My boyfriends family member paid for everyone’s ice cream, AIBU for being upset that bf didn’t say anything

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I hope this doesn’t seem too petty. I went out with my boyfriend , his sister and her boyfriend. We had ice creams. My boyfriends sisters boyfriend told my boyfriend he’ll pay for him and his girlfriends ice cream whilst waiting in line. I had to pay for my own ice cream. I felt quite awkward. I by no means want a hand out, but this felt quite rude. I felt upset that my boyfriend didn’t say that he’d pay for us to stand up for me abit. I know I would stood up for him in that position. AIBU?

From the OP My boyfriends family member
*I went out with my boyfriend , his sister and her boyfriend.~
My boyfriends sisters boyfriend told my boyfriend he’ll pay for him and his girlfriends ice cream

I'd say it's the boyfriend's sister and the subsequent mention is an error. Otherwise 'his girlfriend' is a weird way to refer to your own sister.

Mind you, I've now confused myself so I suspect I'm not helping.

Just to confirm, it was my boyfriends sisters boyfriend who didn’t pay for me.

Your boyfriend should have brought it up with you, to tell you how awful that was and how he’s very very sorry he didn’t step in.

God, it's really not that deep...

Out of curiosity, who bought the tickets for the day?

Apologies dulra. I did not notice that in the 2nd post.

Yes its rude to leave one person in a group out.

Its also rude and bizaare to me that everyone is saying your boyfriend should have bought yours... NO. You should have each bought your own or you could have offered to buy his but this is making it out like your mad you didn't get a freebie not because you where the only one.

You should expect to buy your own anyway it should be the awkwardness of social etiquette here not that 'no one' bought you one.

Yy I don't understand where these posters have come from who pretend women never buy anything from ice cream to homes. It's like we've been infiltrated by the 1950s.

This is such a non issue - I'd probably think it was a bit odd but I'd assume he had a reason and give it no further thought. Amazed so many up in arms sliver an ice cream 😅

Sister's boyfriend made things weird by paying for your boyfriend, then your boyfriend was a bit stuck as it would then be a bit awkward for him to pay for you.
If your boyfriend would normally pay for you in that sort of situation, I'd let it go.

I'd also take them out to the pub and buy for everyone except the sister's boyfriend

Sisters boyfriend was incredibly mean/rude/both but it's the OPs boyfriend who should have stepped up, I would lose my respect for him after that.

Not really your boyfriend's fault, what would you have done in his place? However, the other bloke is a git. Unless the others wanted a small cone and you'd asked for a double knickerbocker glory with a Bailey's topping!

I think it's right your bf acknowledged this.

I wouldn't bother much about the sisters bf he's just a weirdo

Thanks OP.

This!

Yes I think it was rude - you wouldn’t go to a pub as a foursome and only buy three drinks

What the hell
both ur bf and the sisters bf are tools!!! What’s his problem!

The ice-cream buyer is a wanker.

No, the bf’s sisters bf offered to pay for his own, his gf’s and op’s bf’s ice cream. So op was the only one who wasn’t paid for.
it was rude. He should have either paid for all, or for just his and his gf.
Op’s bf should have said ‘no, don’t get mine, I’ll pay for mine and Redrose.
both tightwads. Ltb

I really don’t know why some other posters don’t think that this is weird! If someone offers to buy ice creams/ coffees/drinks then they buy for everyone. Who the fuck leaves someone out?? Weirdos - and that word describes the BF’s brother and the posters on here who are making excuses for the tight arse git who only bought 3 ice creams when there wer 4 people in the group.

I would give your own bf the benefit of doubt as it was all a bit awkward and he probably just didn’t think/react quick enough. And I would give his sisters bf a wide berth. Do you get the vibe that he doesn’t like you? If he seems ok with you then go for a drink and get to the bar first to pay for you, bf and bf’s sister. He’s a prick, sounds like you got the better bf of the 2 so be happy with that. I think that your bf acknowledged that it was weird and awkward is a good thing but he should have stepped in.

It’s a bit petty but given their ages, I wouldn’t dwell. Most people in their early 20s are skint and possibly not overly used to situations like this?

Maybe your BF paid last time and they think they owe him but could only afford his? He probably should have said, no ill get ours, you get yours

dont bring it up days after the event. Drop it and forget it: it’s not a big enough deal to make an issue

Read the original post properly, dear.

You should have said loudly, oh don’t worry about stretching to get mine, I’ll buy my own.
Then you proceed to buy yourself (and only yourself) the biggest and best ice cream there. Don’t bother with saying anything, just keep that little twat act in mind for the next time, so you’re ready if he decides to be an asshole again.

Its odd behaviour on the part of the sisters bf but I don't see the big deal in the fact that your boyfriend didn't say he would buy yours and his. Its just ice cream!

No, I wouldn't bring it up. I'd think "Huh, people can be strange" and get on with my life.

Ffs it was an ice cream love get over yourself