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AIBU?

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Spencer0220 · 09/10/2023 20:00

I'm 35. I've known since I was a teenager that having my own children wasn't a possibility. I haven't ever quite come to terms with it.

My little sister has 5 kids. The last being a mixed set of twins, two at Christmas. That would also be her only girl.

It's been a tumultuous relationship with my sister, but finally we are close.

She's always made a big thing of understanding my feelings about infertility and allowing me and DH a close relationship with her kids.

To the dilemma.

I have bought all the kids clothes over the years and always made sure to buy what their mum wanted. For Christmas I was super excited to buy baby girl a dress because I haven't bought dresses before. My sister told me the size and despite me asking multiple times, didn't have a style preference. She also said Vinted was fine, as she knows im fussy about quality.

So I bought a dress that DH and I both liked.

My sister HATED it and asked me to cancel the order. Which I did. To be honest, she was pretty vile about how much she hated the design. Fine, I understand. No problem.

But then she asked me if I could see her daughter in that. I can. She's worn colourful prints before. I said I'd dress my kid in that.

And that's when she said "well thank God you don't have children because you would dress them horribly."

I came off the phone and cried.

I don't mind honestly that she hated the dress.

But when she was glad I didn't have kids it broke my heart. AIBU?

I'm honestly scared to buy another dress.

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Spencer0220 · 13/10/2023 01:05

@Tbry and yes, DH has explained everything as well but it's falling on deaf ears.

He feels awful about it all too. Especially because he has an especially strong bond with her boy twin. Who he now can't see.

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Mummyof287 · 13/10/2023 22:31

My heart goes out to you, can't imagine how painful that must be :( But I'm glad your fur babies at least give you some comfort.

Spencer0220 · 14/10/2023 00:03

Mummyof287 · 13/10/2023 22:31

My heart goes out to you, can't imagine how painful that must be :( But I'm glad your fur babies at least give you some comfort.

Thank you

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