Asked to keep it down in a restaurant.

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Pretty mortified tbh but I don’t think this was right or fair.

We were a family group of 9 on a large table celebrating a birthday. It was a very ‘naice‘ restaurant (£30 main courses type of place) but the music was really loud. We were probably quite noisy but not obnoxiously so, we were laughing at childhood stories. Not swearing or shouting or chucking food or arguing.

In the middle of our main courses a waiter came over and asked us to please keep it down as another table had complained.

It really put a shadow over the whole thing. We go out as a family a few times a year and have NEVER been asked to be quiet or had any kind of complaint so I am fairly confident we weren’t actually arseholes. It was a large table so we weren’t whispering to each other, but equally not yelling. Although the music got really loud as the evening went on so we probably were ‘loud’ but only so we could converse.

I have worked in hospitality for many years and I just wouldn’t have had this conversation as a waiter unless someone was really disturbing other guests. I’d have nodded and smiled at the complainers and given them a free drink.

So, oh wise Mners. YABU you lot were clearly obnoxious arseholes who should have been thrown out. Or YANBU this was an odd thing to tell a large party in a busy and very loud restaurant.

When you go to a restaurant you ought to expect some noise from other tables especially if they are a large group. I can remember going out as a group of 15 and the staff came and joined us as we were having so much fun! Nobody complained.

I think it wasn’t a very nice restaurant anyway if the music was that loud- you should have told him to turn the music down.

The music may have been turned up loud to drown out your noise. It does ruin everyone else’s enjoyment when large groups are being very jovial. Often people just don’t realise how loud they’re being. For the waiter to come over I should imagine you were being very loud but just didn’t realise. Stop worrying and forget about it now.

You should have said the music was too loud.