Page 6 | Gushy Facebook posts

AnneAnon · 30/08/2023 02:06

God I’m so fed up with people trying to police other people. Have you nothing better to do than sit there and try to make people feel just a little bit shittier?

find a hobby.

Wishitwaswarmer · 30/08/2023 02:10

ihaveanopinion · 29/08/2023 19:18

Why do people feel the need to post gushing anniversary posts on social media?! Even more laughable when I know the husband is having an affair! Just feels so forced and gives me the ick! Every year this same couple post individual messages to each other for all their friends and family to see and comment on. Why do people do this?! Are their lives that sad or AIBU?

I have no problem with these posts on FB. If they are your real friends, you understand the sensitive reasons behind why they are posting these things. If they aren't then you have no real idea of what is going on in their lives (however much you think you do) and can just scroll past without it having any effect on you.
If you think about the kind of things you post on your own social media, it's likely someone on your "friend" list will have an opinion on it. If you post about the amazing family holiday you're having, presumably your best friend at home knows the difficulties you've had before that perfect beach photo but doesn't call you out it

Midl · 30/08/2023 02:13

Insufferable, isn't it? In fact, this thread reminds me of a funny article I read about types of insufferable Facebook posts. I'll post it on a new thread so I won't hijack yours.

PurBal · 30/08/2023 03:15

Interestingly I post very little on FB. The only time I post is on our anniversary. I wouldn’t call it gushy, it’s usually more of a date where I acknowledge the past year. DH isn’t on social media so he doesn’t read it so I suppose it’s a little odd but it’s not like I live tweet my life. I don’t post on birthdays for him or our children (or me for that matter). Or at Christmas. Occasionally New Year. Maybe the odd holiday snap.

The “heavenly birthday” thing I actually find less odd than posting a scan pic of a pregnancy announcement. “Years mind” has been thing for centuries, social media is just the modern way. Every man has two deaths, when he is buried in the ground and the last time someone says his name. In some ways men can be immortal. -Ernest Hemingway (although there are variations on this attributed to other people so no idea who said it originally but you get the idea).

What are people supposed to post? Memes? I don’t need to be friends with people for generic memes… one has FB because there’s some level of personal connection and interaction.

ETA: what people post is generally up to them and it doesn’t bother me.

annalouise1984 · 30/08/2023 05:37

Screamingabdabz · 30/08/2023 01:34

It really is bizarre to me that I know people in RL who are cool and funny and self-deprecating but on FB look like total narcissistic wankers because it’s all about them with odd Americanised type gushing, weird selfies and Alan Patridgesque bragging. The sort of thing that their real life selves would (and perversely do) mock!

Yanbu op - such a shame it has to be couched in fake, gushing language that people actually don’t use in real life. I would’ve been a fan if it had developed down a ‘British’ line - ie cynical, self deprecating, modest, drole, witty, diverse, informed etc. but no, it’s straight out of Hallmark cards and Chucky Cheese fakery. Just make it stop!

You can in fact "make it stop" by using the unfollow or unfriend options. Hope that helps.

Riapia · 30/08/2023 06:33

It’s as ridiculous as couples who swap anniversary cards.

Speakerbox · 30/08/2023 06:49

It doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

An anniversary is one day a year. I know plenty of people who put a post up & it’s genuine.

If I did find them annoying, I would just scroll past & get on with my day….

squashyhat · 30/08/2023 07:00

Riapia · 30/08/2023 06:33

It’s as ridiculous as couples who swap anniversary cards.

Why is this ridiculous?

Mamai90 · 30/08/2023 07:14

I'm not on social media but when I was there were two people who constantly posted pictures of their kids 'my world' but with one who was a family member she barely saw her child and her parents were raising him. She'd only want to cuddle him for her FB posts. With the other she was neglectful of her kids and they kept being taken into care. This grinds my gears even more than the gushing couples posts or the valentines gifts 'spoilt rotten' but I agree that it's all a facade, and I would nearly pity them.

HashBrownandBeans · 30/08/2023 07:19

I like to see people happy. It’s really not that big a deal. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I big up my DH constantly because he’s never had a ‘cheerleader’ before, all his family and ex have ever done is knock him down to keep him small because of their own lack of ambition and get up and go. It makes them feel better. He works bloody hard and is a fantastic life partner and parent and it’s about time someone told the world. It’s not always about attention seeking. I always tell him I’m his biggest fan. 😊

marblesthecat · 30/08/2023 07:19

Vile isn't it. Do they honestly think other people want to read this? I also hate the "Happy Heavenly Birthday" posts but what's even worse is the "Happy 70th wedding anniversary in Heaven Mum and Dad!" It is not their 70th wedding anniversary if they are dead. II don't mean to sound callous, I understand how awful it is losing a loved one but Jesus.

fruitstick · 30/08/2023 07:21

DinnaeFashYersel · 29/08/2023 19:23

They make me want to boak

I also find Happy Heavenly Birthday posts rather cringey too

@ihaveanopinion @DinnaeFashYersel what a horrid thing to say.

My son died. I mark his birthday on social media. Why does everyone need to know I'm grieving that day? Because I am. And every day. This is my life.

