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WWYD if your husband...

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Secondplace · 08/08/2023 04:32

...was perving on women half his age?

My husband has been working away at the other end of the world for the past six months. Usually he works in a very male dominated environment with no women but in Australia it doesn't seem to be the same and so he has been working with young women aged approx 18-25. He is 42.

Anyway, he and his colleagues have been sharing screen shots of some of these young women 🤢 some in bikinis (I assume from Facebook/Instagram) and sending messages back and forth to other men at work with lots of innuendo. I'm fairly certain no cheating went on, but I feel pretty horrified. One of the men in the group messages was fired for harassing a young girl/Sending inappropriate messages. My H told me all about this and heavily criticised this guy to me, but only a few months ago he was joining in with this man in what I would consider pervy behaviour for men in their 40s.

I snooped on his phone (I know I know) that's how I know about this. What would you think if this was your husband/partner?

I'm really upset and don't know if I'm overreacting - we have two young DDs and the thought of men doing this to them in 10-15 years time makes me feel sick. I was not happy about him working away to begin with but he insisted it was something he had to do financially/career wise so I reluctantly gave him the green light , but now I feel like a mug, holding down the fort while he is acting like a dog in heat. AIBU?

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TotHappy · 05/03/2024 02:26

Me too, Caerulea!
You sounded so sane and wholesome OP, it cast a very clear light on his grotesque behaviour. I hope you're doing well.

Namemchangeforthispostonly101 · 05/03/2024 02:46

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The OP has privacy concerns, so we've agreed to take this down now.

Garlicking · 05/03/2024 02:50

@Namemchangeforthispostonly101, OP's already left 👍🏼 She updated her thread tonight.

WandaWonder · 05/03/2024 04:16

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The OP has privacy concerns, so we've agreed to take this down now.

That is just as stupid, the internet cetainly brings oddities out

Secondplace · 05/03/2024 08:56

Thank you Caerulea and TotHappy

"Congratulations on getting rid of it" Did make me laugh Caerulea!

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