Gushy Facebook posts

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Why do people feel the need to post gushing anniversary posts on social media?! Even more laughable when I know the husband is having an affair! Just feels so forced and gives me the ick! Every year this same couple post individual messages to each other for all their friends and family to see and comment on. Why do people do this?! Are their lives that sad or AIBU?

I like the first day of school ones!

I don't particularly have an issue with the gushy posts themselves, as such - I mean it's not my style to do it but as others have said, you don't have to read it or take any notice and people have every right to post about their lives on social media.

However for me the issue tends to be that the ones who are doing it are the ones who aren't really living it. I always think that being in love is a bit like being a lady or being powerful. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't.

Oh, and the same for the public grief posts. The ones making the most noise are not, in my experience, the ones who really cared and loved.

Because that's how people do things these days.
I bet most people moaning about it upload photos. Why do these people need to see your holiday photos? Yet you still upload them.
Oversharing is the future, and I see it only getting worse.

Scroll past if it bothers you so much OP.

Facebook is for people who like talking about themselves

You're being funny and ironic right?? Or I'm assuming you're as stupid as the op!

This. It's really unsavoury and unpleasant behaviour, and smacks of bitterness and jealousy. I bet they're as nice as pie to these people in real life. Probably even 'like' the posts and say 'aww that's nice hun...' And then post scathing threads like this about them on here.

Urgh! Imagine being the kind of person who does that? 😖Such mean-spirited and spiteful behaviour. As has been said, just bloody unfriend them - or unfollow if you haven't got the guts to unfriend.

Oh my god yes THIS. I’ll take a feed full of gushing love posts directed at partners any day over an onslaught of little darlings on their first day at school. Oh they’ve grown since last year? Time is going fast? Yes, yes it is. But you know what - I hate those posts, so I'll scroll past!

I actually love it when people do it, real guilty pleasure! The more crass the better!

Yuck, yes, I can't stand the gushing either.

God people are defensive/sensitive!

Post what you like on SM, I don’t think anyone’s saying people can’t post what they want, just that they find it twee/naff/cringe etc. So what? If you’re happy with what you post, why do you care?

Plenty of people probably think I post a lot of shite on FB, I’m not bothered though 😛

I do like a back to school photo though. 😄 genuinely I really do

Maybe you post too much? Honestly I prefer the one off to the daily posts etc.

i certainly don’t post on Fb daily my life is nowhere near interesting enough 😅 now I wfh I can’t even moan about traffic jams

No it’s nothing like giving someone a card.

Many people don’t send cards now and instead text.

You give a card to someone or text someone personally, you don’t do it for the attention of other people.

The only way it would be similar to a card was if you read it aloud before handing it over, which would be very weird.

I guess some people like to propose in busy public areas for the attention too, which is similar to writing it on social media.

I don't do Tiktok because it's stupid. I don't then join it and rant about stupid videos on Tiktok.

Again, I'm not on Twitter. I dont join it and moan about people updating their status.

See my point?

Facebook. I'm on there and take the good with the bad. I'm not better because I'm also part of it.

Not on tiktok or twitter. I can judge.

No I don’t really see your point tbh. My point is anyone can post what they like on SM and no need to get so defensive or sensitive because people don’t like certain types of post. Who really cares?

Yes very weird, but at least the person it's directed at is actually on Facebook, I suppose.
It's the "I love you and am so proud of you and can't wait to see you open these presents!" ones that I can't get my head around, addressed to a 1-year old. Who are they talking to?!

Yes I find this weird too!

I only have people I like on FB and so they can post what they like as they are actual friends. In the past, I did have more people who were more acquaintances who posted some right drivel. Those people have been removed now - so maybe you need to be more selective about who you have on there.

Ah I've just checked over and I may have got your post all wrong!

I can definitely say I dislike the op and their followers. I'm sticking with that.

To you though I'm sorry. I think we're sort of on the same wavelength.

Attention seekers fishing for likes I guess.

I’m guessing all your family and friends with children are close by so you’re able to see them or you use another app to keep in touch?

A lot of my family and friends live a long flight away and with a SEN child, the last time we were able to visit was almost six years ago. DH’s side we only see a few times a year and some we only see once or twice depending on when we can visit and if they’re available.

Seeing how much all the children have grown from one year to the next is lovely to us because a lot changes in a year and children grow quickly. I recall meeting many of our cousins’ children when they were babies and toddlers and it still surprises me how fast time has flown. Some have children I have yet to meet and have only seen in pictures and vice versa.

Everyones entitled to post whatever they like, and everyones entitled to think what they like. However a lot of you should consider yourselfs lucky to not understand the use of social media for those grieving. When your world falls apart and no one wants to talk about that person for fear of upsetting you it can be a strange and lonely place. Remembering them on SM and saying this is whats in my thoughts today can be therapeutic and helps to keep them relevant which for a lot of people is necessary. You may wish to mourn privately, I do most of the time, every single day. But on their birthday I want the world to remember they existed and that I loved them. Each to their own. I couldnt give a flying F*ck about the attention from it, and if you think thats what most people want then I'm genuinely pleased for you that you cant have been through this horrific trama.
Lifes too short... if you dont like what people post change your settings.

It really is bizarre to me that I know people in RL who are cool and funny and self-deprecating but on FB look like total narcissistic wankers because it’s all about them with odd Americanised type gushing, weird selfies and Alan Patridgesque bragging. The sort of thing that their real life selves would (and perversely do) mock!

Yanbu op - such a shame it has to be couched in fake, gushing language that people actually don’t use in real life. I would’ve been a fan if it had developed down a ‘British’ line - ie cynical, self deprecating, modest, drole, witty, diverse, informed etc. but no, it’s straight out of Hallmark cards and Chucky Cheese fakery. Just make it stop!