To be scared stiff of being pregnant at 45

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Long story short I have 2 older teens conceived through ivf. Very much thought we were done when I miraculously got pregnant naturally with our third at 43. It's been tough. We were used to having sleep again, more freedom etc and we've gone back to the start. Now I've discovered I'm pregnant again. Only now I'm 45, knackered with a 2 year old (plus the teens) & I'm very worried about coping all over again.

Practically a zombie thread 🤦🏼‍♀️

Hi. I just came across your thread and wondered how you are doing? I am in pretty much the same boat as you and trying to make my mind up

@Redbushteaforme wow was this a natural or IVF? You give me hope!

@Roundandround78 hope you are doing ok.🌸

I'm not sure how helpful it is for pps to say well I couldn't do it or wouldn't want to do it... that should have absolutely no bearing on what you want or what's right for you.

If you choose to go ahead you'll make it work and your toddler will have a sibling close in age which is lovely. The alternative does not come without it's own complications and is also a decision you have to be able to live with long term. But equally a 4th at 45 is clearly not what you imagined!

Sorry for not updating. I decided to go ahead with the pregnancy but then had a miscarriage at 7 weeks. Strangely I felt really sad about the miscarriage despite being in such turmoil about being pregnant and not wanting another baby. The epu were really helpful. Apparently it's really normal to feel very sad about pregnancy loss even when you didn't want the pregnancy in the first place. I hope you can make a decision that's right for you.

Oh love, I’m sorry to hear this. Thank you for updating us and take good care. 💐

oh no, I am sorry to hear this, I hope you are looking after yourself xx