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Partner doesn't know where he was ??

206 replies

Lauryn95 · 10/10/2023 08:56

What would you do if your partner went out to the pub then it progressed to going to town as in late bars and clubs and then you woke up in the morning and he didn't come home ,then he didn't come home til noon the following day and "couldn't remember" where he stayed

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Devilsmommy · 10/10/2023 08:57

I'd call bullshit. Someone's got something to hide

newamsterdam · 10/10/2023 08:57

He knows exactly where he was. He just doesn't know you to know where he was.

LightDrizzle · 10/10/2023 08:57

I’d think he was lying and I’d thank my lucky stars were weren’t married.

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Lauryn95 · 10/10/2023 08:59

As in he went out the sat came home Sunday noon ,I rang him and texted him and asked his friends at 10am where he was and they all said they lost him in town and Didn't know where he was then when he come home I said where have you been and he said "I don't know" "can't remember" were not speaking now and I don't know what to do ,do I need a divorce?

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howsaboutit · 10/10/2023 08:59

I’d be insulted he thought so little of me that when lying he didn’t even try to come up with something plausible!
Even if his memory of the night if blurry he’d still remember waking up somewhere this morning and remember how he got home.
I’d bet money that he cheated on you.

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Lauryn95 · 10/10/2023 08:59

Yes I think so too,He's 100% cheated hasn't he

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way2serious · 10/10/2023 09:00

He must have known where he left on the Sunday to come home?

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 10/10/2023 09:02

He woke up somewhere. He'd know where he woke up.

Hellodarknessmyoldpal · 10/10/2023 09:03

This is ridiculous. He came home at noon? Where was he just before he arrived? Is he claiming he blanked out and suddenly appeared at your front door? Where was he when he woke up? It's plausible that he didn't remember everything but this sounds like he has been somewhen he shouldn't have been and he's not even bothered enough to make up a proper cover story. Do not accept 'i don't remember'.

Aquamarine1029 · 10/10/2023 09:03

He's cheated.

Mamatolittleboy · 10/10/2023 09:04

I’d say cheated too. He’d know where he woke up? Surely

CutiePatooties · 10/10/2023 09:07

I’d ask him where he woke up on Sunday and if he said he couldn’t remember, I’d ask him if he thinks I was born yesterday.

He knows full well where he woke up in the morning.

Duckingella · 10/10/2023 09:07

He went home with another woman whether that be a house or hotel.

His friends very likely aware he went home with another woman too but the "bro code" means they won't divulge that information.

He'll know where he woke up eg in a bed,on a sofa and where that location was as he would have gotten home from said location.

He's not even trying to lie very well is he?

itsmyp4rty · 10/10/2023 09:08

So he got home at noon and couldn't remember where he'd left or how he'd got home? What a liar - how could he think anyone would just accept that bs?

Cinnamonspice1 · 10/10/2023 09:08

I’m so sorry op, more than likely he cheated on you. How can someone wake up and claim they didn’t know what happened. For him to lie to you on top of this is unbelievable.

FrenchandSaunders · 10/10/2023 09:10

However drunk he was when he arrived somewhere for the night, he would have woken up there and knew where he was. He managed to get home! Absolute BS.

Daydreamer123456 · 10/10/2023 09:12

Sorry, but what a liar!!

Presumably by noon he’d sobered up, so where did he leave from to get home?

Can’t remember?! Friends lost him in town.

Simply can’t think of anything other than he cheated. What a pig- just come clean or at least tell a good lie

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Lauryn95 · 10/10/2023 09:12

Worst part was I was so worried something happened to him, calling his friends because I was literally terrified something had happened ,I called his parents just incase aswell and now I'm so embarrassed to be worried for him. So upset right now

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NerdyBird · 10/10/2023 09:12

Does he ever take drugs? Could be covering that up instead. But whatever it is it's not great.

Thanksforreading · 10/10/2023 09:13

NerdyBird · 10/10/2023 09:12

Does he ever take drugs? Could be covering that up instead. But whatever it is it's not great.

Also agree could be drugs or cheating or even both…

Aquamarine1029 · 10/10/2023 09:15

Kick the lying twat right out the door. If his parents live nearby, let them know they'll be having a new lodger for the foreseeable.

vivainsomnia · 10/10/2023 09:16

If he wanted to avoid the suspicion, he could easily say that he woke up on a bench in a park. So either he lacks creative thinking or he got hit on the head and suffers from medical amnesia.

Almosthumannow · 10/10/2023 09:17

whether it’s drugs or cheating, it’s kind of irrelevant.

You can never accept such a blatant lie- the trust is gone. Your relationship is over.

the laziness at not even bothering to lie is such blatant disrespect. That tells you what he thinks of you more than the shagging around.

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Lauryn95 · 10/10/2023 09:17

NerdyBird · 10/10/2023 09:12

Does he ever take drugs? Could be covering that up instead. But whatever it is it's not great.

He has to be drug tested at work so normally I'd say no but tbh no idea probably both

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NotObligedToArgueWithStrangers · 10/10/2023 09:18

He's a liar, he knows exactly where he was and what he was doing. What a shit.