Unwanted gym membership gift from DH, AIBU to be angry?

[bazthecat123]

This Christmas, my DH gifted me a very expensive gym membership for 12 months. I am very fit and active, but simply have no time to go to the gym; DH knows this. Despite being considerably overweight himself, DH has been making pointed comments about my weight for some time (I have a BMI of 20). AIBU to be pissed off?

Why the hell are you with this awful man?

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You still want children with this idiot? No just no I can see the ‘your fat’ to the children as they hit puberty now as for pregnancy he’ll undermine your happiness at every turn run and don’t look back.

Does the hotel have a spa? Could you get the voucher converted to treatments?

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@LaurieFairyCake He often ‘jokingly’ prods my stomach, and calls me a Tellytubby. He also follows a lot of skinny women on instagram.

Where’s his gym membership? You could go together.

Why were you ttc with someone you hold in such complete contempt? The way you describe him is properly hateful.

Didn't you post about the fact that you don't fancy him at all last week and everyone, again, told you to run away? What's the point of posting?

Wow. I would think that this would be more of an issue for me. It should not need to be said that people should try to be as healthy as possible when ttc.

@arethereanyleftatall I don’t know tbh. I suffer with depression and just don’t know which way to turn.

Why on earth are you still with him? And why the hell are you planning to have children with him?

Maybe if you get rid of him, your depression will lift.

Go to the gym, sit in the pool and sauna and enjoy the peace.
Invent a hot guy and tell develop mentionitis about Dave from the gym. ‘By god I don’t know how Dave gets those abs. Dave is gonna help me with my training. God Dave is just so rich’ etc. Or better still get an actual Dave down the gym 😀 🤷‍♀️

Don't have kids with this git. Don't waste 2023 on him either.

Exactly what I was going to say, staying with him is doing your mental health no favours at all @bazthecat123

You sound like you don’t like this man. Maybe dump him to the kerbside and find yourself a fit replacement at this new gym.

Please don’t have a child with him, put that to one side for now. Why has he bought you a gym membership? Does he genuinely think you need to tone up/lose weight? Is he blind? Presumably you have mentioned his weight problems?

Same. I’m sur you’ll feel much lighter once you’ve binned him off. I don’t like what I’m hearing right now about this man at all. He has no respect for you or women in general.

Why is she with someone who prods her stomach, calls her a TellyTubby and gives her a gym membership so she can be even thinner than a BMI of 20 and whom frankly sounds bloody awful to her? is the question I think you meant to ask

I'd get rid of this man and find someone to have children with who is actually nice to you. If children are a priority to you, you are wasting your time here.

You don't have to use the gym. Just use it for swimming and spa. You usually get a couple of free friend passes a month. So you could go with a friend.

I presume they are linked. He thinks she is gaining weight so needs to go to the gym (in his mind, not in reality).

This is bloody perfect. On more than one level - can you do this OP?

He's so obviously deflecting - hence his stupid remarks to you about "weight" - it's to keep you undermined so he can at least feel he can control you, if not his own health goals.