Is DS's new GF a CF or AIBU?

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Adult DS 25 still lives at home. DH and I go away every weekend in our caravan and so his newish GF 26 and also still lives at home (who I have yet to meet in person) comes and stays with him which I'm absolutely fine with she lives 3hr drive away. The last 2 weeks we've come home and she's left used panty liners both in the bathroom bin and in DS's wastepaper bin in bedroom.
I don't know how to broach it with him. He will take it that I don't like her without meeting her etc. It's not like she's a young kid at 26, personally I would either empty both bins before I left or pop them in my wash bag to take home with me. I left the caddy bags out as a hint this weekend. I would be mortified to think someone else would see something so intimate and for context they're not wrapped back up in their packet either.
Opinions?

Oh god now i feel weird, just stayed at my BF's for a week while his mum was on holiday looking after her dogs, and i left 2 in her bathroom bin, but rolled up wrapped in loo roll. I hope i haven't made her feel the way your sons GF has made you feel :/ If i have i hope the flowers i left before leaving make up for it!

@WiddlinDiddlin not sure OP has ever had to tell her DS what to do with his used panty liners…

You are good!

😂

Unwrapped? Disgusting and just unnecessary.

They belong in the bin, it’s not like she just left them on the floor… what an odd AIBU, yea you are

Perfectly acceptable. It's the unwrapped, 'sunny side up' ones that most normal people object to.

@DoraSpenlow sunny side up. Stop. 😂😭

If they smell there is something wrong with the PH balance and needs a visit to the docs

normal vaginal secretions shouldn’t smell ever plus scented pant liners fuck no that would upset the PH balance and cos you to itch and smell. Scented anything down there is a no no.

I am so glad someone else asked this. Is this a thing? Surely not year-round?

Well yes the belong in the bin but I think it would be polite to empty the bin before you arrived home. I know my daughter would just tell her bf to empty it before his Mum saw them as its the same as seeing someone else's poo skid in the toilet. The poo is in the right place but no one wants to see the evidence.

OP I think you need to take a step back on this one. I don't want to be mean because, jeez everyone has been nasty on mumsnet today, but you are definitely BU.

I would hate my sons' girlfriends feeling they had to carry sanitary products home with them. It's really easy to have lidded bins with liners, and don't rummage. Son should empty his own bin.. I never see or touch what is in the bathroom bin, but I know it's a mix of wipes, waxy ear buds, quite possibly booger tissues, who knows what else bleurghhh..... why would you NOT set that bin up to be minimal visuals ans minimum touching - for everyone's benefit?

Lord, is she having to take used condoms home as well?

This weirdness over the contents of the bin is very likely to be part of the reason you haven't been introduced yet.

Exactly.
I don’t want to see someone’s poo, snot, semen, urine… you get the gist… either. It’s not shaming someone, it’s just basic hygiene.

It’s in a lidded bin and only seen when lid removed for removal of rubbish with other things in it.

the other bin op shouldn’t of been in the room to see it as he’s a man not a child and should be emptying his own bins

get it

well looking on the bright side, at least shes not pregnant!

So you expect GF to wrap used liners up before throwing them away (thereby contributing to planet pollution, but we have already established on this thread that you are unreasonable)....

but don't provide any bags near the bin to be used for this purpose, even after the first visit where it became clear that she uses panty liners?

YABVVU. And FFS stop being such a wimp and learn to deal with the concept that other women have vaginal secretions and discharges. (Some of which may even be .... well, you know that after sex not involving a condom, fluids choose the most inconvenient moment to...ahem...descend, I hope.)

You have a son. What are your views on crispy tissues?

I'm with you.
Remove the bin from the bathroom.

I expect you're right! Dd1 even washes up for her bf's mum. Not sure she knows where the sink is in our house!!!

This made me laugh out loud, bang on!

Except that's not what the OP is upset about. If she had posted that the girlfriend only came when they were out of town as if she were avoiding them and using them as a cheap hotel, then YES, the girlfriend would be a CF and I would agree with her.

@brentwoods I didn’t raise the point did I though, it was of course another PP.

This will most likely be OPs next post.

Yanbu she should put them in a disposable bag then put in the bin.

Its a pantyliner though not a period pad. Tad different

It's not sanitary towel for periods it's panty liners