I’ve recently had shoulder surgery but I am now out of a sling so I guess I don’t look injured. I’m sat at a table seat on the train to get back to my work area after visiting my dad.
I’ve got my backpack on the table and my big bag was put up on the top by a lovely man who offered to put it up. We get to the next station and it’s absolutely heaving and a mother with 3 kids gets on. Everyone files into seats and someone sits opposite me. She then approaches and asks if the other 2 seats are reserved. I said no and she could have them and sat the kids down. She then looks and me and say says “I’ve got 3 children who need a seat please can they have yours” I said no I’ve recently had shoulder surgery and still recovering so standing on a packed train would be too painful. She then continually said “ I have 3 kids though”
At this point I said “I’m not particularly bothered by the amount of kids you have but I will be staying in this seat as I need it too if you have any issues please go speak to the train conductor” The look she gave me could kill!
So AIBU for not moving? The original guy who put my bag in the overhead rack ended up telling her to leave me alone as she kept repeating about her 3 kids. I feel like a cow bag but a justified one!
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AIBU?
About not moving on the train?
TrainSitu · 19/02/2023 16:13
Am I being unreasonable?
3522 votes. Final results.
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Reugny · 19/02/2023 18:47
She deleted the video just before it got picked up by the papers. 😂
Womencanlift · 19/02/2023 18:46
She sounds like that very entitled woman who made a video that went viral a few weeks ago moaning that no adults would stand up and let her precious boy who was about 5 sit in a seat and he was sitting on the floor
That woman got quite rightly ripped apart in the comments of the video
No mention of disability before anyone says that is an excuse
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LondonJax · 19/02/2023 18:55
If my mum was in a similar position when she took us three out, assuming there were two seats and she wanted us to be safer, I would sit down (aged 10) with my four year old sister on my lap and my eight year old sister on the other seat. A ten year old is more than capable of having another kid on their lap.
My mates and I used to sit on each others laps on crowded buses when we were teenagers and our high heeled feet hurt!
Some people are weird.
Womencanlift · 19/02/2023 19:06
Oh really? I heard about it when they were debating it on Loose Women 😂
Reugny · 19/02/2023 18:47
She deleted the video just before it got picked up by the papers. 😂
Womencanlift · 19/02/2023 18:46
She sounds like that very entitled woman who made a video that went viral a few weeks ago moaning that no adults would stand up and let her precious boy who was about 5 sit in a seat and he was sitting on the floor
That woman got quite rightly ripped apart in the comments of the video
No mention of disability before anyone says that is an excuse
WombatChocolate · 19/02/2023 18:42
Why didn’t she put she 3 kids in the 3 seats and stand herself?
DangerNoodles · 19/02/2023 19:12
No. You put them on your lap. That’s what my parents did. Have all the dc you like but in that scenario you should be the adult standing up if you want your dc to have a seat.
When my two were younger we would take up 2 seats, smallest on my lap, biggest on his own seat. On crowded buses someone would always stand to let the smallest sit down, we never even had to ask. I have never seen a very young child left standing and I would think it a bit weird if a mother chucked thier child off a seat so that I could sit down, most mums (rightly) put thier child's safety before an adult's comfort. I don't live anywhere near London though. A moving vehicle isn't a fair comparison with a little balance bike.
But the kids in the OP were 10 so between them they could have managed to all sit down in the 2 seats they had. I was just commenting on a few posters saying that they would make thier 4 year olds stand which to me is daft.
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Cosyblankets · 19/02/2023 19:42
If the three kids are too young to stand then they're small enough to share 2 seats between the three of them and the mother can stand.
Againstmachine · 19/02/2023 19:24
Yep I'm laughing at people saying children need to be seated in case the train brakes suddenly. Which literally rarely happens
PandasAreUseless · 19/02/2023 17:04
I'd never give up my seat for a child, and I don't have any injuries.
A pregnant woman? Yes. An elderly person unstable on their feet? Yes. But never a child.
And I'd try to avoid doing it at all if I'd had a long day at work!
ancientgran · 19/02/2023 19:53
Shall I stop strapping my GC into their car seats when I'm driving? I've been driving for 50 years and never been involved in an accident so they should be OK shouldn't they?
Againstmachine · 19/02/2023 19:24
Yep I'm laughing at people saying children need to be seated in case the train brakes suddenly. Which literally rarely happens
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TrainSitu · 19/02/2023 16:26
Haha spot on! He offered his seat up and let the kids sit down. She’s now about 5 rows behind me but thankfully can’t see her 😂
Luckily her children don’t seem to have picked her manners as they are very lovely lads.
Womencanlift · 19/02/2023 16:22
And did she ask the person that sat across from you to move or just you? Let me guess the person across from you was a man and she didn’t want to disturb him
YADNBU and she said a good response to her. Just because she has kids doesn’t allow her to be and entitled CF
Rummykitten · 19/02/2023 18:32
From National Rail: “Children under 5 years of age travel for free on most journeys but check with your train company to make sure. Please note, children under 5 who are travelling without a ticket may only occupy a seat that is not required by a fare-paying passenger.”
I agree that younger children could be injured if they lose their balance but they should be sitting on the lap of the adult they are travelling with. If the under 5s outnumber the parents / guardians they are travelling with (or if the parent has a strong preference for the child to have a seat), National Rail states that a child ticket with reserved seat can be purchased for 50% of the adult fare.
ancientgran · 19/02/2023 17:47
I think children under six are very vulnerable on a crowded train. If it stops suddenly they would go flying.
SmartHome · 19/02/2023 17:43
Jesus, I used to make my kids stand up to give adults a seat! And I had 3 under 6 at one point.
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