Is it weird that my bf has gone for dinner with his boss?

[babypleasenow]

So we've been together 5 years or so. His boss came to his work today at the end of the day and he's just text to say they've gone to get some food at a Wetherspoons after work. She's single and knows about our relationship but I don't feel immediately worried by it, but should I? I don't know how to feel!

It depends on how usual that is in his workplace and if he makes a habit of going for food after work.

Yes I wouldn't like this atall! However I guess if there was anything shifty going on it's likely he would have lied and said he was getting food with a male colleague? So good he is being honest, but I wouldn't be comfortable if it were my husband x

I wouldn't be bothered yet, but maybe one to keep an eye on.

No i don't think it's an issue at all- it's his boss. I'm guessing if she was a man you would be fine with it? Occasionally you do have to socialise with your colleagues (annoyingly) x

Hmm difficult one. I don't think I'd be comfortable with my partner going to dinner with his boss, especially if its just them two but I dunno, it is just a witherspoons after all. Has he cheated in the past? Has he gave you reason not to trust him?

Well he's never done it before. With anyone!

Depends on industry etc I'd say. V normal in mine and a good thing!

Perfectly normal!!
I go out for a drink or for food with my male boss regularly.

My DH does the same with women he works with.

What’s his job?

Man goes for cheap food with colleague. Shocking.

She's single and knows about our relationship but I don't feel immediately worried by it, but should I? I don't know how to feel!

You've immediately started a thread about it on Mumsnet, so it would seem you are immediately worried about it.

Has he ever given you reason to worry about him before when it comes to other women?

True. He's never done anything to make me not trust him. Just find it weird that she doesn't have anyone else to spend her Friday night with lol.

This is totally normal in my industry I often eat out with colleagues, especially if they are not from the city I live in or if I am travelling to a city where they live

I think it's fine. Weatherspoons isn't romantic.

If she suggested it it might be hard for him to say no.

She may just have had a tough week and wanted a bit of company

Would be utterly normal where my DH works. They do a lot of networking and problem solving in social situations. I wouldn’t bat an eyelid if he said he was going for drinks or dinner after work.
It totally depends on the situation and the place where he works.
I regularly socialise with my boss also.
A positive relationship with work colleagues is a good thing in my book.

Dh's colleague sent him a message this evening saying "Hi handsome," followed by boring work stuff. (She's American and in the US). He was tickled and showed it to me immediately! I thought it was hilarious.

Look at it from her point of view. If she's away from home, she can either sit in a hotel room on her own, or she can go out to eat by herself and get hassled, or she can eat with one of her team and get a bit of work done.

I think on this occasion I'd let it slide, because it could just be a work thing. But if this started being a regular occurrence I would certainly be speaking to him about it. It's annoying because you don't want to seem like you're acting crazy, but I'd certainly feel the same way that you are. I think because he's not cheated in the past, and you trust him, let it slide once... xx

Yeah, I meet my boss for breakfast a lot. 🤷🏽‍♀️

He's a nice guy. I'm happily married with two young DC.

Wouldn't bother me. Normal for my partner to have lunch or dinner with colleagues.

If it was something shifty, he probably would have told you he was out with a mate.

I honestly couldn’t count the number of times I’ve gone for food or drinks after work with male colleagues. Over 25yrs, it’s at least 100.

Perfectly normal. And not because I didn’t have anyone else to spend Friday night with 🙄 but because we fancied post work drinks / food.

I'd decline a visit to Wetherspoons, especially with anyone at work, same or opposite sex.

I doubt if there is anything to be concerned about though. Just given the food they offer, make sure there is plenty of air freshener or ventilation in your bathroom!

Depends on industry. It's not unusual for me to be off gallivanting at least 2-3 nights a month with a colleague for "business".

When my boss visits from a distant office it's guaranteed to result in an evening out. It's his way of saying "thanks" and treating me to a nice meal.

I also take my team out regularly for the same reason.

Even if it's not normal it doesn't mean it's anything untoward, he's not lied to you about who or where he's going/with so I wouldn't worry.

It wouldn’t bother me even slightly. If you know enough for you to know she’s single then clearly they have a friendship and not just a working relationship - so it’s not that odd that he’d go for a meal with a friend. You clearly are worried about it.

Thank you for this message. I'm glad you understand what I mean! I won't go crazy about it because like others have said, most men would lie if it was anything dodge. She lives about an hour away from where he works. I will ask who initiated it but he did say she's paying lol