Would you sleep with a male partner in women's underwear

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Curious because of previous experience! What would you do if your partner said he liked wearing women's underwear (pants/stockings) and wanted to wear during sex? I said no thanks!
IABU - don't care if he wants to wear it/find it sexy

IANBU - keep it for solo wanking/eeeeewwww

All the nope.

Yes this. Absolutely fine if you’re not into it and wouldn’t want to sleep with a man who is, but doesn’t make someone a pervert or whatever else is being insinuated here. It’s pretty tame on the kink scale anyway

I'll post where I like thanks. No need for you to click on it

No. Not my cup of tea. Would put me off.

Why? Your preferences are yours. Other people are theirs. Who cares if you are in the majority ? Or is it just so you can gang up with a group of others and pour scorn on those who are different to you? 🤢
(The fact that you’ve gone for something with a queer/ gender-variant undertone is even more shitty/ predictable given the current climate).

The OP knows she's gonna get support on here. I'm guessing she might have a kink for transphobia instead.

Ahh, here we are, back here again. Apparently no cis women support their trans sisters, and we're all just men instead.

Errrm, I already explained this
Like lots of posters, I use MN for support. I'm pretty traumatised by various aspects of this relationship, I can't talk to my friends or family about it ut ex really got in my head with his "you are a prude" chat.

All I wanted to know was if others would respond the same to give me perspective. Given current votes, I feel much better.

I think therapy might be a better recovery tool than AIBU.

A key tool in CBT is looking for evidence why your negative automatic thought is wrong.

In this case my NAT is I'm a prude (years of conditioning) I'm here looking for evidence

Why are you so offended by the topic? The only people bringing up trans are you and your friend calling me a transphobe for no reason at all.....

Hard no.

The thing is, sexual dysfunction has a spectrum that goes from ‘not everyone’s cup of tea’ down to the ‘illegal, cruel and dangerous’.

People who are on that spectrum of sexual dysfunction love to berate sexually healthy people for being prudish or for ‘shaming’.

Its normal to feel fear, revulsion and disgust about unhealthy sexuality.

Normal people aren’t prudes and we don’t have to pretend not to feel fear and revulsion to make dysfunctional people feel better.

Big no from me. Each to their own and all. But a turn off for me.

Nothing removes a boundary like pressure.

Good grief. It’s not “dysfunctional” if a man likes to wear knickers or stockings in bed. It might not be your cup of tea but that doesn’t make it inherently wrong or unhealthy.

Fetishes are dysfunctional.

I actually know of a situation the other way around with the sexes, where the woman is into all the paraphernalia, and the bloke feels sidelined while she gets off on the gear.

No 🤢

What makes wearing lingerie unhealthy? I imagine most people on here have dressed up in lingerie at one point or another.

My DH in granny knickers .Now that would be hilarious!

no…they’re not. Harmful fetishes might be but like most things it’s not black and white, there’s a big difference between someone with an addiction or paraphilia and a guy who occasionally likes to put on a bra. I don’t think shaming anyone who’s into anything that deviates from missionary with the lights off is helpful or positive.

Nah men actually just don’t look good in that kind of thing (to me anyway). Would just find it a bit ridiculous rather than appealing.

Why, what does it matter what we think.
I've never met a weirdo whose asked me this.

What is the obsession with men wearing underwear for women
Literally only seen it on here. Nobody has ever discussed it. It makes me feel ick. Wish it would stop being mentioned. It ain't normal.