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Holiday tomorrow - I really don't want to go!

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QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 06:39

Don't have any choice unfortunately but I really don't want to go! Sister booked a Haven break for her two boys, her and me.

I woke up yesterday with the worst cold I've had in ages - I won't go into details but I feel properly crap. Not covid as far as I can tell but I'm a snotty, sore throated mess right now.

I've just seen the caravan we've been given and it's fucking miles from anything, surrounded by fields (which I know for a fact my sister is going to hate!) it means we're going to have to use the car for everything, and I'm not thrilled by that because sis can't physically drive atm so it'll all be on me. I honestly looked at the location and felt like crying 😭

Honestly I just want to stay at home but we're locked in at this point and if I don't go, no one will be able to go. ☹️

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Tessisme · 22/10/2023 10:58

All these posters telling OP to dose up and drive, I hope none of you are driving in that state anywhere near me. A 10-15 drive is one thing. But two hours while feeling so unwell you can barely make it to the toilet? That's just bloody irresponsible.

Tessisme · 22/10/2023 10:59

*10-15 minute drive

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Floralnomad · 22/10/2023 11:03

If you can possibly manage to go I’d do it simply because your nephews will probably be really looking forward to it . It’s not as if you are the only caravan at that end of the park .

Saverage · 22/10/2023 11:03

swallowme · 22/10/2023 09:18

Sometimes in life, you just need to put yourself first, even if it might disappoint people. You're ill, and that's that, so don't go. My father had booked a concert of an artist he really liked and asked me to go along with him over a year ago. The day came last Monday and I wasn't well, so I cancelled. I felt a little guilt but I'm just not pushing myself for others anymore.

Did your father pay for your ticket and if so did you give him the money when you knew you couldn't go?

Curious as I was just in a similar situation and the other person didn't offer any money (I couldn't find anyone to sell the ticket to). I can't imagine leaving someone to not alone go alone but also paying for 2 tickets.

Itsbritneybitch22 · 22/10/2023 11:18

Is your sister a Princess? Why is most of this about she won’t be happy about this or that?

You’re poorly she’s gonna have to adapt somewhat.

Betsyhilton · 22/10/2023 11:18

A holiday is not one of life's necessities. If someone is too ill to go and the holiday has to be called off then that's just life. Urging someone to drag themselves out of bed, dose themselves heavily and undertake a 2 hour drive for a non essential trip is madness. Not to mention all the people the OP could infect while she's chauffering her family around to activities, cafes etc.
I thought Covid had brought some common sense to people's attitudes towards going out with contagious illnesses.

ImNotReallySpartacus · 22/10/2023 11:26

Are you an indentured servant? Would your sister even have invited you if she didn't need a chauffeur?

mrsbyers · 22/10/2023 11:31

Do you have travel insurance as part of your banking ? U.K. based holidays will be covered as long as you are booked to be away from home for a few days

I would call haven and try to postpone personally

DarkDarkNight · 22/10/2023 11:34

It’s a rubbish situation, is there any other family member who could take your place?

Is the site sold out? I would phone up and try to explain the situation regarding your sister’s injury and see if you can upgrade to a more central location. It will make everything easier as you won’t have to be a chauffeur.

Growlybear83 · 22/10/2023 11:41

If you're feeling really unwell then you shouldn't think of going away. I can't think of anything more miserable than doing a long drive and then having to spend a couple of days in a caravan bed. I think you should warn your sister today that you are feeling very ill and unless you feel much better in the morning, you won't be able to go. That will give her time to think about her options today. It's not your fault that she didn't take out insurance when she made the booking, and it's certainly not your fault thst she may have passed covid on to you.

skyeisthelimit · 22/10/2023 12:01

Has you sister asked if there is a caravan that is closer to everything? Even if it is booked through a newspaper promotion, you can usually pay a location fee to select an area that you want to be in?

2jacqi · 22/10/2023 12:18

so basically she book a holiday which is in a place that she is unable to drive to cos she cant drive at the moment and is semi forcing you to drive her and kids there and suspect she is just using you to help with child care??? bloody cheek she has, expecting you to be the chauffeur!! you are not well so you wont be going! she will have to find another driver!

EmmaEmerald · 22/10/2023 12:31

QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 07:21

AFAIK she didn't take the insurance. I don't think delaying is an option either - there's stuff booked and I don't think they refund!

It's about 90 miles or two hours.

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That's on her, you're not well, she needs to sort it out. Having only one driver means taking that risk too.

Just tell her and I hope you feel better asap.

Floralnomad · 22/10/2023 12:34

swallowme · 22/10/2023 09:18

Sometimes in life, you just need to put yourself first, even if it might disappoint people. You're ill, and that's that, so don't go. My father had booked a concert of an artist he really liked and asked me to go along with him over a year ago. The day came last Monday and I wasn't well, so I cancelled. I felt a little guilt but I'm just not pushing myself for others anymore.

What a lovely attitude , imagine what the world would be like if we all did this .

morbidd · 22/10/2023 12:42

Tbh these lateral flow tests aren't quite working. This was what a doctor told me when I had the new variant covid symptoms.

CharlotteRose90 · 22/10/2023 12:51

I’m hoping your sister knew this would happen. She clearly knew that her and her kids had the virus and would pass it on to you. Unless you live together why else would you go round when they’re ill. Cancel the holiday and stay in bed. I’m full of the lurgy too and right now I’d only be driving 2 hours if it was an emergency which yours isn’t.

pikkumyy77 · 22/10/2023 12:59

Of course you shouldn’t go. And she should hsve bought insurance.

user1477391263 · 22/10/2023 13:05

I don't drive and only go on public transit/bike/walk-friendly holidays. It's cheeky and lacking in dignity to invite someone on holiday and expect them to drive you about.

LoveTheDetectorists · 22/10/2023 13:07

Just tell your sister you are really unwell. Tell her you’re struggling at the moment just to walk.
Say you’ll go as you don’t want her to miss out but given how you feel you may not be up to much

Then it’s up to her

Harrysmummy246 · 22/10/2023 13:09

It probably is COVID. I had what I thought was a horrendous cold last week. Did a test. Yup, it was COVID

If you feel like this, don't go away and spread it, you won't enjoy the break either

SausageMonkey2 · 22/10/2023 13:10

You can totally get here without driving. Let her go by train.

LIZS · 22/10/2023 13:13

Tell her to organise train/coach down and you will join when you feel better. Or she cancels/postpones if she has insurance cover.

EmmaEmerald · 22/10/2023 13:17

QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 07:46

It's five hours by public transport and God knows how much money 😬 sis has an injury atm and I honestly don't know if she'd manage public transport physically.

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And this is another reason she should have taken insurance. I no longer drive so I wouldn't go away on a holiday if I was dependent on a driver.

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QuestionableMouse · 22/10/2023 13:20

2jacqi · 22/10/2023 12:18

so basically she book a holiday which is in a place that she is unable to drive to cos she cant drive at the moment and is semi forcing you to drive her and kids there and suspect she is just using you to help with child care??? bloody cheek she has, expecting you to be the chauffeur!! you are not well so you wont be going! she will have to find another driver!

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The holiday has been booked since this time last year. We're both just been unlucky - her in having an accident and me in being unwell! ☹️

Rang the site - they were very unhelpful and said there's nothing else available and that we can't push our arrival back.

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Startyabastard · 22/10/2023 13:20

I'm not suggesting you should go, but sometimes ibuprofen and paracetamol (maybe cocodamol) work wonders.