To think this is so cheeky?

[WillowtreeHouse]

I'm on a group chat for a running group. There are around 10 of us on this group but people dip in and out depending on job/life etc. Sometimes new people join the group, some leave, and we go out for dinner about once every 4 months or so and it's a nice way for everyone to get together (if they want). Sometimes there are 10 people there, sometimes 2 it just depends on how busy people are. Any one of us will suggest getting together, no one is 'in charge' of the group.

Last night I posted a message to see if anyone fancied meeting up for dinner/drinks next week. A couple of people replied 'sure, what about the new Chinese etc' and a few more people responded with a yes, some with a no, the usual stuff.

One woman, who I've only met once because she joined a month ago and we've never run at the same time since, (the group meet twice a week, I always try to make one of them) said 'I can't afford dinner out, let's just go to Willow's since she suggested the get together'.

I don't want to host 7 people at my house on a Wednesday night. I didn't invite everyone to mine and the fact that she said she can't afford it suggests that she expects me to pay for everything - which I would if I invited people round, but I haven't. I fancied paying £15 for the Chinese buffet and being home by half nine!

Another member said we always just meet for dinner somewhere, it's easier for everyone that way. To which she has responded with a snippy 'if you invite, you host'.

I haven't responded yet - I will - but I absolutely do not want to host. I just think this is really fucking rude?

Thank you for the laugh OP. What an absolute tit this person is. I often find in groups like this 'there's always one' who have just a complete inability to read the room. She may just be very poor socially or you've managed to see her true colours (very early) but it's good that you had the support of the group to cut this type of bullshit early.

She’s rude

What a buffoon!!

Just say "nice try!!🤣🤣🤣" and then crack on with booking the restaurant.

So many people who confuse being welcomed with having their demands pondered to.

She can jog on. Pun intended.

I don't know how people like that get through life being that rude. They must be incredibly thick skinned as not everyone is as nice as you OP. Some people would call out their rudeness and embarrass them in front of everyone.

This! Perfect response! She’s a CF!!

I'm going to post the eye-rolly emoji myself in a minute, at all the people posting on a thread that started YESTERDAY MORNING without reading the updates since then. It's moved on since then people!

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Just act like she never said it and go ahead and book the restaurant. If she says anything laugh and say "oh I was sure you must have been joking!". Make her as embarrassed as she should be for being so cheeky.

Not that I wish to start a new dynamic, but this does sound rather like another person the other side of the Pond.

As a group, you seem to be firm, and handling this remarkably well.
Good on you.

Just say - no, I really just fancied a meal out.

She's unreasonable. Sorry she is hard up, I understand that, but her response is atrocious! I'd tell her no way can you host everyone, you suggested meeting somewhere for a meal, that was plain enough. You need a night out too.

Can I join your group please? I don’t run, jog or in fact walk anywhere but I do like going out to restaurants. I also am very good at explaining how things work to the socially inept ie putting people in their place. Please can I join? Please?

I would just say well can we agree on a time and date and ignore her comment. x

She sounds like a troublemaker to me.

A lot of posters who join the thread don't seem to read the full thread.

If it's because they can't be bothered to scroll through 10+ pages of posts, then there's a very helpful "See all" button on the top right corner under the thread title. When you tap it, it will show you all of op's posts and updates in the thread without having to see other people's in between.

Wouldn’t even acknowledge her, ‘7.30 at the Chinese ok for people? £15 each,let me know so I can book it, thanks’

Cheeky! I belong to a group that sounds like it's run on a similar basis. I joined, then my DP broke his arm... then he worked for 4 weeks... handed his notice in to go to another job, then had a heart attack that same day. So, he's not even getting SSP.

Anyway, they chat about meals out, cinema trips etc. I'm looking forward to being able to join in when DP gets another job. In the mean time, I just join in with some of the chit chat. I'm not insisting we all go to someone else's house, because I'm too skint to go out.

Delete my message please admins

Just say NO - then repeat, does anyone want to come out for a meal , to the £15 Chinese?

Hope your DP (and you) are ok.

@Twilight7777 you're best reporting the comment so the admins get a notification you want it removed if you haven't already done so.

I’d reply simply saying ‘I haven’t invited’, I’ve simply asked if anyone else would like to GO OUT!

If I were you, OP, I’d invent time travel and go back to the point before your original reply and her eyeroll, instead replying with something suggested on page 21 of the thread.

You were probably taken aback by her cheek and rudeness. Lots of good suggestions on here for how to respond. IMO she doesn’t deserve laughing emojis or ‘maybe next time,’.
I’d be tempted to completely ignore her and make arrangements with those who want to join in. who the hell does she think she is?

WomanStanleyWoman2 😂