My boyfriends family member paid for everyone’s ice cream, AIBU for being upset that bf didn’t say anything

[Redrose28]

I hope this doesn’t seem too petty. I went out with my boyfriend , his sister and her boyfriend. We had ice creams. My boyfriends sisters boyfriend told my boyfriend he’ll pay for him and his girlfriends ice cream whilst waiting in line. I had to pay for my own ice cream. I felt quite awkward. I by no means want a hand out, but this felt quite rude. I felt upset that my boyfriend didn’t say that he’d pay for us to stand up for me abit. I know I would stood up for him in that position. AIBU?

Thanks for the comments all. My boyfriend has gone away for 3 weeks. So maybe if we have a phone call at some point I will try to bring it up calmly and gauge his reaction

And op wasn’t asking anyone to mop up her tears. You must have an awful lot in your baggage to behave like this.

That and they clearly need a nap.

That must have been awkward. I went on a double date many years ago and my friends date bought her movie ticket, but my date didn’t buy mine. It was a bit embarrassing.

I wouldn’t worry about it the ice cream. If this sort of thing happens a lot I would make a joke out of it. If your boyfriend doesn’t back you up in general and lets people treat you with disrespect he isn’t the one for you.

As long as you would have bought them all an ice-cream/drinks etc if you were front of the line then that was tight.

Odd and rude, and your boyfriend should have said something. Why have you not spoken to him about it @Redrose28 and asked him why he didn't bother defending you?

Have you been together long? How old are you? Where is he going for 3 weeks?! Does he not have a job?

Well done. 😂

I just have an opinion. You called me small minded. How am I the troll?

Of course it has a bloody bearing, are you being intentionally obtuse?

Yes. He should have pulled up the bf on his spectacular rudeness.

Eh? Ok.

People are so strange. If he couldn't pay for all 4 of you then he should of just kept his mouth shut and paid for just him and his partner. Why leave you out and make it awkward?! He's either got zero social awareness or he's just a dick. Your bf could of just refused and paid for the two of you though so you wernt left out.

It's strange that he'd buy his sister's brother an ice cream and not you. He should have paid for his gfs and his or offered to buy them all. Anyway, his card can now be marked :o)

Is there any obvious reason that your BF's sister's BF paid for your BF's ice cream? e.g did your BF pay for parking or drive there (so it was contribution to petrol) or did they reference "owing" something (drinks from before, BF bought ice creams previously etc)?

TBH, I don't think your BF is in the wrong, but your BF's sister's BF was rude, unless it was clear that your BF's ice-cream was being bought as a repayment - which of course would stop it being awkward or you being "left out". Obviously, if you did find it awkward, there was nothing stopping you from saying "Don't worry I'll get these" (either all the ice-creams or your BF and your ice-creams, whichever you prefer - as long as you made it clear) when BF's sister's BF offered to buy for your BF.

The only justification i can think of is that he owed your boyfriend money or it was his turn to buy for your boyfriend. It's not a good way to do things though.

No, in a word. 🙄

Very rude, it's little things like this that add up to whether you like or dislike a person. I personally dislike meanness. I probably would have not got myself one to make the others feel uncomfortable, but I'm petty like that 😂

Did this happen in Wales?

He was being a tit. That's it. Don't give it any further headspace.

That was horrible. He should have gone without and bought you one.

This! For me, it would make me reconsider the relationship and anything else like it and I'd get rid.

I see dating as a process of elimination. This would be enough for me to eliminate.

Well I would say that the sister's boyfriend doesn't like you and possibly the sister too as she could/should have said something to him. I'm surprised your boyfriend either didn't say "thanks but no as I'm buying my own and Redrose's too" or just have bought yours.