About not moving on the train?

[TrainSitu]

I’ve recently had shoulder surgery but I am now out of a sling so I guess I don’t look injured. I’m sat at a table seat on the train to get back to my work area after visiting my dad.

I’ve got my backpack on the table and my big bag was put up on the top by a lovely man who offered to put it up. We get to the next station and it’s absolutely heaving and a mother with 3 kids gets on. Everyone files into seats and someone sits opposite me. She then approaches and asks if the other 2 seats are reserved. I said no and she could have them and sat the kids down. She then looks and me and say says “I’ve got 3 children who need a seat please can they have yours” I said no I’ve recently had shoulder surgery and still recovering so standing on a packed train would be too painful. She then continually said “ I have 3 kids though”

At this point I said “I’m not particularly bothered by the amount of kids you have but I will be staying in this seat as I need it too if you have any issues please go speak to the train conductor” The look she gave me could kill!

So AIBU for not moving? The original guy who put my bag in the overhead rack ended up telling her to leave me alone as she kept repeating about her 3 kids. I feel like a cow bag but a justified one!

NC for this so it can’t be linked to any previous threads.

My heart sinks when I see adults give their seats to children. WTAF is going on. Of course YAMBU.

if she kept saying "I have three children" to me, I'd say, well that's your choice!

What a silly woman...

I would have stayed put too.

It is not your problem if she has a large family. I don't see why a 10 year old can't stand up for a bit...

Why can nobody read? The children are sat by OP. The mother is elsewhere.

Oh bugger!

Reading comprehension suffering from strong pain meds (I also cannot stand at the moment!)

@KettrickenSmiled that woman probably would've still expected you to give up a seat for her

This!

I wouldn’t have moved either, I have a buggered knee. I would only have moved for someone who needed it more, eg a pregnant woman or an elderly person.

Also everyone knows that the first people in the carriage get the ouck if the seats, such as seats around a table, next to a socket and not next to the loo etc.

Pick

Then she could have an enlightening discussion with my shellaylee crutches, Chat!

As children, our parents always made us stand on public transport if adults needed a seat. I don't see any reason why that should have changed.

When I was a child, some of the buses actually displayed signs saying CHILDREN MUST NOT OCCUPY SEATS WHEN ADULTS ARE STANDING.

I would say all the kids look about 10 years + and all of them carrying football boots so no reason to need the seat per say.

If they're fit enough to play football then they're fit enough to stand on the train, unless they were injured - and presumably she would have said if they were.

It's per se, by the way, not per say.

What a mad woman.

no reason why 10 year olds can’t stand.

Injured or not I don't think I would have been moving anyway.

Once children are old enough not to be catapulted down the aisle when the train stops, they are the ones who should stand. At age 10+ like these ones, no way do they need a seat. My DC are all aged over 10, and I have told them that from now until they are old, they should be the ones offering seats.

But she's got a seat now...

I don’t understand why people think children should be given seats over adults. YANBU!

@Nanny0gg yes. After all 3 children were given seats.

I have before moved to another nearby seat so a group could all sit together, but I wasn't injured. I also wouldn't have done it if it had been demanded of me or because a women kept going on about how many kids she has. So YANBU in the slightest.

@GoodChat
Wow... do you specialise in unsolicited attacks?

It was a joke...

😂😂😂

There was no attack and jokes are supposed to be funny.

I found myself on a tube into London on a Friday night just before Christmas. I got on at an outlying station so easily got a seat, but by the time it got more central it was packed.
A woman with a kid of about 4 got on, there was one seat next to me. She sat down. So far so good. Child was clearly unhappy, loudly repeating how he wanted to sit. Mother looks at me expectantly. I return to reading an article on my phone. Child starts tantrumming. Again Mother looks at me. It's clear she thinks I should get up for the child. Not happening.
Eventually she huffs and pulls him on her knee.

Some people are odd.

Why does a child get priory on public transport?

Best tell Micheal McIntyre !