Anyone just done with life at middle age

[HadEnoughNow1]

Anyone else feel in their forties feel they’ve just had enough of life? I feel it’s all such an effort for such a mediocre life. Constant drudgery and daily grind for the occasional joy such as holidays. If I was told tomorrow I only have 6 months to live I think I’d feel relieved.

I feel so sad reading this thread. I do feel it's a collective mental health issue after COVID and twelve years of Tories destroying the social contract.

Housing scarcity has a lot to answer for. I agree with you about older generations, myself included even though we mostly missed the boat housing wise, we did eventually get a modest house after years of flat dwelling.

Security of tenure is a big issue, as are costs.

I think it's horrific but why do they keep getting voted in? 😩

However, even in the circumstances I think there are ways to stay positive and be grateful. I'm not saying anyone should have to do this, just that it's possible so don't lose hope. ❤️🥺

I agree with PP’s that it’s the sheer drudgery of everyday life that gets many people down in their 40’s and 50’s. I’ve got teenagers, an elderly parent who needs care and support, an Ok job, a side business I run with DH ( that I’ve moaned about on other threads!)-I feel like I’m on a a hamster wheel sometimes!

I’ve started saying to myself that “this too shall pass,”because it will. My parent won’t be with us forever so I need to do the best I can while he is; my teens will be adults in a few years; work-wise, DH and I may need to make some changes! So life will be different again in 10 years, less drudgery and hopefully more fun.

I think you're getting all bent out of shape about an article in The Telegraph.

Do you think 'boomers' never struggled with housing costs? I've already given you the mortgage rates for the 70's, they were horrendous.
In the 70's few building societies would give a mortgage to a single woman unless they could have a male guarantor. So no matter how much a woman earned, she was deemed to be too stupid to manage her own money unless a man supervised it.*

^The Divorce Reform Act (1969) was passed and enabled divorce to become easier for unhappy couples to access. This was a revolutionary piece of legislation as it enabled a 'no fault' divorce to be requested. This meant that an individual did not need grounds, such as adultery or abandonment, in order to get divorced.
Until then women could be 'trapped' with abusive husbands.
In the 1970s there was a rush to the divorce courts, lead mainly by women.*

That's far from the whole story isn't it. Almost disingenuous really. Poor taste for you to have posted on this thread if you've read even a portion of posts here.
Derail not appreciated.

I think it’s the sheer drudgery, I have a toddler and it’s just relentless. I get up and do the same thing every morning, my evenings all look the same I fight the same battles everyday, I eat the same foods (toddler has very narrow idea of what dinner should be). I’m bored and tired I seem to spend all my energy on other people. I’m lucky in many respects but fuck me if most days aren’t just a grind. The idea it’s the boomers fault isn’t true in my case frankly, I have no mortgage we are a high income family I just feel like I’m on a bloody hamster wheel. Think it’s either peri or the human condition.

I think when you are a bit younger often there are possibilities and dreams and once you settle into your 40’s you feel like theres a path laid out in stone infront of you and you don’t like the look of it. I’ve started raking over the choices I’ve made and can’t help but to feel I wish I had made different ones.

@Rinatinabina The idea it’s the boomers fault isn’t true in my case frankly,

Well, thank you for not laying all the ills of the UK at the doorstep of myself and my peers.

And no, I'm not being sarcastic.

I’ve got two kids with complex specialist needs and know that the end of my 40s will mean going back to full time caring. We live in an area that makes me very unhappy and I’m unsure if my husband will ever move. But I need to live someone I like to actually cope with how crappy life is.

I feel the same. My life day to day is ok but all seems so pointless. Need to grab the future by the scruff of the neck

I felt a bit like this when I worked in an office tbh. I don't anymore.

Rinatinabina agree re dreams and possibilities. They make all the difference I am going to try to come up with some new ones for 2023.

I’ve started raking over the choices I’ve made and can’t help but to feel I wish I had made different ones.

@Rinatinabina Yes, sone of my choices have been really stupid. But, I’m forcing myself to accept that I made them and there’s no point regretting them now, it won’t make any difference. All we can do is look forwards and learn from our mistakes.

Re. Your toddler. Personally, I found that parenting gets more interesting once they’re about five and more open to new things. Thx you have some great years until they hit 13.🤣. Mine are now 17 and 15 so we’re emerging from the illogical early teen years back into rational thought -DS isn’t quite there, but his big sister tells him not to be so daft/grumpy and he listens to her. At 17, DD is a delight. Hang in there!

Again Poor taste to be posting like that on a thread like this.

I didn't say those weren't facts, but not the whole picture or to be compared, hence disingenuous.

Shameful to be derailing like this. Please stop.

@janneites Shameful to be derailing like this. Please stop.

Please stop censoring free speech and opinions, you aren't a mod.

I nursed my mil through a horrific cancer death early this year that we’re left to fester during lockdowns. Trust me, you do not want to do this to yourself. It was hell on Earth.

Agree @DomesticShortHair I've reported a couple of posts.

I understand, I’m sure (without for one moment pretending to know what you all went through) that it was horrendous. I wouldn’t let that end game play out, for that reason alone.

My plan too, to be honest. I won’t let this happen to myself.