Picked niece over me

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As the title says. We have been together for a few years and have 2 young children together. We have not had the best relationship obv due to having kids, pressures of working and everything being left to me. Anyway his niece who he gets on with and always texts her. Never like this with me. I asked tonight one of those stupid questions, if me and your niece was left on an island and you would only save one who would it be? And of course he said the niece. I think it hurt me more than I thought it would. My own fault for asking I suppose

From your replies, I’d agree with him - I’d save the niece too!

Agrees.

haha, my thinking exactly!

Yes @ChannelyourinnerElsa Let It Go, as we do in the jungle, the mighty jungle.

Jesus, how arsey are you?! You sound about 12.
8 years is not usually described as a few, btw.

My DB was asked who he'd save from a burning building. He replied his SC's, DC an DN. SIL wasn't happy at all. This cemented my thoughts of my SIL. Save the kids all the way and if you don't feel like that then there's a problem!

You sound like an idiot.
Poor DP

What a fucking bizarre question. The abnormal behaviour here is coming from you.

Another one for the neice

When I was 8 months pregnant, my friend asked her husband which of us he would save in a fire. He said me because I was pregnant and she didn't speak to him for an hour.

Normally best just not to ask questions like this.

You sound incredibly jealous. If your partner is the same age as you there is only 5 years between your partner and his niece. They are like brother and sister. My youngest brother and oldest niece are about the same age apart. This is the same as the totally normal relationship they have. If my brother’s partner behaved like you I would laugh in her face and strongly encourage him to end the relationship. But she wouldn’t, because she isn’t absolutely mad. As others have said play stupid games win stupid prizes

Totally jealous

His answer is a bit weird given her age. I don’t get it.

He's known her for 29 years and watched her grow from baby to child. It's a totally different kind of protective love then that of a romantic couple. The two two can't be compared, so don't ask. It's no threat to you at all.

😂, Totally agree

It doesn’t seem so weird when you read that the is spending more time with niece than. Op.

Why do people ask questions like this? Your friend sounds like she has issues.

So: you have two children with someone and have been in a relationship for a number of years.

And they say they would save their adult niece over you in a life or death situation.

So your partner, your life partner, who you are bringing up a family with together would effectively sacrifice the mother of his children and leave them motherless - to save his 29 yo niece?

And you are all perfectly cool with that and think that anyone who isn't is clearly just "jealous"?

Right-o.

I am done.

This is a totally weird thread. Bizarre OP and bizarre responses.

i don’t get why that’s upset you?

are you on a desert island? Or going to be soon? Just the 3 of you?

I think I would probably choose the niece too.

I agree!

Given everything you've said...yes, I think what he said is strange.

After 8 years and two kids, you and your kids should 100% be his priority.

I wonder if it's representative of your relationship at the moment. If you don't feel it's great, chances are he doesn't either.

Do you have any plans to improve it? Counselling? It sounds like there's maybe more to this than you've said. If your relationship was healthy, you wouldn't be wanting to ask who he prioritises and he sure as hell wouldn't be choosing his niece.

How old is he?

I don’t understand this at all.

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