AIBU to not want the naughty child in my son's class

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My DS is about to start reception and is moving over with a group of children from his preschool. There were 26 in the class of these 13 boys are going into one class while my DS is going into another with only 4 other boys from the preschool
One of the boys is known amongst the parents as being particularly naughty, always in the thinking chair and my DS says he has "nasty hands" and on more than one occasion my DS has been upset from this boy being unkind/rough with him.
My DS would be one of the youngest and I am annoyed that this child has been placed in the same class as my son while a lot of his other friends have gone into the other class.
AIBU for being annoyed about this? It's too late to speak to the school as the children have had their settling in session but I just wish this boy was not in his class.

Yanbu to be annoyed about it but theres nothing you can do so I would stop thinking about it or you'll annoy yourself more.
Plenty of kids are mean. This boy could settle down and 2 others could start up. You really cant know.

Yes yabu to be annoyed and you will get short shrift if you speak to the teacher about it. Give the kid and the school a chance. Not only is summer a long time at 4 but schools have all sorts of strategies preschools don't use because the kids are tiny.

YABU to be annoyed yes. Disappointed yes but who are you annoyed at and why? What's so special about your son (to anyone else)

Yes you are being unreasonable.

YABU. He’s not the “naughty child”. All behaviour is communication.

There might be another naughty child in the other class though? I think the time to speak up was when school places were allocated tbh. See how things go.

At that age I would be more angry that such a young child has been made out to be such a monster.

There will be more than one 'naughty' kid across the two classes 🙄
Possibly even yours on occasion

You are being unreasonable to be honest; the boy has to be in somebody's class; and for all you know there's a child that you don't know that you may not like either.

Presumably the teacher will deal with any discipline issues.

You can't make school perfect for your child.

So this kid is 3/4 and is not yet emotionally developed or have the coping skills to express himself that he lashes out - yes you are unreasonable he is a young child.

"Known amongst the parents" is such a horrible thing

YANBU to be annoyed, but that child had to be put somewhere. He may improve as he gets older.

They're 4.

The kid will grow out of it as the teachers deal with it and your child (like all the others) will learn that not everyone's the same, and at any time he could come across similar children.

By the time your child is in Junior school, he could be the sort of child you're talking about and the school will deal with that too.

Oh come on. We all know which kids are naughty.

I empathise and this is not going to gladden your heart at all but I can near-on guarantee that there will be at least two little terrors in each class. At least. Whether through learning difficulties or precocious assholery. Focus on teaching your son how to act when he is treated unkindly, and what kind of values he should look for in his friends.

Exactly this.

But do speak to the teachers qnd give them a heads up about who is a "naughty" parent

I thought that too. It’s awful.

🤣 you think the other class won’t have any children who need support around their behaviour?

Your son is with 4 (or 3 if you want to ignore this one) other children. Plus - news flash! - in YR you’ll find the boys and girls do mix a lot. So he’s hardly moving up on his own.

I think OP is getting a hard time here. Sure, the kid who hits has to go somewhere, but it’s not unreasonable to feel bad it’s in your DC’s class, if DC has had a difficult time with him.

There was a kid who hit a lot in my DS’s pre school class and I was seriously considering raising the issue of Reception . Classes with school but he went to another school where his parents thought his special gifts and talents would be better served…

Well not unreasonable really, BUT in state schools there are going to be several "naughty" disruptive children in each class. Trust me, every single class.

Jesus imagine a child being singled out like this by nursery providers to the extent that already the children and parents have labelled him a naughty child. That is actually shocking.

In my experience they all change as they grow, your DC will sadly experience lots of 'naughty' behaviour, learn phrases you would rather they didn't repeat, be told 'we don't want to play with you' and they themselves display behaviour you'd rather they didn't on occasion, that is a normal part of growing up and learning to interact through school.

It really is just life. Accept and move on.

He won't be the only challenging child OP.

You can't control who else is in your child's class and there may be a new child with even more challenging behaviour in the other class for all you know.

I think what is unreasonable (and what should be your focus) is that there is an unfair split of the children from preschool.