Not flushing the toilet at night

[ShillyShallySherbet]

DH always goes to the toilet (No.1) in the night and doesn’t flush. I’ve asked him repeatedly to please flush as it doesn’t wake me or the children up and I find it really disgusting to find wee in the toilet in the morning. He thinks I’m being unreasonable and says he does it for environmental reasons not just as it might wake people up. Me and the children rarely go to the toilet in the night but on the rare occasions we do I always flush after. He says this wakes him up and I’m being unreasonable. I don’t want to budge and think he’s being unreasonable, so I’m putting it to the vote.

YANBU not flushing the toilet immediately after you’ve been is disgusting
YABU flushing the toilet at night is inconsiderate/bad for the environment

I agree, I am lucky enough that it's rare for anyone in the house to get up for a wee in the night, but we don't take water to bed either (as we wouldn't wake up to drink it).

Can a heightened sense of smell be down to anything other than pregnancy? I really do think there is an issue because I am just so sensitive to bad smells at the moment unlike I ever used to be.

It doesn't stink unless the person has something wrong with them. You do know you don't have to look down the toilet when you lift the lid don't you?

Could be perimenopause, @ShillyShallySherbet , if you're of the right age for that. That can cause heightened sense of smell.

Applesandcarrots:

Urine is indeed sterile in healthy people. It is a solution filtered by the kidneys from the bloodstream. If you have any bugs in it, it needs treating!

Thanks, this is what I was afraid of.

Keep a bucket in the shower to catch excess water then pour some of that down the toilet at night. It's quieter, saves water and means the toilet doesn't get stained or smell.

We started doing that during our years of drought in Australia.

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4659483/#:~:text=Adult%20human%20urine%20is%20not,and%20disease%20in%20undiscovered%20ways.

www.sciencenews.org/blog/gory-details/urine-not-sterile-and-neither-rest-you

www.google.com/amp/s/www.popsci.com/urine-sterile-drinking-pee/%3famp

www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/turns-out-urine-isnt-actually-sterile-180954809/

And so on when you type into google "is urine sterile"

Applesandcarrots:
That's very interesting, thank you! How scientific thinking has changed in the last 10 years or so.
Also interesting to find (following links) that urine can be used to produce light, which may be useful in refugee camps:

https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2015/mar/05/university-installs-prototype-pee-power-toilet?CMP=ShareiOSAppp_Other

Don’t know why it’s environmental vandalism to flush at night but not during the day……makes zero sense.

Nope.

Not correct.

Asymptomatic bacteruria is only treated in specific population groups.

I am genuinely baffled by people who are so grossed out at some wee in a toilet in the morning. We don’t flush at night for a wee (en suite), if we were really bothered I would suggest making sure the lid was down after and first person up flushes.

@Applesandcarrots I never did until I hit the menopause. I absolutely need to drink water when I wake up with a hot flush and unfortunately that then means I need a pee.

That IS interesting!

It's advisable to flush as little as possible during the day too.

My house my rules..

I do quite agree with you that it’s likely someone will have an infection or whatever when their wee stinks, but is it a talk I want to have with a visiting guest, or stumble on as I attend to my own needs.

nope, with bells on.