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Picked niece over me

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sas90 · 12/03/2023 18:51

As the title says. We have been together for a few years and have 2 young children together. We have not had the best relationship obv due to having kids, pressures of working and everything being left to me. Anyway his niece who he gets on with and always texts her. Never like this with me. I asked tonight one of those stupid questions, if me and your niece was left on an island and you would only save one who would it be? And of course he said the niece. I think it hurt me more than I thought it would. My own fault for asking I suppose

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Ponoka7 · 12/03/2023 18:52

Is it his blood niece?

Original poster
sas90 · 12/03/2023 18:53

Yeah it's his blood niece

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RichardHeed · 12/03/2023 18:55

Only been together a few years, already have 2 kids in such a short time and you’re jealous of his niece? Christ.

martha4clark · 12/03/2023 18:56

How old is his neice?

Corgiorsheepdog · 12/03/2023 18:56

What age is she?(People tend to think of saving children first.)

PartingGift · 12/03/2023 18:57

What a weird question to ask your partner!

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sas90 · 12/03/2023 18:59

RichardHeed · 12/03/2023 18:55

Only been together a few years, already have 2 kids in such a short time and you’re jealous of his niece? Christ.

Together 8 years and no I'm not jealous so stick that in your pipe and smoke it.

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ChannelyourinnerElsa · 12/03/2023 18:59

Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to.

and how old are you? What a ridiculous thing to ask.

Original poster
sas90 · 12/03/2023 19:00

I'm 34 niece is 29. Not a weird question at all. If you haven't got anything nice to say don't comment

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Original poster
sas90 · 12/03/2023 19:01

ChannelyourinnerElsa · 12/03/2023 18:59

Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to.

and how old are you? What a ridiculous thing to ask.

Your asking how old I am and your username is a bit of a p take

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ChannelyourinnerElsa · 12/03/2023 19:01

sas90 · 12/03/2023 19:00

I'm 34 niece is 29. Not a weird question at all. If you haven't got anything nice to say don't comment

That’s not how public forums work, you know. You can’t dictate who replies and what they say.

singer15 · 12/03/2023 19:01

I'd never ask someone who they'd save first. As pp have said, it's a silly thing to do.

The issue is that you do sound jealous of the time and attention he pays his niece. You wanted him to say something to make you feel more secure in your relationship with him, but this isn't the way to do that.

Cornelious2011 · 12/03/2023 19:01

It's a ridiculous question to ask. Saving one person and one dying. Don't ask questions if you can't take the answer.

ChannelyourinnerElsa · 12/03/2023 19:02

How on earth is my username a piss take?! Or at least, any more than many others?

MichelleScarn · 12/03/2023 19:02

ChannelyourinnerElsa · 12/03/2023 18:59

Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to.

and how old are you? What a ridiculous thing to ask.

Exactly, and he probably couldn't be arsed with the drama llama-ness of such a childish question, so said this answer because the question is so annoyingly attention seeking!

LeoDiCapricorn · 12/03/2023 19:03

It was a weird question though

MichelleScarn · 12/03/2023 19:03

sas90 · 12/03/2023 19:01

Your asking how old I am and your username is a bit of a p take

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Maybe take a pointer from @ChannelyourinnerElsa and let it go @sas90 !

AndTheSurveySays · 12/03/2023 19:03

Why did you ask the question?

ChannelyourinnerElsa · 12/03/2023 19:04

@LeoDiCapricorn I wonder if you’ll be accused of a piss taking username next?!

CalistoNoSolo · 12/03/2023 19:04

It's a weird question, but a weird reply too.

Original poster
sas90 · 12/03/2023 19:04

ChannelyourinnerElsa · 12/03/2023 19:02

How on earth is my username a piss take?! Or at least, any more than many others?

Just let it go

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HanSB · 12/03/2023 19:04

Well at first the word niece makes you think of a child but in this case it’s someone who is nearly the same age as you so I don’t think it’s unreasonable to be annoyed at his answer and the close relationship between them

LuciferRising · 12/03/2023 19:05

I imagine they are more like cousins who can be very close? Are you concerned about anything?

youshouldnthaveasked · 12/03/2023 19:05

He didn’t pick his niece over you. This is a completely hypothetical scenario.

Why did you ask this?

MissLucyLiu · 12/03/2023 19:05

If I was a hdmi cable will you still love me?

why do people ask stupid questions like this