You are criticising people for being inauthentic and pretending their lives are marvellous when they are not, now you are sneering at people for showing their pain.

I don't want to grieve privately on his birthday, I want everyone to remember and celebrate him. It's important that he is not forgotten.

Maybe you should try a few more #blessed posts yourself.

BubziOwl · 30/08/2023 07:23

Wiii · 29/08/2023 19:26

I like them. I like to see other people happy.

Same here. I post next to nothing on my socials except the odd picture of a nice view on a walk, but I like seeing happy things from other people. Sometimes people just like to share things with their friends and family. I think to assume it's just attention seeking and not at all based in a genuine impulse to express joy is pessimistic.

fruitstick · 30/08/2023 07:24

HelpMeUnpickThis · 29/08/2023 19:34

You sound mean. Esp the “heavenly birthday” comment.

I lost my younger sister very, very unexpectedly and it has completely devastated me. She was a twin so on that day I wish my other sister, the lone twin, a happy birthday and so it feels weird to not remember / acknowledge my sister who is no longer here with us.

@HelpMeUnpickThis I'm so sorry about your sister.

HoliHormonalTigerLillyTheSecond · 30/08/2023 07:30

HelpMeUnpickThis · 29/08/2023 19:34

You sound mean. Esp the “heavenly birthday” comment.

I lost my younger sister very, very unexpectedly and it has completely devastated me. She was a twin so on that day I wish my other sister, the lone twin, a happy birthday and so it feels weird to not remember / acknowledge my sister who is no longer here with us.

So sorry 💛

pompomdaisy · 30/08/2023 07:30

I find it worse when people constantly change their profile picture so others can comment on how they look. It's weird!

HoliHormonalTigerLillyTheSecond · 30/08/2023 07:31

ihaveanopinion · 29/08/2023 19:36

@HelpMeUnpickThis totally understand that and I'm sorry for your loss but to me I'd want to just mark it privately. In your situation I understand it's a little different as you're wishing one twin a happy birthday on social media and therefore want to acknowledge the other, I get that.

I guess people are different hey OP. Not everyone is going to feel the same as you. Who knew? 🤷🏻‍♀️

RantyAnty · 30/08/2023 07:40

I have a relative who gushes about her twatty bellend of a husband.

He doesn't like her posts or post about her ever.

It's embarrassing.

fruitstick · 30/08/2023 07:41

marblesthecat · 30/08/2023 07:19

Vile isn't it. Do they honestly think other people want to read this? I also hate the "Happy Heavenly Birthday" posts but what's even worse is the "Happy 70th wedding anniversary in Heaven Mum and Dad!" It is not their 70th wedding anniversary if they are dead. II don't mean to sound callous, I understand how awful it is losing a loved one but Jesus.

You sound nice.

Yes. Totally vile that people express their love for someone, whether alive or dead.

Maybe they don't care whether you want to read it, maybe they just want to write it down.

marblesthecat · 30/08/2023 07:43

fruitstick · 30/08/2023 07:41

You sound nice.

Yes. Totally vile that people express their love for someone, whether alive or dead.

Maybe they don't care whether you want to read it, maybe they just want to write it down.

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And they absolutely can write it down but other people will read it and think it's stupid, as is evident by this thread.

IrritableVowel · 30/08/2023 07:48

Can I ask... All of you who seem to think it is wrong/vile/cringe to post practically any memory, occasion or photo on Facebook, what do you use FB for and what kind of posts don't you have an aversion to?

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 30/08/2023 07:49

I love them.
My friends are awesome, I love celebrating with them.

I sometimes gush about my ds and my partner. Heck, I gush about my dog and cats too. I love celebrating my family.

I have written mushy posts on my best friends and how thankful I am for them. I like to write and express gratitude. It works for me.

Both my son and partner are survivors of lots of trauma. Getting to brag about the incredible people they are and how lucky I am to have them in my life? Yes please.

BeCuriousNotJudgemental · 30/08/2023 07:50

HashBrownandBeans · 30/08/2023 07:19

I like to see people happy. It’s really not that big a deal. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I big up my DH constantly because he’s never had a ‘cheerleader’ before, all his family and ex have ever done is knock him down to keep him small because of their own lack of ambition and get up and go. It makes them feel better. He works bloody hard and is a fantastic life partner and parent and it’s about time someone told the world. It’s not always about attention seeking. I always tell him I’m his biggest fan. 😊

❤️

neverexpectedthis · 30/08/2023 07:51

I think k you have to separate gushy/lovey romantic posts from posts about people who've died.I lost my mum in a traumatic way and sometimes putting up a post on her birthday is my way of saying 'she was here, she existed'. I can't send a card or give a present or tell her face to face but I also don't want her birthday to slip by as though she was never here.

I think there's a big difference between that and my friend (who I've unfollowed because it was TOO much) who posts constantly about how wonderful her husband/life is, how much she adores him etc. I get it...she's happy and I'm also really pleased for her but I don't understand why she needs to constantly broadcast it.

So I think they are two different things.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 30/08/2023 07:51

Oh and I write posts each year about my best friend who passed 13 years ago. I like to share his memory and more importantly his mom loves them. She writes a post too. I know it makes her happy when me and our other close friends remember him.