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Saladdressed · 2023-04-18T13:10:49+00:00

Curious because of previous experience! What would you do if your partner said he liked wearing women's underwear (pants/stockings) and wanted to wear during sex? I said no thanks! IABU - don't care if he wants to wear it/find it sexy IANBU - keep it for solo wanking/eeeeewwww

Naunet · 18/04/2023 19:49

JusthereforXmas · 18/04/2023 19:18

But only man made society has deemed these entirely man made things called clothes are for only one gender or the other.

I mean I have met some men with titties bigger than mine that could likely benefit from a sport bra but because they have a 'y' chromosome its not for them regardless of physical anatomy.

Why can't a man prefer a satin thong?

I wear boxer shorts with loungewear sometimes (basically just like wearing shorts) and I'm in no way a sexual deviant (although I am usually in this type of lounge wear when the act of coitus is initiated, I'm not sat watching telly after putting the kids to bed in my best finary) or transsexual. I know other girls that do too and no one calls women out on it. I couldn't wear them under jeans because it becomes bloody uncomfortable though, no idea how men do it.

Its the same vein as saying a man can't wear a salmon coloured shirt because society has deemed 'pink is for girls' and then calling him a homosexual deviant. I though as a society we had mostly moved past these types of sexist misogyny.

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They can wear whatever they want, but you can’t expect a woman to find a man in clothes not remotely designed for his body, sexy. Sorry, but underwear designed for a female body looks ridiculous on men.

howdoesatoastermaketoast · 18/04/2023 19:50

nine9nein · 18/04/2023 14:47

Tom Hardy in hold-ups, might tempt me. But otherwise, fuck no.

yeah it would depend on the guy and the situation I suppose.

A guy confident to go to the RHPS in stockings heels and a corset could be a plus, a guy who thought he was prettier than I was, would be a no

DedicatedFollowerOfFashion84 · 18/04/2023 19:51

It would be a hard no from me. If he wants to wear knickers in his own time, let him tear on. But the thought of his meat and two veg crammed into something lacy/silky makes me shudder -would kinda kill my mood

Angebot · 18/04/2023 19:51

I once climbed Into bed and my partner at the time had on womens nightwear.. nope, each to their own but not on my shift thanks

Qbish · 18/04/2023 19:54

I did. Partner was in stockings and a corset. Was a massive turn on for both of us, but not something he wanted to do generally. Just a fun couple of times. A bit transgressive, a bit Berlin in the thirties. Naughty and fun.

Peapodburgundybouquet · 18/04/2023 19:57

the thought of his meat and two veg crammed into something lacy/silky makes me shudder

This has made me laugh and heave, in equal measure.

Peapodburgundybouquet · 18/04/2023 19:59

Qbish · 18/04/2023 19:54

I did. Partner was in stockings and a corset. Was a massive turn on for both of us, but not something he wanted to do generally. Just a fun couple of times. A bit transgressive, a bit Berlin in the thirties. Naughty and fun.

You both must have been out of your trees to do this, if it’s not something he usually wants to do.

Qbish · 18/04/2023 20:03

Peapodburgundybouquet · 18/04/2023 19:59

You both must have been out of your trees to do this, if it’s not something he usually wants to do.

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It was planned, both times. We had huge fun.

TwoMonthsOff · 18/04/2023 20:19

Peapodburgundybouquet · 18/04/2023 19:57

the thought of his meat and two veg crammed into something lacy/silky makes me shudder

This has made me laugh and heave, in equal measure.

Same here 🤣😂🤣😂🤣

Qbish · 18/04/2023 20:22

Qbish · 18/04/2023 19:54

I did. Partner was in stockings and a corset. Was a massive turn on for both of us, but not something he wanted to do generally. Just a fun couple of times. A bit transgressive, a bit Berlin in the thirties. Naughty and fun.

It was very much a Frank N Furter vibe.

Peapodburgundybouquet · 18/04/2023 20:24

Qbish · 18/04/2023 20:03

It was planned, both times. We had huge fun.

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I don’t know, I just don’t want to see my H trussed up like that. What did you wear? A zoot suit?

DelphiniumsBlueWildRose · 18/04/2023 20:28

Nope.

Eightiesgirl · 18/04/2023 20:32

I've posted about this before but this has reminded me again (not a happy memory). Many years ago I was going out with a widower, he was only in his thirties so all very tragic. When I stayed over for the first time, I was horrified to find him laid on the bed wearing a bra and knickers. He tried to justify it by saying they were his poor late wife's and it made him feel closer to her, which I think actually made it even worse, it turned my stomach and I was out of there like a shot.

MsGrumpytrousers · 18/04/2023 20:37

Absolutely not. Yuck.

In fact, I don't really like "sexy" underwear at all. About 30 years ago, partner bought me a basque and as my underwear is usually strictly functional it felt really strange and alien, and actually a bit insulting because it's so much wasn't me.

I'll stick to nudity..

ClumsyCat · 18/04/2023 20:49

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TowerRaven7 · 18/04/2023 20:51

That’s a deal breaker! Marriage/relationship would be over!

AlwaysGinPlease · 18/04/2023 20:57

"Naught and fun" ugh that makes me feel 🤢🤮

AgrathaChristie · 18/04/2023 21:00

OMG no. I’d have to poke my eyes out.
My friend did arrive home unexpectedly and find her DH wearing her nightie and full make up. It didn’t end well.

Adifferentheadspace · 18/04/2023 21:09

Absolutely not.

Eightiesgirl · 18/04/2023 21:14

@ClumsyCat No, she died suddenly from a brain haemorrhage when she was out with her friend one night. I think it was just an excuse, as I think he just liked wearing women's underwear. He looked absolutely pathetic. I felt so sorry for his late wife, who had, apparently, only ever slept with him. If that's what she'd had to put up with and then the poor woman had died before she'd had chance to one day meet a real man.

JMSA · 18/04/2023 21:16

Absolutely 100% not. I don't want a sexual encounter to be all about them. And it would turn me off anyway.

Beachhutnut · 18/04/2023 21:18

Nope. Massive turn off.

HRTQueen · 18/04/2023 21:24

No no no

I had an ex who surprised me wearing my new lacy knickers which he obviously liked wearing

you should at least warn someone before stretching out their new underwear

TedMullins · 18/04/2023 21:26

Eightiesgirl · 18/04/2023 21:14

@ClumsyCat No, she died suddenly from a brain haemorrhage when she was out with her friend one night. I think it was just an excuse, as I think he just liked wearing women's underwear. He looked absolutely pathetic. I felt so sorry for his late wife, who had, apparently, only ever slept with him. If that's what she'd had to put up with and then the poor woman had died before she'd had chance to one day meet a real man.

The particular scenario you described does sound weird and offputting with him in his late wife’s underwear but I really take issue with the idea it makes him “not a real man”. What is a “real” man anyway? If we can agree that gender stereotypes are bad for women, does that not apply to men too? Like I’ve said many times, absolutely fine if you’re not into it. Nobody should do things they don’t want to do in the bedroom. But I don’t think it’s fair to cast aspersions on someone’s sexuality/personhood because they’re into something you’re not.

Personally I find people who are comfortable in themselves and their sexuality and not bound by gender stereotypes far more attractive than those who are threatened by anything that isn’t heteronormative, but I don’t go around calling people prudes or boring vanillas if they’re not into that. A bit of respect for people’s differences wouldn’t go amiss.

SpringIntoChaos · 18/04/2023 21:29

Nope! Not for me 🤷‍♀️ I'd be hugely turned off by this. Hugely 😱