How much to give my friend for her wedding?

[Dancemumma]

My friend of 20 years is getting married very soon. She’s asked for money as they already have everything they need at home. The whole wedding is paid for my their parents, It’s a huge wedding and they’re on track to receive £5000-£10,000 in wedding gifts.

Would £100 from me and my family be okay? I can’t really afford it but feel it could damage the friendship if I don’t.

£50 would be plenty. You are invited as a guest, not to pay for your involvement. We gave my cousin's DS & DDiL £20 towards a meal on their honeymoon and some currency we had in the drawer. Total about £30. Our place at the wedding cost around £150. We were invited because they wanted us there, not for what we could give them.