I’ve recently had shoulder surgery but I am now out of a sling so I guess I don’t look injured. I’m sat at a table seat on the train to get back to my work area after visiting my dad.
I’ve got my backpack on the table and my big bag was put up on the top by a lovely man who offered to put it up. We get to the next station and it’s absolutely heaving and a mother with 3 kids gets on. Everyone files into seats and someone sits opposite me. She then approaches and asks if the other 2 seats are reserved. I said no and she could have them and sat the kids down. She then looks and me and say says “I’ve got 3 children who need a seat please can they have yours” I said no I’ve recently had shoulder surgery and still recovering so standing on a packed train would be too painful. She then continually said “ I have 3 kids though”
At this point I said “I’m not particularly bothered by the amount of kids you have but I will be staying in this seat as I need it too if you have any issues please go speak to the train conductor” The look she gave me could kill!
So AIBU for not moving? The original guy who put my bag in the overhead rack ended up telling her to leave me alone as she kept repeating about her 3 kids. I feel like a cow bag but a justified one!
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AIBU?
About not moving on the train?
TrainSitu · 19/02/2023 16:13
Am I being unreasonable?
3522 votes. Final results.
POLLItsAllSoComplicated · 19/02/2023 17:14
DM would always hiss at us ‘get up so that lady can sit down’ if we had a seat anywhere, be it Drs surgery, bus or whatever.
Nowadays people act like their little darlings are so fragile they couldn’t possibly stand for 10 mins!
Starburst8 · 19/02/2023 16:23
I don't understand the mindset of people with children these days. Back in my day, kids stood and let the adults have the seats.
I have a 4 year old, if there isn't a seat for him, I will stand with him.
Moving adults for children is ridiculous in my opinion.
AdobeWanKenobi · 19/02/2023 17:33
I found myself on a tube into London on a Friday night just before Christmas. I got on at an outlying station so easily got a seat, but by the time it got more central it was packed.
A woman with a kid of about 4 got on, there was one seat next to me. She sat down. So far so good. Child was clearly unhappy, loudly repeating how he wanted to sit. Mother looks at me expectantly. I return to reading an article on my phone. Child starts tantrumming. Again Mother looks at me. It's clear she thinks I should get up for the child. Not happening.
Eventually she huffs and pulls him on her knee.
Some people are odd.
Tilllly · 19/02/2023 17:36
@GoodChat
Suggesting I don't read felt like an attack
And it made me smile, so I considered it a joke
DangerNoodles · 19/02/2023 17:36
I would give up my seat for a very young child if I wasn't injured like the Op and only there was no other option (like mum's lap). I think it's wierd that people wouldn't given small kids are more prone to injury if they were to fall or get squashed.
But these kids were 10!? My DS is 9 but he is bigger than most 10 year olds, he can still squidge up 3 to 2 seats with his brother and cousin, I even did it myself with friends as teenagers! So don't see why these kids didn't try to do the same.
Starburst8 · 19/02/2023 16:23
I don't understand the mindset of people with children these days. Back in my day, kids stood and let the adults have the seats.
I have a 4 year old, if there isn't a seat for him, I will stand with him.
Moving adults for children is ridiculous in my opinion.
Tilllly · 19/02/2023 17:36
@GoodChat
Suggesting I don't read felt like an attack
And it made me smile, so I considered it a joke
Maireas · 19/02/2023 17:14
That's what we were always taught, too. Now it seems to be the opposite way round.
Hbh17 · 19/02/2023 16:17
YANBU. As children, our parents always made us stand on public transport if adults needed a seat. I don't see any reason why that should have changed.
DangerNoodles · 19/02/2023 17:36
I would give up my seat for a very young child if I wasn't injured like the Op and only there was no other option (like mum's lap). I think it's wierd that people wouldn't given small kids are more prone to injury if they were to fall or get squashed.
But these kids were 10!? My DS is 9 but he is bigger than most 10 year olds, he can still squidge up 3 to 2 seats with his brother and cousin, I even did it myself with friends as teenagers! So don't see why these kids didn't try to do the same.
SmartHome · 19/02/2023 17:43
Jesus, I used to make my kids stand up to give adults a seat! And I had 3 under 6 at one point.
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MrsToothyBitch · 19/02/2023 17:49
Female socialisation is also totally a thing here! On a different busy train, with badge on, had been kindly found a seat on one of the fold outs. A guy who was standing put a sickly smile on his face a few stops later and asked me to move for a pregnant lady he had spotted who'd just got on. I said no- pointed to the visible badge and said why not ask the man next to me? The huge hearty bloke sat next to me. Huge bloke immediately moved and was happy to do so. It really pissed me off that despite the badge he asked me first. Presumably reckoned I'd be socially conditioned/moved by the idea of sisterhood/a softer touch to ask to help.
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