorry have just read that they have already had it!>

If the holiday is tomorrow (Monday) then I think you'll be feeling a lot better by then, especially if you stock up on medication.

I'm sure your dc are excited and you'll enjoy it when you get there.

I love the look of the caravan location. I'd choose that location. It's certainly not a car journey.

I hope you feel better soon.

Just leaving this here…

AA article on driving with a cold, especially sneezing or coughing.

https://www.theaa.com/driving-advice/safety/driving-with-a-cold

Do a covid test - don’t go if it’s positive. Can use for rebooking maybe
or go early Tues morning.

you’re full of reasons why pp ideas won’t work for you. Instead of dismissing them and being a martyr , perhaps pick up the phone to sister, tell her you’re too ill to go atm and work out back up plan together. M tell her you’ve been worried about letting her down. You can’t help it.

I would just battle through the drive there (presuming you are safe to drive) and then go to bed when I get there and let them get on with it.

Can they get there by other means - train or coach? Then you follow on when you feel a bit better?

If you can drive, get them there and then go to bed. They can walk to the centre, or if driving is possible, then presumably scooting or cycling is also ok?

But going to bed ill in a caravan is a really miserable thing anyway. She just wants to be at home.

I've been doing LFTs. Also bought and did a flu test from tesco yesterday - all clear so far.

I will speak to her but it's a bit early yet! I also know how she is and know exactly how she's going to react ☹️

They’ll all be cross if you cancel but I’d imagine they’d also be more cross if you get there and can’t get out of bed all week if you’re so ill and they’re stuck without driver etc.

It's five hours by public transport and God knows how much money 😬 sis has an injury atm and I honestly don't know if she'd manage public transport physically.

I think they're referring to the fact that it's only a 20 minute walk for your sister and her children.

If your sister is going to react like that then I'd suggest making it her choice.

I'm really not well and at the moment I can't even walk to the bathroom. I'm worried I won't be able to safely drive tomorrow. I've been trying to work out how to make the holiday happen. We could go later? Or if I can get us there, you hold the fort with the kids while I rest. The last thing i want to do is cancel, I'd be gutted if we couldn't go. What do you want to do?

Or something along those lines.

You're also ill though. Please ignore all those trying to guilt you into taking her.

Tested for both, negative so far! I have a chronic illness so unfortunately a bad cold can totally flatten me. Not coughing atm, it's very much a head cold, just one with absolutely rubbish timing 😬☹️ I don't feel like I'd be unsafe driving, but if I feel worse we'll figure something out.

And of course I'll test again today

Perhaps you could go and then hibernate in your room for a couple of days. Hopefully, you can manage to drive there. Your sister and kids would just have to manage without you for a few days (or even look after you, if they’ve given you their colds to start with!) .

How old are the kids?

Does the OP even have any children?

Honestly, a caravan holiday in the middle of nowhere in October with someone else’s kids when you don’t have kids of your own and everyone is entirely dependent on you to chauffeur them everywhere sounds a dreadful idea! Let alone adding the illness into the mix!

No don’t go. You are too ill. Have you tested yourself? There’s just no point forcing this. Ring sister, say you are too ill and let her decide how she wants to proceed

Give your sister as much warning as you can to get a contingency plan in place, whether that's phoning Haven to change caravans or asking someone else to give her a lift. just don't leave it as an unknown, then you can stop worrying about it and focus on getting better.

As an aside if either of you were planning on using the sofa bed I wouldn't I took DD and her friends to Haven and unrolled the sofa bed to find it was foam that was just an inch thick and ended up sleeping on the sofa, would have been a nightmare if two people were going to share

Stock up on Day nurse and night nurse tablets op. Once you are there drop them all at their activity and head back to the caravan for a few hours of peace and quiet. Take a book and just chill. You don't have to do all the activities with them if you feel crap. Just tell your ds that she's lucky you've gone at all to provide transport.

Well, that’s a different issue, presumably the OP agreed to it!

No one is saying you need to walk, you can go to bed. Your sister can walk with the kids. It’s probably Covid, lots of cases at the moment.