Anyone just done with life at middle age

[HadEnoughNow1]

Anyone else feel in their forties feel they’ve just had enough of life? I feel it’s all such an effort for such a mediocre life. Constant drudgery and daily grind for the occasional joy such as holidays. If I was told tomorrow I only have 6 months to live I think I’d feel relieved.

This is how life becomes. It's hard work, disappointing and exhausting.

yanbu

It’s relentless domestic drudgery. Constant anxiety. Crippling nostalgia.

Well, I said upthread that I understand the sheer drudgery of being in your 40’s and 50’s, but my doctor’s appointment today has given me a good kick up the backside.

Even life’s drudgery seems Ok when it might be taken away. You might want to rethink the relief you think you’d feel if you were given six months to live, OP. I don’t think you’d feel relief, I think you’d want many more months and years if death stared you in the face. That’s how I’m feeling anyway-I’m terrified of my next appointment in case it turns out that I don’t have a few years of drudgery left!

I get all of this, and at times I feel the same. Lone parent too which makes me terrified of when my DC leave home.

Then I think of my grandparents. They had a little holiday every year to Blackpool, a tiny house, they didn’t have much to look forward to.

Yet they were content. My Grandpa took every opportunity to learn new things and kept his brain active well into his nineties. My grandma has crippling arthritis but on they went.

Were people more content with their lot at that time? Is social media and our resulting expectations to blame?

Happiness = expectations / experiences

Now I try to change my mindset. What have I done today or yesterday that I’m proud of, that was good? I think we have to try to create these moments.

I do know it’s hard though. I see no way that I will ever be financially well off and with a lovely long term DP, for example, but I try to focus on what’s good.

This is no way a judgement on anyone else’s feelings by the way.

an old post but i feel the same,im 56 and it would not bother me if i got told i had 6 months to go either-a daily struggle....i feel for you.