Gushy Facebook posts

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Why do people feel the need to post gushing anniversary posts on social media?! Even more laughable when I know the husband is having an affair! Just feels so forced and gives me the ick! Every year this same couple post individual messages to each other for all their friends and family to see and comment on. Why do people do this?! Are their lives that sad or AIBU?

I always feel a bit sad for them as I wonder if they need external validation to feel better about themselves or a situation, they probably don’t but I’ll usually throw them a like anyway and swiftly move on.

God so much judgement. I don't see the issue in those type of posts.

Makes more sense than posting on here to try to start an online hatefest about it.

Her husband's cheating on her and apparently everyone knows it, let her deal with it in her way. Doesn't affect you. Just hide it if you don't like it.

Ha ha at "you'd have been 109 gran".

Even if the woman is happy and not pretending to be happy, it still comes off like she takes her status/purpose/identity from a man. Maybe not every time, but i have read gushy posts and felt pity not envy.

I tend to feel this about all gushy Fb posts tbh, not just anniversary ones.

Selfies posing in front of graves, give me the ick.

I had an old school friend who used to do this and reading her facebook posts anyone would think she had the perfect marriage. A couple of years later they were divorced, I was so surprised but it transpired her husband was awful in real life.

The judgement is odd. People have different communication styles. It just smacks of jealousy getting upset because someone else was able to publicly express their feelings!
I mean if you are a more private introverted person and dont want to do that fair enough. But trying to act like one or other is superior is ridiculous. People are just different.
If you go on someones social media page it will be about them. And if they are generally a chatty, open and expressive person they probably will be banging on about what they've been doing and the things they like. And when they feel sad they might share that too. Just like they would if you met them in real life.
Some people are more private and dont like to share things.
Neither way of being is superior to the other.
Yeah its super annoying if you know its all totally fake. But not everyone is 'fake just because they arent acting how you would. Some people really are very happy.. or still grieving their grandma or whatever.. and they feel comforted or supported by sharing that with others.

He may indeed be sat next to me on the sofa so it’s win win: I get to tell him in person, tell him via the medium of social media AND annoy any judgey pants types who think they’re better than me 😄

Fucking howling!!! 🤣

Oh my goodness, the whole SM of detailing every aspect of life. Ffs, who are you trying to convince? Share it with people who may actually care on private whattsapp groups! I stopped FB years ago, do lurk a bit, then just cringe 😬 I know so many who are literally sat next to their partners all day every day putting messages on to them, ugh, get a grip!

You're judging people for having an opinion which differs to your own. No better than the rest of them 😂

I honestly think the world would be much better without social media. People would be much more present with their friends, family including children without it.

Agree with the gushy relationship posts. And the over sharing on precise exam results (even photos of the results sheet).

I do try to be a bit more tolerant of posts re grief as everyone reacts differently here. I have never posted about my Dad’s death whereas a friend who would share my opinions above has shared more. I did still laugh at “You’d be 109” though! 😃

Meh. You can just keep scrolling or unfollow them (while still remaining friends) if it bothers you so much.

People are allowed to post what they desire and use social media as little or as much as they want and how they want.

I'm just so embarrassed for them. So many people I know laugh about it behind their backs. Knowing that it's all fake!

Are you all still in secondary school? Sounds like you just like to gossip about them.

i think there’s a difference between anniversary posts and gushy ones
I don’t think marking an anniversary post on SM is a bad thing,

I know of a mother and daughter who have entire conversations over Facebook posts. Just talk to each other in person or over the phone no one cares.

When I know it’s a fake couple, it irritates me.

Otherwise, it’s sweet. I do it on special occasions because I know my hubby’s love language is being appreciated.

In terms of posts for/about people who have passed away- gosh I really feel for them and respect them being open and self aware enough to to reach out to others. Keeping to yourself is absolutely ok, but healthy grieving often involves social interactions.

Does the wife know her husband is having an affair?

The more gushy the posts, the more crap the relationship is.

Most people in secure relationships don’t need to post it all over social media because they don’t need to prove anything.

If you feel that way about your partner why not just tell them or text them which is way more personal.
Why the need to do it publicly if not for trying to prove a point/attention seeking.

You’d hate my mother. She posted an update and a wedding picture on her 59th wedding anniversary this year. My dad won’t see it because he’s not on Facebook but she still likes to let people know how much she loves him despite the fact that he’s in a care home.

My advice is to stop following people on Facebook that you clearly dislike and to scroll past updates that apparently make you feel bitter and angry.

Not judging. Just cringing.

And I don't think this is meant to be a serious thread.

It does make me cringe but I just press the mute button.

I wonder how many people are muted and they have no idea

Deactivate

Funny, I would never find it laughable that a woman is being cheated on when she thinks she has a great relationship. I think people who do find it funny are sadder than the ones posting to be honest. Imagine taking glee in the fact everyone is laughing at the lady. Ughh no. Mean girl stuff.