Is it weird that my bf has gone for dinner with his boss?

[babypleasenow]

So we've been together 5 years or so. His boss came to his work today at the end of the day and he's just text to say they've gone to get some food at a Wetherspoons after work. She's single and knows about our relationship but I don't feel immediately worried by it, but should I? I don't know how to feel!

Is she attractive? Is he?
How attractive they may respectively be to each other Is the most important variable in whether you have anything to worry about.
How much you do or don't trust him or what is normal for people on MN is irrelevant. People who are potentially attractive to each other extending a work relationship into their own time is one to watch. Not always an issue, but often enough to keep an eye on.

Good fucking christ, how are we supposed to have equality in the workplace when a woman boss can't go out for a meal with someone on her staff without another woman suspecting she's after him
This attitude is so disheartening for women trying to lead teams.....

Is she attractive? Is he?
How attractive they may respectively be to each other Is the most important variable in whether you have anything to worry about.

My god. What am I reading.

Absolute tosh

How on earth can trust be irrelevant? 😂

Also, I can completely understand why so many single women on Mumsnet get utterly pissed off with threads like this.

Her relationship status has nothing to do with this if you trust the man you chose to marry.

Going for a crappy burger at 6pm in a Wetherspoons is not the start of a great romance. She’s probably got a date at 8pm and he offered to help her fill the time.

Good lord I've been to breakfast/lunch/dinner with loads of my direct reports over the years. Some of whom were male. It never crossed my mind their partner might think I'd got designs on them. Only thing I'd be shocked about is the fact it's a 'spoons - how low rent 🤣

This is the glass ceiling in action. Any single woman with a career is predatory and out to get your man!

@godiva1999 agree

and many many people who have affairs are married OP.

Gosh. Ive been for cheap eats with loads of male (and female) colleagues over the years, whats weird about this?

I used to occasionally go for wine or drinks with my old boss. He was married with two young kids, he used to show me pictures of them. We would gossip about various colleagues, whinge about company politics, he'd give me career advice. Normal, no?

Exactly, it's not that she's trying to manage him or build a good working relationship. She MUST be trying to come on to him and STEEL this married man from the clutches of his wife.

OP you're acting misogynistic and jealous, just leave it.

She surely can't be trying to seduce him at 'spoons ?!?!?

^^ this. I'm in a management position now and this thread is making me despair.

This cannot possibly be a serious post.

Loyal husband accused of possible unfaithful behaviour because he goes to wetherspoons with his female boss.

I feel really sad for your husband that you have such a low opinion of him and trust him so little.

I go out for meals with my male friends/colleagues regularly and DH has stayed at a female colleagues house for a weekend as they no longer work together and are good mates. I got a lot of drunken pictures, not once did I suspect his infidelity.

Believe it or not men and women can socialise together without jumping into bed with each other. Maybe they just see each other as human beings that they enjoy the company of.

Well it would be normal in my industry so I wouldn’t care.

How sad some people are so insecure they take issue with this.

im female, so yes mainly my bosses are male. I have went for food with them before, I’d hate it if my husband thought it meant I was cheating. There is something almost sick about it, but more it deserves pitying.

They've gone to Wetherspoons, not a romantic dinner somewhere.

Jesus..

Same. I’m a lone female in a management position my industry. I often take out my male direct reports for drinks or dinner.

I think the OP has underlying issues as this really shouldn’t be a thing in this day and age.

How sad for you. I’m assuming he has history of cheating or you have insecurity /jealousy issues?

Omg. I have no words. How can we ever achieve equality when some people view female managers like this.

it is sickening.

I’d not be remotely bothered. Why would you be with someone if you think so little of them that you think their head would be turned by a Wetherspoons burger?

Because trusting your partner doesn't mean they won't cheat. Presumably every single person who has ever been cheated on trusted their spouse, or they wouldn't have married them. Its touted on these threads as a magic shield, you need to TRUST him!!! Trusting or not has no impact on that person's behaviour.

True though, all those ‘attractive people’ are always shagging about and having clandestine affairs 😂

If people are going to cheat, stopping them from having a crap burger and chips with their boss isn’t going to make a jot of difference. I could be on a yacht with a naked hunk, having the finest oysters and champagne and wouldn’t be tempted.

Sorry to those of you who think I'm being misogynistic. That was never my intentions. I asked because I didn't know if this was usual for others as I'm still in my mid twenties. I was really hurt in my early twenties because it was revealed that my dad was having an affair with a woman from work shortly after my brother passed, because he said my mum wasn't giving him enough love. It effects my own relationship and skewed my view on men and what people are capable of. I trust my boyfriend but sometimes people do terrible things and I'm working on not letting that ruin my own happiness.

So maybe I am insecure. But I've had therapy, just don't have a lot of people who I can confide in.

Thanks to those who've left their opinion without being catty - I appreciate I have been catty towards this woman also. I won't deny that! Sometimes immaturity does get the better of us all!