Would you sleep with a male partner in women's underwear

[Saladdressed]

Curious because of previous experience! What would you do if your partner said he liked wearing women's underwear (pants/stockings) and wanted to wear during sex? I said no thanks!
IABU - don't care if he wants to wear it/find it sexy

IANBU - keep it for solo wanking/eeeeewwww

Although I haven’t had this experience, I would get this sense about any fetish.

Its dysfunctional to need something other than a sexy partner and/or an imagination to get off.

Maybe I'm old school but we are usually pantsless when making love (elsewise it gets in the way). There have been times we have left our tops on but usually underwear by design covers the necessary 'private' access ports.

I would be more confused about the practicalities of how he is going to wear my lacy thong while going to pound town rather than a moral objection (although I will be royally pissed if he damages them regardless of whose wearing it lol).

My DH did use to wear my clothes when we where the same size in our youthful days (things like my jeans, some dress shirts etc...). Honestly they fitted and looked better on him than any 'mens' clothes and no one ever questioned it. I doubt they even noticed, without seeing the brand name 'girl' on the label then black jeans are just black jeans, they just have more choice and fit nicer.

Personally for me it’s a turn on, as is men in makeup or women’s clothes. So yes I would. My partner does sometimes wear stockings as it’s something we both like, but it’s not every time we have sex. It depends on the man, though. My type is generally more effeminate men who looks good in that stuff, I’m not in huge muscly hairy stereotypically manly men, who I imagine would look very silly.

I'm sorry but I would just find it hilarious 😂 🤣 not sexy at all.

I'm not kink shaming anyone

I got shamed by my ex for not being sufficiently into his kink. That he didn't tell me about for several years.

There was lots wrong with our sex life and I can't get over him making me feel that I was weird so I did the poll to help me put it in perspective. Which it has done.

naunet, mrsatwood, mrstp your posts all resonate with me, thank you

If you're not new around here, you already know you're in that majority of mumsnetters who would despise this.

Very disingenuous of you, OP.

OK whatever. Thanks for your input

Completely fair to say no to something if it doesn't turn you on.

Apparently there's a Sex topic so you could ask for this to be moved there @Saladdressed

Next time stick to the right forum topic please.

No.

I'd find it repulsive

100% no but if both partners are happy and no one else sees, their choice.

No. And he would be cease to be my partner.

Huge red flag for Autogynephilia, a paraphilia I do not find attractive, want to indulge or even be around.

while going to pound town

What an absolutely revolting term for sex!

if I saw my big Scottish 6’, 14 stone, hairy, bald, DP stuffed into a thong and a push up bra they’d have to take me to hospital for uncontrollable laughter 😂 No, that would be a very tough shag, and I don’t think I’d ever be able to look at him the same way ever again.

And there we have it.

Did you get what you wanted now, OP?

Are you forum-placement shaming @CuriousMoo ?

I'm very open minded but it would put me off to be honest. I briefly dated a man who liked wearing women's clothing. He used to wear stockings or a sexy dress and get extremely sexually aroused. I just could never understand it.

No way.

Good grief, can we end all this nonsense about "if men want to wear women's underwear they must be trans and perverts"?

I thought we were pushing back on the idea that the clothes you wear define your gender identity. A man wearing a skirt or a bra is still a man. Let clothes be clothes.

Would make me dry up fast that would. Defo a no.

Welcome to Mumsnet

If they’re wearing it because it gets them off then it’s not just clothing, it’s a sexual fetish.

Me too