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Dalai llama ask a child to suck his tongue

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Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 12:49

Has anyone seen the new video of the Dalai Llama asking a child to suck his tongue. Yes. It sounds bizarre. But it is in the news right now. The video is out there. And the dalai llama is apologising on social media now

Im devastated! I went to see the Dalai Llama in India. He gave a speech on accepting and loving everyone, and that it didn't matter what religion we are. I always told people that it was one of the highlights of my life.

I went through life thinking he was a good person, that he was one of the good ones. To see this today, makes me think oh no is he yet another abuser.

Some people have remarked about this video that sticking your tongue out at someone is a greeting in Tibet.

However - the Dalai Llama kisses the child on the lips in the video, and asks the child to suck his tongue. It does not look right at all.

He has apologised on twitter now.

What do you all think?

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Cozytoesandtoast00 · 10/04/2023 13:08

Maybe it was a joke.
He has a tendency to joke around and it was being videoed at the time. He would have known that.

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Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 13:11

Cozytoesandtoast00 · 10/04/2023 13:08

Maybe it was a joke.
He has a tendency to joke around and it was being videoed at the time. He would have known that.

He kisses the child on the lips for a long time, before he asks the child to suck his tongue.

You can see that the child does not want to kiss the Dalai llama on the lips, but the Dalai llama pushes him into it.

Should an old religious man be allowed to kiss a child on the lips?

That in itself is extremely wrong.

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Testina · 10/04/2023 13:13

“If even he is an abuser.

There's no one left. :(. This world is dark.”

This is hyperbolic nonsense.
People setting up individuals as some kind of pinnacle of moral perfection and in so doing handing them a fuckton of power only makes it easier for some people to abuse others.

You are suggesting that this one person’s actions means there is “no-one left”?

Ridiculous.

There’s me for a start. I am not an abuser.

Sounds like you have some hero worship going on and maybe should look for the plentiful light in the world of the “ordinary” people around you.

Cozytoesandtoast00 · 10/04/2023 13:13

Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 13:11

He kisses the child on the lips for a long time, before he asks the child to suck his tongue.

You can see that the child does not want to kiss the Dalai llama on the lips, but the Dalai llama pushes him into it.

Should an old religious man be allowed to kiss a child on the lips?

That in itself is extremely wrong.

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I see. I didn't know the details and that is not ok in any way.

StrawberryWater · 10/04/2023 13:15

Fucking grim.

He’s a disgrace.

JohnWick4 · 10/04/2023 13:15

Yuck. Another dirty old man. Shame on the adults in the room, they should have helped the kid, don’t care if he’s the Dalai IIama.

ArrrMeHearties · 10/04/2023 13:17

I'm struggling to see where a grown man needs to get a child to kiss him on the lips and suck his tounge. It's just wrong on so many levels

Clymene · 10/04/2023 13:18

What context would make this acceptable. His apology is a total non apology too

RideACockHorseToSunburyCross · 10/04/2023 13:18

Fucking sick of this shit. Every time a man abuses a kid or batters his wife or cheats on her or any other shit thing there's a little chorus of women saying "oh no, maybe he's got a brain tumour/is depressed/didn't mean it/was just joking/needs a doctor/is having a midlife crisis

No, he's just an abusive prick. Stop defending them.

OrlandointheWilderness · 10/04/2023 13:18

Testina · 10/04/2023 13:13

“If even he is an abuser.

There's no one left. :(. This world is dark.”

This is hyperbolic nonsense.
People setting up individuals as some kind of pinnacle of moral perfection and in so doing handing them a fuckton of power only makes it easier for some people to abuse others.

You are suggesting that this one person’s actions means there is “no-one left”?

Ridiculous.

There’s me for a start. I am not an abuser.

Sounds like you have some hero worship going on and maybe should look for the plentiful light in the world of the “ordinary” people around you.

Absolutely agree with this.

TheVolturi · 10/04/2023 13:19

Just watched the video and he's a fucking weirdo the poor boy looks uncomfortable throughout, what the fuck is wrong with these men.

