Gushy Facebook posts

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Why do people feel the need to post gushing anniversary posts on social media?! Even more laughable when I know the husband is having an affair! Just feels so forced and gives me the ick! Every year this same couple post individual messages to each other for all their friends and family to see and comment on. Why do people do this?! Are their lives that sad or AIBU?

Can i ask what it is ok to post?
No happy birthday
No anniversary
No remembrance
No what the kids got up to
No airport check in etc
No holiday pics
Certainly not dog poo and parking in local village sites and does anyone know what time tesco opens.

Just a few that come up regularly on here.

So what is OK to post?
Just so i don't offend anyone. I like to have a little scroll in the morning but there would be nothing to read if we all stuck to the rules of MN

I dont mind them but make me sad as I saw one today from a wife to her husband and I know he cheats on her with prostitutes.

I share these types of posts in relation to my mum who died suddenly when I was a little girl. I have very few friends / family and so I often feel alone in my grief on her anniversary. So I share it online not for "likes and comments" for the sake of them, but to feel less alone and isolated in my grief. If that helps ease my pain a little, why is it bothering you?

YANBU, a couple I know post monthly anniversary posts, they've been together over 5 years!

You know you were posting on social media when you wrote this don’t you?

I only mention.my husband if he's done something daft/funny, none of the soppy stuff for me 😀

I used to work with a couple who were married and they used to FB gush about each other all the time. It was really embarrassing as everyone knew they didn't have the best relationship and we're always snipping at each other.

One day after some particularly gushy comments one of our other
colleagues know for being quite forthright posted, 'How about, as you're both in the same room, you turn to each other and tell them all this directly rather than communicating through FB?'

After that there were much fewer posts and they were confined to Christmas & birthdays.

I hate 'happy heavenly birthday' too. It's a sweet sentiment in itself but guaranteed anyone I see posting such, has form for attention seeking and sympathy garnering in general. It's not the post but the person.

This thread is bonkers 😆

Imagine people sharing parts of their lives on their own social media page? Absurd!

What else do you expect to find?

Like so much on social media, they doth protest too much. I assume anyone who shows off their beautiful life or relationships are deeply insecure or unhappy and that it's all a facade 🤷‍♀️

I always say give it a month after someone has wrote " they partner/ girlfriend / boyfriend has been their rock the relationship falls apart .. it's like they trying to kid themselves

Oh god the happy heavenly birthday 🤢

”Gran would have been 87 today”. Where does it stop? “If great uncle Norman hadn’t died he’d have been 112 today” um, yeah, and?

I want the world to remember my husband on his heavenly birthday.

It keeps him with me

I only have real friends on social media though. Not acquaintances

Same when they post big Happy Birthday’s to my * husband/ child etc, they are probably sitting across the table from them, can they not speak to them directly ??

Op, there's this cool thing you can do, hide them. You don't even have to unfriend them. It's their social media and they can choose to use it how they like.

I thought the whole point of SM was to get likes and attention & make it look like you’re ‘living your best life’. You know, confirming to all your ‘friends’ that your kids are angels & your OH is THE most perfect one in the world🤣 that’s what my feed is anyway!

The world is full of enough shit and nastiness. It’s nice to see love and affection. If you dont like it, mute them. I’d rather see that than racist, misogynistic or ageists posts any day.

I mention any anniversary and birthday. I also post the whole camera roll from my holiday. If anyone else does I'm just kind of happy for them.

When people moan about them on here I assume they are unhappy and cross someone else can blag it. Work on your own issues op!

It's always the ones where cheating has been, or is currently going on

That’s genuinely so beautiful. Ongratulatuions and I hope you both are married for many years to come.

@Sometimeswinning I don't have issues...my husband is perfect... my rock...my everything...Makes me laugh every day...can't believe how much we've accomplished together! 🥰🤩 where would I be without him?!

I should tell him this since he's next to me....nahhhh...I'll just tell you lot instead and hope you give me a big pat on the back for finding such a catch!!

😱😂

I love seeing love, I enjoy when people I care about are happy - and if they want to post about it then great, if I don’t want to read it I’ll scroll past. Doesn’t impact me if they post. But - I always think it’s interesting on these kinds of threads, people complaining about seeing others posting about their relationships on social media. I often think it sounds bitter and a bit jealous to be honest, like you have to assume the relationships are fake to make yourself feel ok about not acting in the same way or getting that sort of post directed towards you. Not the case for everyone, granted - but I could make that sweeping statement if I wanted!

Ouch that’s really mean. What a callous reaction. Whenever I see these kind of posts I just feel so sorry for the grieving person and send them love.

What about the 'Happy Birthday my little bestie 2 today, you are the apple of my eye, the sun moon and stars I'm so proud of the little boy you've become. So funny and well rounded'

People on social media can be odd, showing the world what a perfect life they have when many times it's just a facade.