Would you sleep with a male partner in women's underwear

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Curious because of previous experience! What would you do if your partner said he liked wearing women's underwear (pants/stockings) and wanted to wear during sex? I said no thanks!
IABU - don't care if he wants to wear it/find it sexy

IANBU - keep it for solo wanking/eeeeewwww

When it becomes ‘about’ the lingerie.

Hell no not for me but each to their own if that is what they are comfortable with but no one should do something that makes them uncomfortable.

No.

DH had really bad bleeding piles once, was on holiday, no where near shops so he had to wear a sanitary towels held in place by a pair of my v v tight knickers so didn't get blood on anything. Put me off him for months 🤢

Big fat no from me!

It's not something l've ever been asked to do. I don't think l can give a simple yes or no to. I think I'd be more 'comfortable/open' if it was brought up at the begining of a new relationship when you're feeling passionate. I think if my OH of 10 years asked I'd be a bit disturbed.
It would also depend if it was something they wanted to incorporate into our regular sex life or something we did occasionally.

Maybe if I can wear saggy boxers & he has to find that look sexy. Knicker wedgies must be even worse if your trying to squeeze extra 🍆🍒in there

Nope. A
Cock and balls doesn't look any better in women's knickers.

Ain't that the truth😂

Definitely not.

Oh, no thank you. The thought makes me very uncomfortable.

In the right circumstances - with the right person, I think I could find most things hot, including this. I think I'd try anything once. I don't need to test my theory out though as my DH would be horrified at the thought of this.

Personally, I think there's a bit of a difference between a kink and a fetish. Maybe just a distinction I make.

A kink, to me, is something you do every now and then that you enjoy and can spice things up a bit for you, of course if you both enjoy it, with the caveat that it's not all-consuming. You can still enjoy sex without the kink, but you also indulge in it at times.

Whereas I'd say a fetish sort of overpowers everything else, so that "regular" sex no longer excites you and you can't get off without it.

Almost like the difference between someone who enjoys alcohol and has a drink every so often vs. an alcoholic.

As long as it was "just" a kink and we could still enjoy sex without it, I'd be up for it. I have kinks but no fetishes, by the above conceptualisation.

Everyone needs to be in board, that goes without saying.

For me personally it'd give me the boak but everyone is different

Huge turn off. I've always maintained that any type of crossing dressing would be a deal-breaker for me. Gives me the ick.

Absolutely not, even before all this trans business men who liked women's clothing were a real red line for me. I asked a confused DH when we had only been dating for a short while if he had any desires that way and would have dumped him if he said yes.

I think @MintIceo has it exactly for me, now and again it might be fun but when the fetish becomes more important then who you're with, that's a big No. It might be ego but I'd want my partner to want me not whatever thing floats his boat - crossdressers/furries/ BDSM, just not for me

But only man made society has deemed these entirely man made things called clothes are for only one gender or the other.

I mean I have met some men with titties bigger than mine that could likely benefit from a sport bra but because they have a 'y' chromosome its not for them regardless of physical anatomy.

Why can't a man prefer a satin thong?

I wear boxer shorts with loungewear sometimes (basically just like wearing shorts) and I'm in no way a sexual deviant (although I am usually in this type of lounge wear when the act of coitus is initiated, I'm not sat watching telly after putting the kids to bed in my best finary) or transsexual. I know other girls that do too and no one calls women out on it. I couldn't wear them under jeans because it becomes bloody uncomfortable though, no idea how men do it.

Its the same vein as saying a man can't wear a salmon coloured shirt because society has deemed 'pink is for girls' and then calling him a homosexual deviant. I though as a society we had mostly moved past these types of sexist misogyny.

It would give me the ick I'm afraid

Disgusting

I think for me there's a,difference between a man wanting to wear what he likes - knock yourself out. And involving his female lingerie in our sex life - no thanks.

So I don't think your post is entirely relevant.

FWIW I looked up the thread about if someone would date a cross dresser and the vote was more even (55/45 on there vs 88/12 on here)

A fetish is defined by the meaning that the fetish-object has for the person with the fetish.

Completely non-sexual things can become fetish-objects if someone becomes erotically fixated upon it.

For example, some men have a fetish for disability aids. This doesn’t make the disability aids intrinsically fetish-objects, it is the meaning in the mind of the person with the fetish which turns them into fetish-objects.

No. Not my thing. Women wearing boxers is for comfort. Men wearing women's underwear is for pleasure. Whatever floats your boat but it doesn't float mine.

No way would I even be with a guy like that ewwww

Biggest NO possible

I can’t vote because even the thought of them doing it solo is not at all alluring in any way whatsoever.