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Would you sleep with a male partner in women's underwear

231 replies

Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 14:10

Curious because of previous experience! What would you do if your partner said he liked wearing women's underwear (pants/stockings) and wanted to wear during sex? I said no thanks!
IABU - don't care if he wants to wear it/find it sexy

IANBU - keep it for solo wanking/eeeeewwww

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Newusername21 · 18/04/2023 14:12

Each to their own and all that - but that would be a massive no from me.

Themermaidspool · 18/04/2023 14:12

Depends if it was Tim Curry a la rocky horror show or not

Naunet · 18/04/2023 14:15

Nope, it’s a turn off for me, and as sex is something that’s meant to be mutually enjoyable, it would be a hard no.

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 18/04/2023 14:16

Sex topic is over there --> or are you too new?

Original poster
Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 14:18

I'm not new! Name changed, but more interested in a broad range of experiences. Rightly or wrongly I'm not sure the sex topic would give me a representative answer!

Plus- I don't want to debate it, just wanted to know what people thought.

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brooksidebackside · 18/04/2023 14:19

Why do you want to know?

You do you...

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Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 14:24

brooksidebackside · 18/04/2023 14:19

Why do you want to know?

You do you...

I said on my op....previous partner asked me (in fact made me feel like a prude for saying no), I just wanted to know if I was in the majority or not when I said no

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Finallycaved · 18/04/2023 14:26

Big fat no from me!

Bluebells1970 · 18/04/2023 14:26

If it was Tom Hardy, hell yeah.

DH, I'd piss myself laughing.

GrammarTeacher · 18/04/2023 14:27

Why not? Just clothes.

nakeklak · 18/04/2023 14:29

I would do because as long as he's turned on and happy that makes me turned on and happy. I wouldn't suggest it though

Smallonesaremorejuicy · 18/04/2023 14:31

Boring … no !

MintIceo · 18/04/2023 14:31

Not if it was every time we had sex. I do quite enjoy pegging and "emasculating" men to some degree, so every now and then I wouldn't mind the women's underwear, it would add something to the domination.

WhisperingAutistic · 18/04/2023 14:32

Total deal breaker for me.
I would consider leaving if that was his fetish

Lockheart · 18/04/2023 14:33

There are an awful lot of these "men wearing women's underwear" threads recently.

howdoesatoastermaketoast · 18/04/2023 14:34

Newusername21 · 18/04/2023 14:12

Each to their own and all that - but that would be a massive no from me.

this

IAcceptCookies · 18/04/2023 14:34

Lockheart · 18/04/2023 14:33

There are an awful lot of these "men wearing women's underwear" threads recently.

Yes, a big one last week or so asking if posters would be put off by a cross dresser.

ReadtheReviews · 18/04/2023 14:36

When I was about 20 and really liked Rocky, there was a brief window where I would have entertained this. Now I just think get over yourself and your fetishes. So boring if youre someone who needs weird stuff to be turned on. A definite nope.

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Saladdressed · 18/04/2023 14:36

IAcceptCookies · 18/04/2023 14:34

Yes, a big one last week or so asking if posters would be put off by a cross dresser.

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Oh. I missed that - could you link it? I'd be interested in views!
Not something anyone irl discusses, or maybe it's just my friendship group

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rainydaysandstormynights · 18/04/2023 14:39

Most women wouldn't like it and wouldn't be shy about saying so. Some will say/believe they wouldn't care. A smaller number actually wouldn't care (if faced with the reality). A very small number will be into it.

I'm done with worrying about people thinking I'm a prude for not liking something. So what? Why is having boundaries and respecting them a problem?

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/04/2023 14:40

I am surprised even 13% would be up for it. Not for me. Thanks.

beeskipa · 18/04/2023 14:41

Oof, yes please.

Rocky Horror had quite the impact on my brain as a teen, haha.

StopStartStop · 18/04/2023 14:42

No. Pervy guys can keep well away. Thank you.

beeskipa · 18/04/2023 14:45

ReadtheReviews · 18/04/2023 14:36

When I was about 20 and really liked Rocky, there was a brief window where I would have entertained this. Now I just think get over yourself and your fetishes. So boring if youre someone who needs weird stuff to be turned on. A definite nope.

Is it especially weird, though? There are MUCH weirder fetishes than 'likes clothing designed to make you feel sexy'.

Also, I dunno if it's weird to have a kink. Maybe it's just the people I know, but most people I know (who I know well enough to have discussed sex over a drunk bottle of whisky!) have some kind of little quirk or interest that isn't just 'four minutes of missionary'.

OhmygodDont · 18/04/2023 14:45

That’s a big fat no from me. I couldn’t imagine much less sexier than seeing dh in a bra and panties 😂

Not even Jason momoa could tempt me.

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