Gushy Facebook posts

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Why do people feel the need to post gushing anniversary posts on social media?! Even more laughable when I know the husband is having an affair! Just feels so forced and gives me the ick! Every year this same couple post individual messages to each other for all their friends and family to see and comment on. Why do people do this?! Are their lives that sad or AIBU?

Erg gosh with you ….. such a smug over share and often those with the deepest of issues.

To maintain the facade?

It’s pathetic

I have a few people like this on my Facebook & they are always the ones who split up a few months after they get married :/z

I'm just so embarrassed for them. So many people I know laugh about it behind their backs. Knowing that it's all fake!

If they do that they can’t gush about anniversaries, surely…?

They make me want to boak

I also find Happy Heavenly Birthday posts rather cringey too

Yes very weird, but at least the person it's directed at is actually on Facebook, I suppose.
It's the "I love you and am so proud of you and can't wait to see you open these presents!" ones that I can't get my head around, addressed to a 1-year old. Who are they talking to?!

@DinnaeFashYersel yessss! Why does the whole world need to know you're grieving that day! it's such a private moment and all people care about are likes and comments.

I like them. I like to see other people happy.

@SirCharlesRainier haha that's so funny, my next moan was about to be about the same couple...they post happy birthday messages to their young daughters (not on Facebook) EVERY. SINGLE. YEAR. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

@Wiii that's my point though...they're not happy...the husband has been having it off with his PA for the last few years!

Depends on the context surely? Its only cringe because you know this ones totally fake. But I see some sometimes I know are genuine because I know the people and I know they've been through some awful stuff in the last year or whatever so I find it very touching. Really depends. Sometimes people want to make a public declaration about how much something or someone means to them and I dont begrudge anyone that.

I gush about my husband, you’d hate me 😄

He’s the absolute love of my life and I gush freely and happily on his birthday, our wedding anniversary or basically just when the whim takes me as I just love the bones of him and - get this - our friends haven’t unfollowed me en masse so I guess they aren’t as superior as you OP!

Oh, and just to disappoint the “the only people who do this get divorced 30 seconds after the wedding” posters, my husband and I have been very happily married for over 30 years. Blimey!

Yeah it’s usually (not always) but usually the people who feel they need to prove themselves.

Oh well. Not harming anyone I don’t suppose

Same here. The people I don’t like are the ones who moan about their kids or partners. Twitter friend is always doing this and does it in person too. Has a bee in her bonnet currently because son chose not to go to her Alma matta university

You sound mean. Esp the “heavenly birthday” comment.

I lost my younger sister very, very unexpectedly and it has completely devastated me. She was a twin so on that day I wish my other sister, the lone twin, a happy birthday and so it feels weird to not remember / acknowledge my sister who is no longer here with us.

Is the whole point of social media not to share highlights of your life? I'd class an anniversary as a fairly substantial highlight.

I don't see it as my place to judge how happy other people are, or ought to be. I like seeing nice things on social media, as opposed to constant moaning and negativity.

@HelpMeUnpickThis totally understand that and I'm sorry for your loss but to me I'd want to just mark it privately. In your situation I understand it's a little different as you're wishing one twin a happy birthday on social media and therefore want to acknowledge the other, I get that.

Yes

”you’d have been 109 today Nan…”

I mean FFS

And seriously... anyone grieving can post whatever they want about it on Facebook.. why on earth would you ever judge that?!? Do you not know what its like?!? Have a bit of compassion. People get thru this stuff in their own way.

It's all just so very unnecessary. Me, me, me. Lots of self-indulgent, self-obsessed people out there. I left FB, sick of it all tbh.

My cousins wife is always posting gushing posts about their dog who died five years ago. Just get another bloody dog! It'll help you.

Yes I don't get it - esp when you know they are sat together on the sofa or at least in the same house posting stuff and then they 'love' each others posts - ffs just turn your head and tell them how much you love them.

Smacks of deep insecurity and need for validation.

Your husband is probably sitting next to you as you write these posts. Why not just turn around and say what you want to say, to him directly?

I don't get it.

Attention seekers