Unwanted gym membership gift from DH, AIBU to be angry?

[bazthecat123]

This Christmas, my DH gifted me a very expensive gym membership for 12 months. I am very fit and active, but simply have no time to go to the gym; DH knows this. Despite being considerably overweight himself, DH has been making pointed comments about my weight for some time (I have a BMI of 20). AIBU to be pissed off?

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You've a bmi of 20 and he's making digs about your weight

What a tosser. Do not have children with him. He's a tosser. You know this.
When people show you who they are, believe them.

Why are you trying to procreate with someone you actively dislike?

No, the OP is saying the DP is fat shaming her.

Are you new here? Very naive if not.

Nope, not new and not naïve. I assumed you were new or misread the OP by the "teeny tiny" comment.

Nope. Just been head long enough to look at posts like this with suspicion.look at the language, look at her other thread also about weight. 👀

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Oh dear this is now trending on The Mirror.

I am taking her at her word. I am not going to look at other threads, if you have an issue with what OP has posted then report the thread to MN.

Does it have a nice pool ,jacuzzi ,sauna ??
If so use it for this

I meant when he is in charge of the house ...I mean he'd want you to get his moneys worth !?!?

People in relationships are supposed to like each other. It’s a bog-standard, basic tenet of a functioning relationship.

But the OP wants to try to conceive with this loser, instead of ditching him and moving on?

And I have zero doubt that her depression would be immeasurably impacted for the better if she shed this deadweight from her life.

TTC? Seriously?

Thanks Dr.

You’re welcome.

Sorry that needed explaining.

I never report. I think people should be shown for what they are.

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With a BMI of 20, he is abusing you by calling you fat.

@ButterBastardBeans it's this one. Which I don't think is the same thing at all - I have a peloton and they never, ever mention weight in any of the classes or online. It's the least problematic exercise I've done and I've had an ED before. They talk about fitness, improving your mental health, goals, being strong etc

Pelo22 Thanks for that.

All your comments have been really helpful, thank you. I tried to have a conversation with him about it. He obviously doesn’t believe that I’m overweight, but he wouldn’t want me to get any bigger.

“Any bigger” - But you’re not big OP!

Also if you are trying for a baby for most woman it is inevitable you will be bigger after the birth. If he is saying stuff like this now I would be seriously rethinking having children with him. He sounds awful.

He sounds really unpleasant op - why are you with him?

Sometimes after marriage we realise the person isn't who we thought they were, or doesn't make us happy. Don't sleepwalk into having kids with him. Consider whether this is really the man you deserve - I think it's highly unlikely

Did you bring up the fact he's put on 6 stone and doesn't brush his teeth?!

You are very ungrateful tbh, next year I hope he buys you nothing, may teach you to be a bit more grateful

This with bells on. Completely unrealistic ideals about a women’s body.