How much to give my friend for her wedding?

[Dancemumma]

My friend of 20 years is getting married very soon. She’s asked for money as they already have everything they need at home. The whole wedding is paid for my their parents, It’s a huge wedding and they’re on track to receive £5000-£10,000 in wedding gifts.

Would £100 from me and my family be okay? I can’t really afford it but feel it could damage the friendship if I don’t.

GIVE not hide. 🙈

Whatever you want (and can afford) to give should be accepted with good grace and thanks.

Give what you can afford.

Beside the point but how do you know they are on track to receive that amount?

I think £50 is more than enough.

Kinda disappointed I was hoping for a thread for how to avoid a wedding 😁

100 is fine op

I think £50 is fine too.

Eugh, still cant believe that in this day and age people ask for money/gifts for a wedding, i think its pretty crass.
Why does someone feel they deserve £100 (or more.. or £10 for that matter!) just because they've decided to throw some massively expensive party? You dont need to have a party in order to be married.
If i ever get wed im tsking my mates to the pub, on me, and asking for nout.

But then maybe im a grouch..

Or less if you can't afford it!

Between £50 to £100 is fine

OP,

If you can’t afford to give £100 then don’t. A card with a sincere message should be enough for a true friend.

I have plenty of friends who didn’t give ££ when we got married and wrote us lovely cards, which I have kept and enjoy looking back on. I’d be mortified to find out someone had gifted us money and it had caused them financial hardship.

If not giving your friend money will damage the friendship then that’s quite a weird friendship

Only give £100 if you can afford it, if your friend has an issue over how much someone chooses to gift they’re very grabby and ungrateful.

£50, or £40, fine. Imagine there was a present list, what would you have spent, probably would have looked for something that was £30-£50 right, not gor a £100 present.

I voted yabu as you can't afford it. Give £20 if that's more affordable.

I would give £50...although to be honest last time I went to a wedding I forgot to give the happy couple my card. Found it in the car a year later and was really hard up so binned the card and kept the money 🤗

I'd give 50 personally.

I'd do a card with £50 to be honest, i usually do a jl gift card though as I object to money unless specific circumstances

I give £50 normally as it is what we can afford. I can’t imagine my friends having an issue with it. If she does then is she really a friend? I received £20 from some friends £50 from a couple, some gave fizz etc none from some. It’s all fine, the point of a wedding really shouldn’t be about the gifts

I went to a wedding recently and gave £50 I could have given more but I think that’s fine. My friend was very much you didn’t need to give anything. Yours sounds like a bit of a cunt if you think it would damage the friendship.

Am I the only person not really disappointed that this thread isn’t actually about hiding a friend at a wedding? I had images of them leaping out from inside the cake.

Now I’d pay the £100 for that.

Buy her a Mr and Mrs photo frame.

I've be brought up to "cover the cost of your meal" so would usually give a gift worth 50-70 if it's just from me, but if our whole family is invited it would be £120ish or sometimes up to 150 if it's a close family member

You give what you can afford. You said £100 is something you can’t afford, so give £50

How would you know they are on track to receive £5-10k of gifts and why is that relevant?

Anyway to your question, don’t give what you can’t afford. I’d be inclined t o give nothing, asking for money is pretty distasteful.

Buy them a nice olive or lemon tree for their garden or conservatory. I know a small one costs around £30 so for £50 you'd get something a decent size, and what a treat to have your own lemons!