Holiday tomorrow - I really don't want to go!

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Don't have any choice unfortunately but I really don't want to go! Sister booked a Haven break for her two boys, her and me.

I woke up yesterday with the worst cold I've had in ages - I won't go into details but I feel properly crap. Not covid as far as I can tell but I'm a snotty, sore throated mess right now.

I've just seen the caravan we've been given and it's fucking miles from anything, surrounded by fields (which I know for a fact my sister is going to hate!) it means we're going to have to use the car for everything, and I'm not thrilled by that because sis can't physically drive atm so it'll all be on me. I honestly looked at the location and felt like crying 😭

Honestly I just want to stay at home but we're locked in at this point and if I don't go, no one will be able to go. ☹️

Tell your sister you're ill and can't go. These things happen. Then tune out any whining, complaints, manipulation or emotional blackmail from her.

Flip it around: from your point of view, the question is how are your supposedly close and loving family going to care for you while you're ill? Or does the support only flow one way?

Then you can each agree to sort yourselves out while wishing the other well.

@Ladyj84 it's not flu season yet. COVID test positivity was 16% last week, flu test positivity is less than 1%. If you think it's flu it's probably COVID.
National data up to Oct 13

This looks like Devon cliffs, if it is I wouldn’t worry at all about driving when you get there all the site is walkable on good pedestrian pathways, it’s big and a bit hilly to the centre but you don’t need to drive once you are there. Most of the caravans are warm and cozy so you should be able to rest when you arrive. There’s lots to do on site and a bus into the local town straight from the site so you would be able to stay in while the others go out.

I agree with just being honest. I feel really ill, I likely won't feel well enough tomorrow and I can't go.

Please ask someone else, I don't want you to miss the holiday. Or help her find public transport.

You must have great eyes! Mine are bad and I can't see anything, though when blown up, I did see "spotlight". It just looks like little dots and squares. LOL!

I can't believe all the people telling you that you should just take strepsil, put on your big girl pants etc. Feeling ill while staying in a caravan and being the only driver present sounds absolutely dreadful. Just tell your sister you're not well enough to go. If she's a decent person she'll be disappointed but understand. These things happen.
Some of the posters on here are obviously the type who drag themselves into work with high temperatures, coughing and sneezing all over everyone and then frowning disapprovingly when they people they've infected stay off work sick.

@Betsyhilton I totally agree.

Lateral flows are not reliable for the new variant of Covid.

You're crazy to go OP, you're just going to pass your illness to everyone, whatever it is.

You shouldn't have agreed to go. Looks like you were waiting for an excuse not to. I sympathise up to a point as I hate caravans.

Lots of rest, fluids, symptom management today. You have approx 28 hrs to chill and recover before going.
If you do go, take it easy and chill when they are there. A little walk will be great for the kids/sister. Kids may enjoy playing with a ball etc outside the caravan.
Your sister booked the caravan so would be aware of the distance to the amenities.
Hope you soon feel brighter.

How is being genuinely ill 'looking for an excuse not to go' exactly?

I assume there is no chance of contacting them and asking to move to a location closer to facilities? I found a drink in Holland & Barrett but can probably get it in other places, called Tonic Health Recovery, it was like a natural lemon and ginger sachet with loads of vitamins. You can take it alongside paracetamol etc. It was honestly the only thing that got me through when I came down with something like this a couple of months ago whilst on a similar type of holiday. I've since bought their daily drinks as was so impressed. However if you are really poorly, you shouldn't go and your sister should understand.

Oh, OP, I feel for you. I think you really need to talk to your sister as soon as possible and let her know you’re too ill to go. Then she can decide whether to push on without you or cancel/change the booking.

I don’t understand why you’d have to drive? It’s all on one site just get your sister to walk it.

They're driving to get there too.

You can cancel the activities 48 hours before. Also you can only get in the caravan from 4pm. So why not just go on Tuesday morning. You will hardly miss much. That way you should be over the worst of it.

You can drive from there to the main complex. Plenty of parking.

for what it's worth, those are the hideaway caravans and are absolutely gorgeous with lake views. Large caravans with their own decking area. You may enjoy the fact that it's quiet and peaceful

If you think it's flu it's probably COVID.

There are loads of other viruses available. I had something that knocked me right off my feet a couple of weeks ago. It definitely wasn't Covid, because I just got over Covid two weeks before. And the Covid was a walk in the park compared to this. So it may or may not be Covid if it feels like flu. Or it may be another flu like virus. Either way, it doesn't sound like the OP should be driving tomorrow unless her condition significantly improves. Meanwhile if her sister can't cancel, she will just have to wait until tomorrow and see if OP is well enough to drive. Or postpone leaving until Tuesday and miss out on the booked activities. Perhaps the holiday park would be willing to swap the days for these activities. I appreciate it sucks for the DC, not knowing if they're going on holiday🙁

I absolutely would not go. You are ill.

Tell her, and say you are putting your phone on silent and trying to get some sleep.

If she’s angry with you, she’s not much of a sister is she? I hope you feel better soon. 💐

Of course you don't have to go if you are ill. Your sister can use taxis or change her plans.

LFTs do pick up this years variant of Covid, for both me and my partner, 2 days of feeling unwell then positive, not clear until 11 days later, felt very ill with it.

you sound a bit scared of your sisters reaction 😱hope you feel better soon

I am currently going through an illness.

It started off as a sore throat and just a bit of a cold but then it completely wiped me out and I feel ill and have barely any energy.

I have some covid tests somewhere but I don’t have the energy to find it to test myself but I’m 99% sure it’s covid as it feels very similar to when I had covid before (no where near as bad as it was the first time).

I’m so used to covid now that I forgot how bad it can be.

If I remember the first time I had covid, I felt a bit ill for a couple of days but the test was negative and then I got really ill and took another test and it was positive straight away.
So I wonder if it takes a couple of days to show up on the test.

I’ve not left my home for 2 days and I’m not planning to anytime soon because I feel like crap.
So I’m not too worried about testing, as I plan to stay away from people anyway.

I would message your sister and tell her that you’ve woken up feeling really poorly and that you think it’s covid but don’t have any tests.
Then she what she says from there.

You are also risking them getting poorly and having a crap time, which if I was your sister I would hate!

Is there anyone who could go in your place?

Assuming this is a cold, take paracetamol and a non-drowsy antihistamine — generic over-the-counter loratadine costs less than a fiver and can help dry you up a bit. Buy Night Nurse and earplugs for overnight. Get your family to their destination, have a couple of days in bed recovering and with a bit of luck feel well enough to enjoy the last few.

If I were you I'd take my own duvet and pillows because there's nothing nicer than your own bedding when you're feeling crook. Good luck.

If you’ve got a sore throat go to the chemist and get some Strefen lozenges they have ibuprofen in them and are a game changer when you’re poorly. They saved my holiday a few weeks ago! You have to ask at the counter for them