Meandfour · 10/04/2023 13:20

Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 12:58

It's just disgusting.

I'm really sad. Because I went to India to see the Dalai llama. I read loads of his books. I really thought he was one of the good ones.

If even he is an abuser.

There's no one left. :(. This world is dark.

You’ve mentioned twice now you’ve met him. I doubt you had an impact on his life.
Hes an abuser. Move on. He isn’t in your life.

UnRavellingFast · 10/04/2023 13:21

People setting up individuals as some kind of pinnacle of moral perfection and in so doing handing them a fuckton of power only makes it easier for some people to abuse others.

@Testina this. Indeed. Another man appointed by vague nonsense- see also PA - who uses it as a way to abuse.

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Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 13:22

Testina · 10/04/2023 13:13

“If even he is an abuser.

There's no one left. :(. This world is dark.”

This is hyperbolic nonsense.
People setting up individuals as some kind of pinnacle of moral perfection and in so doing handing them a fuckton of power only makes it easier for some people to abuse others.

You are suggesting that this one person’s actions means there is “no-one left”?

Ridiculous.

There’s me for a start. I am not an abuser.

Sounds like you have some hero worship going on and maybe should look for the plentiful light in the world of the “ordinary” people around you.

Yeah I agree with you. I shouldn't hero worship anyone or think anyone is better than anyone else.

But we are taught to view religious leaders as better than anyone else. There is a hierarchy in religions. The pope is seen as the best person in the catholic church. The Dalai llama is seen as the best person in his religion.

This is definitely a lesson to me that religious leaders are not better than anyone else in any way shape or form

I think I just feel like a total idiot. Because i really thought he was a great person and that what he taught was kindness and compassion. And that he was someone to look up to.

And I think also it is because I grew up in rural Ireland where there is a lot of corrupt and horrible priests in the catholic church.

I really wanted to believe that there was some other religion out there with truly kind people, that taught kindness and compassion. That is why I ended up gravitating towards the Dalai llama and his teachings

Lesson learned.

As I see now, every religion is open to corruption. Every human is capable of cruelty. The idea of religious leaders is not a good one.

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oakleaffy · 10/04/2023 13:27

I despair.

Tg2023 · 10/04/2023 13:31

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oakleaffy · 10/04/2023 13:31

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I watched a 2 minute vid to see context...There IS no context.

An old man asks a child to ''Suck his tongue'' and leans forwards, tongue extended to the child.

It's horrible to see.

morningworries · 10/04/2023 13:31

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Even the Dalai Lama has a social responsibility not to get himself into situations that can be misconstrued.

oakleaffy · 10/04/2023 13:32

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There is no context!

It's grotesque.

Thesharkradar · 10/04/2023 13:33

RideACockHorseToSunburyCross · 10/04/2023 13:18

Fucking sick of this shit. Every time a man abuses a kid or batters his wife or cheats on her or any other shit thing there's a little chorus of women saying "oh no, maybe he's got a brain tumour/is depressed/didn't mean it/was just joking/needs a doctor/is having a midlife crisis

No, he's just an abusive prick. Stop defending them.

I hear you!
however I see this kind of thing as animal behaviour to which everyone would descend were it not for a functioning moral sense, the ability to make moral choices depends upon our higher cognitive functions.
Yes there are numerous predators in positions of power and maybe he is a predator but it seems unlikely that a person in his unique position would be able to keep it covered up?
Sexual inappropriateness or other inappropriateness IS a common early sign of cognitive issues.

Tg2023 · 10/04/2023 13:33

@oakleaffy exactly it's disgusting behaviour

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Mooshamoo · 10/04/2023 13:34

I still feel a bit sick after watching that video.

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Goodread1 · 10/04/2023 13:34

I wonder if it's sign of Advancing Senile Dementia and he is starting to lose his his mind to such a certain extant ??

If it is ?

They need to just fade him into the background and seriously start looking for someone else in the Tibenham faith service As soon as possible 🙏 really

I hope that it is this

He needs to quietly retire follow the former Pope's manner way of thinking 🤔