Gushy Facebook posts

[ihaveanopinion]

Why do people feel the need to post gushing anniversary posts on social media?! Even more laughable when I know the husband is having an affair! Just feels so forced and gives me the ick! Every year this same couple post individual messages to each other for all their friends and family to see and comment on. Why do people do this?! Are their lives that sad or AIBU?

They’re probably doing it so someone posts about the affair, bursts the bubble and they can LTB.

That’s so kind, thank you.

Well it's weird but social media is weird. People share photos of their breakfast, holidays, children etc I don't see why it's any weirder to share that you're celebrating an anniversary or grieving a death. That kind of oversharing isn't for me though.

FB is toxic isn't it? Also following people whos posts you find nauseating is also surely not good for ones MH?

I just increasingly don't see the point in FB.

I mostly only use it to store photos in a timeline. My sil posts selfies of herself a few times a day, some in her undies. I find seeing her in bra and thong alarming. So I mute her, she has no idea, it's a good option. Muting people who make you bork. Unless you genuinely hate them. Then de friend them.

I personally don't want any such post directed at me! My private life is private. I don't want my wife gushing about me online like we're a pair of immature 15 year olds!

People understand that PDA's like snogging and not keeping your hands off each other in company is inappropriate and TOO MUCH (get a room!). The same can be said about oversharing and over posting online, it's public too, only digitally.

I see where you’re coming from to an extent about the anniversary ones (overly gushing ones are a bit OTT, a wedding pic with the caption “13 years” or whatever is fine). I think you’re being mean about the heavenly birthday ones though. Some people may be doing it for social media capital but many will be doing it because they’re struggling with grief that day and see social media as an outlet for it.

@ihaveanopinion YABVU. What a nasty spiteful thread. You sound so rude and mean-spirited. If these people 'gushing' over each other, as you so charmingly put it, offends you so much, then just unfriend them, or unfollow if you're too shit scared to unfriend.

Like some other posters here, I like to see people happy, and enjoying life, and sharing their happiness and good news and good vibes with everyone else. You sound breathtakingly bitter and negative, as well as jealous. And mocking people wishing their deceased loved ones happy birthday, is just abhorrent.

Maybe you should get some new hobbies, new friends, new interests. Maybe volunteer for something, and give something of yourself to someone else. Create some good and happy vibes around you, then you won't be so miserable, bitter, and negative.

(And no I don't write these kind of posts before you say anything! But I do enjoy seeing them and reading them!) I rarely post anything on Facebook.

So everyone knows hes having an affair .Why are people laughing about it all behind her back ? That's horrible, you must know some awful people

The other ones I hate are the endless "my real friends will copy and paste this status to their pages because they really care about (insert heartrending cause)"

The worst is when they post 20 photos of a child, and write ‘happy 3rd birthday to my amazing niece, you are so wonderful bla bla bla’. Like a 3 year old if going to see it?! It is just a show: ‘look what a great auntie I am!’ Yuck

I automatically think there is a problem with the relationship. I know a fifty something guy who is on his soon to be 4th wife. Always posting photos of their holiday's and nights out, complete with loads of booze and 'I adore you.'
I just roll my eyes and have a little laugh to myself.

Please tell me people don’t check in at the airport on Facebook?!

I literally can’t cope with peoples need for constant attention seeking and likes.

I cam off it after people were checking in at the hospital.

Why do you post it on Facebook and not just tell him though?

Why do you need other people to know how much you love him?

Why isn’t him knowing enough?

Genuine question, I’m not being goady.

People who use the phrase "gives me the ick" makes me fantasize about their death.

I don't think there's anything wrong with gushy posts. Each to their own. If you don't like them, don't read them.

Ouch that’s really mean. What a callous reaction. Whenever I see these kind of posts I just feel so sorry for the grieving person and send them love.

Same.

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It’s just like giving someone a card isn’t it? Difference being that instead of being on view in your living room for anyone who comes to the house to see it’s online for FB friends.

Social media has changed the way we express ourselves, surely it can’t have passed people by? If you don’t like it, don’t engage with it.

It’s not up to anyone else how one person expresses their emotions, positive or when they’re struggling, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else.

Before you tag me again, I'm the same. My dh gets zero acknowledgement on fb. I got a that's my girl for our firstborn on fb. (5 hours! Twat!)

I find superiority way more awkward. I see people and know its not all perfect. But if it helps them im not going to sit and judge. I wont comment but I'm also not going to be smug.

Because social media isn't real life, people only show you what they want you to see.
Gushy posts are attention seeking, with the feeling that they have a point to prove.

It is their Facebook - they can post as they choose. If you don’t like it unfollow or unfriend them. I have had a couple of awful bereavements and at one point felt truly alone and at my lowest point and it brought me great comfort sharing with friends and reminiscing about happy memories.

You sound pretty mean and judgemental laughing behind someone’s back about their husband having an affair while they are blissfully thinking he is the love of their life.

I support my friends through their grief and sad times. I also share their happy time and good news such as marriages/ anniversaries and theirs/ their children’s job and exam successes. Sometimes just a like or love, sometimes a comment.
I also communicate with friends and discuss things in person! . Surely that’s not unusual? It’s being human and sharing the ups and downs.

None of these are as bad as the crop of 'look at my kids on their first day of school' photos that we're all about to be subjected to!

“Christmas in heaven”
and
“heavenly birthday”
posts like the above are just embarrassing

*Social media has changed the way we express ourselves, surely it can’t have passed people by? If you don’t like it, don’t engage with it.

It’s not up to anyone else how one person expresses their emotions, positive or when they’re struggling, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else.*

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@Stephy1886 woah what's embarrassing about losing a loved one and sharing that grief on social media? Who is that embarrassing for? What a bizarre reaction to someone else's pain, especially if you're a user of social media, which is a sharing platform.

Exactly this! These people who criticise and call others "attention seekers" for using their social media for the purpose it's intended, never seem to use the unfollow or unfriend options, do they? They just continue to view the same content from these people that apparently irks them so much they must make MN threads about it. Odd.