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To think this is so cheeky?

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WillowtreeHouse · 05/04/2023 09:10

I'm on a group chat for a running group. There are around 10 of us on this group but people dip in and out depending on job/life etc. Sometimes new people join the group, some leave, and we go out for dinner about once every 4 months or so and it's a nice way for everyone to get together (if they want). Sometimes there are 10 people there, sometimes 2 it just depends on how busy people are. Any one of us will suggest getting together, no one is 'in charge' of the group.

Last night I posted a message to see if anyone fancied meeting up for dinner/drinks next week. A couple of people replied 'sure, what about the new Chinese etc' and a few more people responded with a yes, some with a no, the usual stuff.

One woman, who I've only met once because she joined a month ago and we've never run at the same time since, (the group meet twice a week, I always try to make one of them) said 'I can't afford dinner out, let's just go to Willow's since she suggested the get together'.

I don't want to host 7 people at my house on a Wednesday night. I didn't invite everyone to mine and the fact that she said she can't afford it suggests that she expects me to pay for everything - which I would if I invited people round, but I haven't. I fancied paying £15 for the Chinese buffet and being home by half nine!

Another member said we always just meet for dinner somewhere, it's easier for everyone that way. To which she has responded with a snippy 'if you invite, you host'.

I haven't responded yet - I will - but I absolutely do not want to host. I just think this is really fucking rude?

OP posts:
Therealjudgejudy · 07/04/2023 23:58

She sounds slightly unhinged

T1Dmama · 08/04/2023 00:15

It’s very strange behaviour to respond to perfectly reasonable replies with 🙄 and then message individuals from the group privately!
The man should maybe have responded ‘Yes very welcoming, but meetings aren’t done round peoples houses. Never have been, doubt they ever will be… unless you fancy hosting?!’ 😂😂

Loobieloogold · 08/04/2023 10:03

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 05/04/2023 09:14

Sounds great. I'll be around on Wednesday. Please cook lots, I'll be hungry.

Anyone else coming?

Sorry, but did laugh out loud at this and thought "god imagine if this happened on here? How many bottles of wine / snacks would be required"!!!! 😂

Liz1tummypain · 08/04/2023 10:08

@ Caramac - Perfect response 😀. Can't beat that.

OutDamnedSpot · 08/04/2023 10:21

Anyone else just here for the Saturday morning run update? 😂

<pulls up chairs. Hands out popcorn. Wonders how far the run is so what time we can expect an update>

Casilero · 08/04/2023 12:36

OutDamnedSpot · 08/04/2023 10:21

Anyone else just here for the Saturday morning run update? 😂

<pulls up chairs. Hands out popcorn. Wonders how far the run is so what time we can expect an update>

Yes, me! Hope cheeky fucker turns up or we'll have to wait until Wednesday.

Fraaahnces · 08/04/2023 18:56

I am in Aus and just home from stupid night shift. Hoping for news but can’t stay awake.

Emotionalsupportviper · 08/04/2023 19:00

OutDamnedSpot · 08/04/2023 10:21

Anyone else just here for the Saturday morning run update? 😂

<pulls up chairs. Hands out popcorn. Wonders how far the run is so what time we can expect an update>

<takes a handful of popcorn>

<offers Spot a glass of violet gin>

OutDamnedSpot · 08/04/2023 21:04

<happily accepts gin. Shifts up to make room for @Emotionalsupportviper. Wonders if CF ate @WillowtreeHouse>

3luckystars · 08/04/2023 21:35

Really looking forward to the next thing she does too.

MumOf2workOptions · 08/04/2023 21:38

Just say "no" that's not convenient I'm not doing that - I've booked a table at the Chinese I'm sorry if you can't make it this time but this is usually what we do we don't "host" at home.

Stewball01 · 09/04/2023 09:18

O my goodness. That is so rude.

SmallAngryPenguinWoman · 09/04/2023 09:22

MumOf2workOptions · 08/04/2023 21:38

Just say "no" that's not convenient I'm not doing that - I've booked a table at the Chinese I'm sorry if you can't make it this time but this is usually what we do we don't "host" at home.

Maybe the OP did say that..... 4 days & 24 pages ago. Try RTFT to find out what happened next 🙄

VWHoliday · 09/04/2023 09:40

SmallAngryPenguinWoman · 09/04/2023 09:22

Maybe the OP did say that..... 4 days & 24 pages ago. Try RTFT to find out what happened next 🙄

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Why do people offer advice days after? So irritating.

ThatsGenderwang · 09/04/2023 09:48

Is it something to do with the app, that posters can’t ‘read all’ or ‘see next’ on it, i.e. at least all the OP’s posts / updates?

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 09/04/2023 10:30

Even if it is, why do these people feel their opinion is so important that they simply have to add it, when there have been 25 pages of updates since?

Cigarettesaftersex1 · 09/04/2023 12:00

ThatsGenderwang · 09/04/2023 09:48

Is it something to do with the app, that posters can’t ‘read all’ or ‘see next’ on it, i.e. at least all the OP’s posts / updates?

Nah, I'm on the app and don't have any issues like that

SazCat · 09/04/2023 12:20

Cigarettesaftersex1 · 09/04/2023 12:00

Nah, I'm on the app and don't have any issues like that

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I can't see an option to see all OPs posts on my app, I'd find that really useful! Even so, I do skim the thread to the end before offering advice that's already been given a hundred times or the OP has already resolved 😂

pam290358 · 09/04/2023 12:30

SazCat · 09/04/2023 12:20

I can't see an option to see all OPs posts on my app, I'd find that really useful! Even so, I do skim the thread to the end before offering advice that's already been given a hundred times or the OP has already resolved 😂

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Go to the original post and look at the very bottom right hand side. You should see the words ‘OP posts: See all’. Click on ‘See all’ and all subsequent posts should come up.

SazCat · 09/04/2023 12:44

pam290358 · 09/04/2023 12:30

Go to the original post and look at the very bottom right hand side. You should see the words ‘OP posts: See all’. Click on ‘See all’ and all subsequent posts should come up.

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No unfortunately I juts have 3 dots at the top of the post, with options Bookmark, Quote, Report.

Maybe as I'm on android not iPhone?

whowhatwerewhy · 09/04/2023 12:48

@SazCat
Do you have the little spot light and two arrows in the top right corner?
If so press the spotlight and then ops name .

SazCat · 09/04/2023 12:54

whowhatwerewhy · 09/04/2023 12:48

@SazCat
Do you have the little spot light and two arrows in the top right corner?
If so press the spotlight and then ops name .

No, how strange. This is what I see.
I always wondered how people were able to view the OPs posts only and assumed it was only an option on the website!

To think this is so cheeky?
whowhatwerewhy · 09/04/2023 13:10

@SazCat
This is what I see on iPhone

To think this is so cheeky?
SazCat · 09/04/2023 13:58

whowhatwerewhy · 09/04/2023 13:10

@SazCat
This is what I see on iPhone

Obviously the android version is a bit rubbish then 😂

CrinklyLoveStick · 09/04/2023 17:28

Has OP got bored?

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