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Being ostracised by friends over kink at Pride

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TheEverlovingFork · 07/06/2023 20:07

Ok first of all I am a) completely willing to be told I'm in the wrong and b) bisexual myself, but I am also a fairly conservative churchgoer and I'm aware my feelings might be really outdated.

Basically some friends and I were talking about Pride month and I said I didn't agree with explicit kink in the public parades, like the more extreme leather fetish gear and puppy-play and so on, because I think that no matter what your orientation is, being proud of your sexual identity doesn't equate to simulating/practising it in public. If i saw a straight couple in leather underpants grinding on each other in public I would wonder if they were unwell.

I completely understand the being able to kiss and hold hands and show romantic affection in public as that is an unthinking privilege heterosexual people have and it should be ok for all LBGT people. I've come in for a lot of homophobic abuse myself over the years for holding hands with a partner. I really get that aspect.

I just don't feel explicit bedroom antics are ok in the parades, and now I'm being told I'm a reactionary and not supportive of the community. I'm a member of the community myself, am I supposed to meld into the new acceptable groupthink as a bisexual? Didn't get the memo.

Anyway, maybe I am just uptight because of my religious beliefs. I don't know. If i had children I would not want them to see some of the the things I've seen in parades.

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OMG12 · 15/06/2023 16:01

Lifescary · 15/06/2023 06:38

Whatever happened to their body, their choice?

Their choice stops when it starts impacting on other peoples choice as to whether they consent to being included in the fetish!

IncompleteSenten · 15/06/2023 18:47

OMG12 · 15/06/2023 16:01

Their choice stops when it starts impacting on other peoples choice as to whether they consent to being included in the fetish!

Quite.

Everyone has the right to masturbate.

They don't have the right to do it in the middle of Tesco.

LaMaG · 15/06/2023 18:57

YANBU and agree 100%. I would protest if it were women publicly twerking in g strings or dressed in dominatrix gear. You want equality - you got it so behave the way everyone else does and stop embarrassing yourself and demeaning those that you claim to represent.

bd67thSaysReinstateLangCleg · 16/06/2023 23:33

IncompleteSenten · 15/06/2023 18:47

Quite.

Everyone has the right to masturbate.

They don't have the right to do it in the middle of Tesco.

You owe me a new keyboard because mine now has tea in it.

CatherinedeBourgh · 18/06/2023 16:09

LaMaG · 15/06/2023 18:57

YANBU and agree 100%. I would protest if it were women publicly twerking in g strings or dressed in dominatrix gear. You want equality - you got it so behave the way everyone else does and stop embarrassing yourself and demeaning those that you claim to represent.

That sounds like the Carnival in Brazil to me....

ripplingwater · 18/06/2023 16:13

IncompleteSenten · 15/06/2023 18:47

Quite.

Everyone has the right to masturbate.

They don't have the right to do it in the middle of Tesco.

Exactly this. I fully support gay pride but I really dont wish to see anyone practically shagging each other in the street at 3pm on a saturday afternoon. I would feel exactly the same way if it was a straight couple. Get a room.

chaosmaker · 21/06/2023 15:30

LaMaG · 15/06/2023 18:57

YANBU and agree 100%. I would protest if it were women publicly twerking in g strings or dressed in dominatrix gear. You want equality - you got it so behave the way everyone else does and stop embarrassing yourself and demeaning those that you claim to represent.

This is the perfect answer. There are clubs for fetishes. I expect some fetishes can't be satisfied like that though - hence the hijacking of pride

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