Is DS's new GF a CF or AIBU?

[Toolittl]

Adult DS 25 still lives at home. DH and I go away every weekend in our caravan and so his newish GF 26 and also still lives at home (who I have yet to meet in person) comes and stays with him which I'm absolutely fine with she lives 3hr drive away. The last 2 weeks we've come home and she's left used panty liners both in the bathroom bin and in DS's wastepaper bin in bedroom.
I don't know how to broach it with him. He will take it that I don't like her without meeting her etc. It's not like she's a young kid at 26, personally I would either empty both bins before I left or pop them in my wash bag to take home with me. I left the caddy bags out as a hint this weekend. I would be mortified to think someone else would see something so intimate and for context they're not wrapped back up in their packet either.
Opinions?

Why would they start to smell? Are you confusing pantyliners with sanitary towels?

Most panty liners don’t have packaging to wrap them up in though, she could wrap with tissue but since she put them straight into a bin with a liner and a lid maybe she thought wrapping them in toilet paper was unnecessary. She obviously didn’t think you’d be inspecting the bid that closely?

I think you should ask your son to change the bins before you return.

I absolutely advocate not leaving tissues with snot on them in the bin such that the snot is visible. And I am going to think anyone that does this constantly is gross.

How much bodily fluid do you think is on a pantyliner? They’re not sanitary towels. How fragile are you that you can’t handle seeing a tiny bit of discharge and feel the need to shame women for it?

Christ sake nobody is shaming anyone for having bodily functions.

Hotels/aeroplanes/public restrooms all have sanpro bags, there is a clue there for those of you thinking this is perfectly acceptable, at a minimum due to politeness / etiquette / whatever, for the sake of the poor host, who this GF hasn’t even met, she should wrap it in something.

Snorts, at the jizzy condom, again, that’s gross.

Ok so how many have had a word with someone about leaving tissues IN THE BIN, but not screwed up enough to hide that a human has used them?

If someone came for lunch and put one in the bin would you expect them to empty the bin?
She's his guest.
If anyone should be emptying bins it's him.
Don't go in his room. He's an adult. He can put his own washing away and empty his own bin.

Oh, forgot about hospitals having separate bins for clinical waste.

@Naunet

its not shaming a woman’s biology to not want to see her discharge , ffs

YABU. Having said that, I would never have left mine on show like that, even in my own home. But young people these days don't seem bothered. My dds aren't and rarely use the bags I provide.

Suppose there are women who also happily sit in the pee that's left on their toilet seats so as not to shame their sons.

@Onelifeonly your DDs, because you’ve taught them to do so in their home, are considerate in other peoples homes. Maybe not, but I’ll hazard a guess they just may well be, even if they are not so inclined at home. Usually the case 😀

A bathroom bin is where sanitary products go? Yabu.

Wouldn't an unwrapped pantyliner or pad get stuck to the liner in the bin so it would be sitting quite near the top of the bin?

A bathroom bin generally has a quite small circumference so if you were just dropping the pantyliner in the bin without covering the stick back, it would just end up practically sat on top of the bin wouldn't it? Then whatever's on it could end up on the lid of the bin which means someone else would need to clean it off.

OP says pantyliners, not pads. Panty liners are used throughout the month for discharge as well as light periods.

Bathroom bins are gross and unnecessary anyway. Let them use the one they have in their bedroom and they can deal with it.

** i.e. remove the bin from the bathroom

It's in the bin ...I don't see an issue...yabu

Anyone else wondering where the used condoms are?

If you must have words, start there. Bot every woman is honest about contraception. Maybe he will surprise you and say they have both been checked.

Pads are a non issue. You wouldnt raise it with your own friend so dont embarrass her.

She is his guest.

He is the host, it is up to him to tell her what the usual rules/expectations are in the home and ensure she sticks to them or, he sorts it out.

The issue lies with him. She is putting refuse in the bin. Thats what it is for, thats where it goes. If you have different or specific rules on this, its on the host to tell the guest what they are.

So YABU for having failed to raise your son to host properly.

No I'm not. Normal vaginal secretions can smell after a while, hence the market for fragrances pant liners.

It's a covered bin with a liner? You are being mental.

How is she being a CF by putting her trash where it belongs? She's not taking advantage of you in any way. When you think you've heard all the things people can be offended by, Mumsnet goes one better.

I'm with you up. Surely you wrap them in toilet paper before putting them in the bin? And at someone else's house I would definitely put them in a nappy sack and in the main outside bin before I left.

@brentwoods well, arguable as she’s not taking advantage as she is enjoying the comfort of OPs, and her BFs house at every opportunity OP is not around.