Would you sleep with a male partner in women's underwear

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Curious because of previous experience! What would you do if your partner said he liked wearing women's underwear (pants/stockings) and wanted to wear during sex? I said no thanks!
IABU - don't care if he wants to wear it/find it sexy

IANBU - keep it for solo wanking/eeeeewwww

I like it and if DH was up for it I'd be very much onboard, sadly he is not. Oh well!

I think a man in stockings etc is incredibly sexy, I blame Tim Curry for this entirely .

I like RHPS and think some men do look good in lingerie but it would be a sexual turn off so no.

Tom Hardy in hold-ups, might tempt me. But otherwise, fuck no.

Call me stupid but we don't wear clothes at that point, male or female! Who wears clothes in bed?

No thanks

Nope. And as seeing men in women’s underwear is a massive turn off, I stopped buying BlueBella when they used a man as the model. Just ewwww…

I had a girl ask me to wear her hold ups in bed once when we had sex
she liked
i felt very strange,

never done it again, or have a desire to

No thanks!!
I came home one day and ex partner was wanking into a pair of my knickers. It just freaked me out 😱

Yeuk no wierdo

I really don't know why but I find my husband really fit with eye makeup and nail polish. I even like him in a skirt. But sexy underwear (which he's never actually worn) feels really... pervy whereas the other things he wears just seem like a personal preference which is fine. I recognise that I'm probably being a massive hypocrite!

If it sticks to a bit of lingerie fair enough (as long as you are comfortable). Any more than that, or if it escalates it is indicative of autogynephilia (which is well documented despite denials from the TRA because it undermines and complicates transgender identification) and is very difficult to align with a genuine heterosexual relationship due to its nature and can ultimately lead to identifying as a transwoman to accommodate the very complex psychological and psychosexual impacts. Speaking, sadly from personal experience.

It’s not just clothes, it’s a fetish. My ex husband had a fetish for latex, so I thought I’d indulge him and dress up even though it wasn’t my thing. It soon became every time we had sex, it was all about his fetish, I could have been anyone, his interest was in the clothing, not me. Indulging him just made him more and more selfish. It absolutely destroyed me, I felt completely used and it ended our marriage.
It is NOT just clothes.

You've just given me one of the most disturbing mental images I've ever had haha. Jason Momoa in skimpy lingerie 😅

Similar @Naunet 😥

That's the problem @Naunet. You feel like a prop when someone has that sort of kink. It's not about a connection. It's not about them desiring you for you, it's about the fetish. It's kind of dehumanising.

made me feel like a prude for saying no

Enthusiastic consent is what I like in bed.

I think this is why I find it quite grim. A man who chooses to occasionally wear a comfy sarong or likes to experiment a bit with make up - no issue. It's the fact of making it deliberately sexual and fetishised that makes me feel a bit ill. And I'd say the same about a massively over sexual woman tbh!

Sorry you went through similar too, it makes you feel so used, like a prop, doesn’t it? I’d never get involved with a man with a fetish like that again

Absolutely, it is dehumanising, you’re right.

NO

Weird question to do a poll on, outside the sex topic.

Kinks are pretty individual, and there's no question of "reasonableness" between two consenting adults, particularly about something as innocuous as underwear. So I'm not sure what you are hoping to gain from this thread.

Other than a lot of kink shaming I guess. Hey ho maybe that's your kink...

I'm struggling to think of anything less erotic than veiny flaps of squished scrotum poking out from ill-fitting women's underwear. Sort of like a subversive 6th Form Art project where an earnest teenager thinks they're the first person to deconstruct the classical female nude.

Also, it would be impractical lacy knickers, wouldn't it? Not a multipack of comfy plain M&S shorts like most women actually wear most days.

Was he an ex partner when you found him wanking? That would be even worse.

Bless your heart

I expect he wasn’t suggesting wearing a multi pack m and s boy leg in nude or (the brown knickers as my dp calls them)

Since reading up on AGP recently and why men are aroused by wearing women’s clothes or ‘becoming’ a women, I would find this an absolute turn off. Turned on by the oppression of women? Nope.