To have made the birthday cake instead of buying a fancy one?

[Flamingogirl08]

So a bit light hearted because it doesn't really matter but my my feelings have been slightly 'bruised' shall we say.

It's first DD birthday this weekend. I've baked her a cake today, in the shape of a 1, pink icing. Nothing fancy but I think it looks quite good to be honest.

We're having family round tomorrow for a bit of a get together. I sent a pic of the cake to the family what's app group.

DSIL has messaged back saying oh I wish you'd have told me you were baking yourself I would've ordered a nice one for her. Am I being too sensitive or is that a bit rude?

To be honest making her birthday cake myself is something I've been looking forward to and it'll be her first taste of cake so it felt special to bake it myself.

Should I have bought a nice one since we have people coming round?

She is being a snobby bitch.We do buy our DDs ones for their parties, because I don't trust myself to bake and present it well enough/Feel able to cope with making the size needed.BUT I always make them one for the actual birthday- my mum always made me a cake and I have such fond memories of it...its a really special and loving thing to do for your child! And fun too :)

‘Less of a mum’? Really”

Your cake will be way better than any bought one. No nasty preservatives, just a cake baked with love. Twee is ok by me!

My sister passed away quite a few years back and my nephews all still talk about her burnt birthday cakes but with such fondness and love. To this day they only like over cooked chocolate cakes like their mum made them. Your dd will love your cakes good or bad and yours sound perfectly lovely.

Your sil is insensitive (and pretty rude) but mostly I'd feel sad for her that she puts perfection before something way more important - the loveliest expression of maternal love.